Bully "popular teacher
![[Post New]](/jforum/templates/default/images/icon_minipost_new.gif){kind=icon}
Anonymous
| My child had a terrible teacher in a prior grade. It was like the mean girl teaching the kids. Teacher also had kids in the school. If you were one of her friends your child did great if not your child could be targeted. My DC came crying home a lot because of this teacher. Teacher also made outlandish claims about child being behind not supported anywhere else (prior teachers, test scores). Teacher also nitpicked DC's tests and would mark down tests a full letter over stupid stuff like not circling answers neatly enough, forgetting to put a test ID number on test. DC was singled out a lot. No other teacher has had problems with DC. It has been years and I still am steamed everytime I think about said teacher. |
Anonymous
| So... what do you want? |
Anonymous
| Just wondering if other parents have had similar experiences with a teacher or was my DC very unlucky? |
Anonymous
No, the real question is why are you still harping about this years later? It's done. It sucked and it happened. Let it go. Every minute you spend being mad about it is another minute you DON'T spend doing something nice for yourself or your family. |
Anonymous
|
Yes. Teachers are human and sometime they just don't like a kid. It sucks.
Some teachers only like girls and boys that act like girls. Some teachers hate athletic kids because they liken them to jocks/bullies from their childhood. Some teachers hate that kids have IEPs because it is more work, they are old school and don't think it is necessary and they are just plain mean. Most teachers are wonderful but not 100%, it is bad for good teachers but there is just so much a principal can do. |
Anonymous
|
And you waited to vent this to DCUM instead of getting up in that bitch's business because...?
Yes, teachers are human. They also have a job to do, and need to be adult enough to put their childhood traumas behind them and do their job. Most schools have a zero-tolerance policy toward bullying. I'd assume that includes teachers, too. Next time, do something. |
Anonymous
| I have experienced this with my DD's teacher before and it was a horrible year. The problem I had was that she never did anything I could actually call her into the office over but it was very clear she just did not like certain kids and had a "way" of making them feel terrible. I can assure you what goes around comes around and her kid will have to encounter a teacher like herself one day or worse. |
Anonymous
|
My DC had a bully teacher. The info we got from the head was depressing. I feel your pain. It is not acceptable and should not happen! You should go to the head with your experiences. The only way to change this situation is to have families complain. YOu would be shocked at how many people say nothing and this will continue.
|
Anonymous
|
At the end of the day, it may not even be that a teacher is inherently evil, but sometimes there is a real mismatch between teacher and student. If this was an older student (middle school up) where they a) only have to deal with the teacher for an hour a day, and b) they need to start learning to deal with difficult people as part of growing up I think I would encourage my kid to find ways to handle the situation on their own. For elementary age kids, when the student is spending the bulk of their day with the teacher, and they are younger, it's my job as a parent to be their advocate. If your description is accurate, I would have been documenting each and every instance of this. I would have had meetings with the teacher, followed up with meetings with the principal. I would not have stopped until there was a resolution. I would politely but firmly keep up the meetings and communication with the administration until this was resolved, either by improvement in the teacher's behavior toward my child or a transfer to another class. |
Anonymous
| OP here. I did go to the head several times. I know at least three other parents who went to the head. I knew my DC was stuck as there would have been a revolt among other parents if DC was removed so I knew I had to act extremely diplomatically. When I went to the head, teacher I felt took it out of my child but hard to prove. Dc's class was slightly smaller as kids moved/transferred to other schools that year. What happened to the bully? To the best of my knowledge nothing. The bully still teaches there and my DC on occasion will bring up something that happened that year (like last night). Like one PP mentioned, the emotional stuff sounded petty if you were hearing it second hand and didn't know the teacher was a bully. I'm sure the teacher is sweet as pie to the head. |
Anonymous
| There would have been a revolt among the parents if you moved your DC to another class? Are you sure you're that important? |
Anonymous
| I'm saying quite the opposite. Other parents were complaining also. So why should be my child get special treatment and be allowed to move? |
Anonymous
| My son had a teacher that didn't like or get boys. She recently left to give birth to her child, a boy! Ha. |
Anonymous
|
So, OP, you thought that years later starting a thread specifically to bash teachers on DCUM was a good way to deal with your frustration?
Please go away and get over it. |
Anonymous
Well, it is perfectly normal for some teachers to dislike some of the kids. That's human nature. But as professionals they should still treat all children the same. Teachers who can't behave professionally toward all children should be reported to the administration, and as a parent you should call them on it. I did just that, and I had my child moved to a different class. POOF! Problem solved. |