Bully "popular teacher

[Anonymous]

years?

I suppose your child is one F-ed up mess now, right?

all b/c of "bully popular teacher" . . .

There are people who specialize in obsessive-compulsive disorders.

Anonymous wrote:My child had a terrible teacher in a prior grade. It was like the mean girl teaching the kids. Teacher also had kids in the school. If you were one of her friends your child did great if not your child could be targeted. My DC came crying home a lot because of this teacher. Teacher also made outlandish claims about child being behind not supported anywhere else (prior teachers, test scores). Teacher also nitpicked DC's tests and would mark down tests a full letter over stupid stuff like not circling answers neatly enough, forgetting to put a test ID number on test. DC was singled out a lot. No other teacher has had problems with DC. It has been years and I still am steamed everytime I think about said teacher.

[Anonymous]

No but it is a painful experience that comes up on occasion. I.E. I saw the teacher today and when DC mentions teacher's name the emotions come back to some extent. PP Have you ever had a bad experience that was difficult to get over or are you just tough as nails?
For her it was so bad she was crying in the bathroom a handful of times that year and a couple of times in class. Not a personality problem as she hasn't had these experiences before or since.
Bullying goes go on because people marginalize the feelings of the victims. Often the victims are made to feel like they did something wrong and are hushed into silence. I'm upset that the teacher is still at the school but the teacher is careful who teacher targets.

[Anonymous]

No but it is a painful experience that comes up on occasion. I.E. I saw the teacher today and when DC mentions teacher's name the emotions come back to some extent. PP Have you ever had a bad experience that was difficult to get over or are you just tough as nails?
For her it was so bad she was crying in the bathroom a handful of times that year and a couple of times in class. Not a personality problem as she hasn't had these experiences before or since.
Bullying goes go on because people marginalize the feelings of the victims. Often the victims are made to feel like they did something wrong and are hushed into silence. I'm upset that the teacher is still at the school but the teacher is careful who teacher targets.

OP, your use of the word "bully" is not really appropriate here and I think part of your problem is that you are using your identification with victims of bullying to justify your continued obsession with a long ago experience with what sounds like a teacher with a bad attitude. I think you might need to talk to a professional to sort out why you can't get over this experience, especially after all this time. It's really pretty extreme. Most kids have a year with a teacher they don't like, or one they think is mean to them, and yes, they cry a handful of times in the bathroom. That's unfortunate, but it happens. Not every teacher is a great match for every kid. Not every kid likes their teacher. Not every teacher is nice or particularly friendly. Just like life, kids get through it and move one. Your continued focus on the employment of a teacher your child had a bad experience with is not normal. Evidently, she is a good teacher or she still wouldn't be there. You need to let this go and perhaps a professional can help you do that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just wondering if other parents have had similar experiences with a teacher or was my DC very unlucky?

No, the real question is why are you still harping about this years later? It's done. It sucked and it happened. Let it go. Every minute you spend being mad about it is another minute you DON'T spend doing something nice for yourself or your family.

+10

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

No but it is a painful experience that comes up on occasion. I.E. I saw the teacher today and when DC mentions teacher's name the emotions come back to some extent. PP Have you ever had a bad experience that was difficult to get over or are you just tough as nails?
For her it was so bad she was crying in the bathroom a handful of times that year and a couple of times in class. Not a personality problem as she hasn't had these experiences before or since.
Bullying goes go on because people marginalize the feelings of the victims. Often the victims are made to feel like they did something wrong and are hushed into silence. I'm upset that the teacher is still at the school but the teacher is careful who teacher targets.

OP, your use of the word "bully" is not really appropriate here and I think part of your problem is that you are using your identification with victims of bullying to justify your continued obsession with a long ago experience with what sounds like a teacher with a bad attitude. I think you might need to talk to a professional to sort out why you can't get over this experience, especially after all this time. It's really pretty extreme. Most kids have a year with a teacher they don't like, or one they think is mean to them, and yes, they cry a handful of times in the bathroom. That's unfortunate, but it happens. Not every teacher is a great match for every kid. Not every kid likes their teacher. Not every teacher is nice or particularly friendly. Just like life, kids get through it and move one. Your continued focus on the employment of a teacher your child had a bad experience with is not normal. Evidently, she is a good teacher or she still wouldn't be there. You need to let this go and perhaps a professional can help you do that.

You are amazing. You can diagnose me based on a couple of postings. You also can diagnose DC's obviously amazing teacher. We all know teachers never bully students and bad teachers are always fired. Thanks so much for your support.

[Anonymous]

You are amazing. You can diagnose me based on a couple of postings. You also can diagnose DC's obviously amazing teacher. We all know teachers never bully students and bad teachers are always fired. Thanks so much for your support.

Try working on your reading comprehension.

1. No one diagnosed you. Several posters recommend you get some help for insight into your self described obsession.

2. No one diagnosed your DC's teacher. The fact that she still has a job says the issue is not as black and white as you wish.

3. You have received support on this thread in the form of advice that you learn to get past this because it's over. It's done. It's not even a problem, except in your head.

Get over it.

[Anonymous]

Try working on your reading comprehension.

Irony +1000.

[Anonymous]

Stop! I do not understand why people go out of their way to be so mean on DCUM. OP needed a place to vent and have her back patted a little. Why the hostility? No one is making you read this. This did not happen 25 yrs ago; it was a few years ago as DC is still in the school w/petty, nasty teacher. Something was brought to OP attention last night that brought the issues freshly to her mind.

OP if my kid was crying and being made to feel miserable everyday, by someone with the responsibly to make him feel safe, confident and to help him grow, I know I wouldn't be over that yet.

[Anonymous]

PP Thank you for the support. The irony of the situation was that I had heard bad things about bully teacher before DC had said teacher and I remember thinking that the other parents were overreacting. I wasn't too worried when DC was assigned bully until my DC became the favorite target. My DC had often been given the perceived tougher/ more academically demanding teacher and had always flourished. I wasn't prepared for someone who acted like a queen bee. I wish I could give specifics but it would give me away. These were so jaw dropping events before I talked with the head the first time that head couldn't talk way out of them except to stay my concerns would be addressed. After I spoke with the head the first time, bully teacher became more clever in bullying my DC. Yes I needed to vent as DC had a rough night that brought back the emotions of that year and I also was curious how many others faced situations like DC. This isn't about a teacher that shows favorites and does stupid things. I'll overlook a lot. In this case, It was nasty teacher who didn't like DC and did things that were completely out of line. After the first meeting with the head, other events were spun so they didn't seem to bad. I might have not believed DC about one of them if a friend of mine whose child isn't a friend of my child ( different genders) called me and told me about the incident which was verbatum what my DC told me. It was so bad DC stopped telling me what was happening in school because I think she was worried about retaliation from the teacher and then I started hearing more from other parents. Another parent whose child was targeted had the counseler and head sit in the class. I don't say anything at school about said teacher anymore unless directly asked but others are having trouble with said teacher. I just know it will be a cold day in hell before my kids ever have bully teacher ever again.