Condo neighbor relations

[Anonymous]

We live in a condo building in another part of DC and while many of them are nice, some of the seniors can be quite annoying. There is a clique" of elderly people who hang out in the lobby all afternoon waiting for the mail, gossiping with each other and tattling to management. I have had an occasional bad encounter with some of them. Without going into details, in my building it's not racism or ageism, they really just do not like outsiders period.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:They probably think you are the nanny and that therefore, its OK to be rude to you.

This thought sincerely never occurred to me until now. But you are probably right.

13:51 This is definitely possible and was my first thought, and it is even more reason why you should go to condo meetings. Don't make excuses. It is your responsibility as a home owner to go, especially as you are learning the building. Either I or my husband have been on the board of our building (sometimes president) during my child's whole life (five years). I understand the timing implications, as we both work full-time and have extremely busy lives also, but things won't change unless you are part of the solution.

Yeah sounds like its her fault since OP can't/won't go to meetings.

Fuck them. Theyre old and will probably die soon enough anyway. I hate racists.

[Anonymous]

There are a few grumpies in my condo building, but they've gotten better over time. We rent, so we're not invited to buildig meetings, which is unfortunate. I'm sure they will get used to your presence over time, and they may be nicer as your kid ages--old people seem to be annoyed by toddlers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They probably think you are the nanny and that therefore, its OK to be rude to you.

This thought sincerely never occurred to me until now. But you are probably right.

13:51 This is definitely possible and was my first thought, and it is even more reason why you should go to condo meetings. Don't make excuses. It is your responsibility as a home owner to go, especially as you are learning the building. Either I or my husband have been on the board of our building (sometimes president) during my child's whole life (five years). I understand the timing implications, as we both work full-time and have extremely busy lives also, but things won't change unless you are part of the solution.

Yeah sounds like its her fault since OP can't/won't go to meetings.

Fuck them. Theyre old and will probably die soon enough anyway. I hate racists.

I never said it was her fault. Obviously, their behavior is not okay. I believe I insinuated they were batshit crazy before, in fact. However, that doesn't help anyone. There is no way you will get them to just change biases wholesale at this point. And, OP has a problem. The way to address it is to be be a proactively good neighbor to everyone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:there are a ton of old, entitled assholes in DC

+10000000000000000

[Anonymous]

Is your baby loud?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:In my condo a woman yelled at me for taking her laundry out of the communal dryer because it still had time. I waited for 10 minutes to move it and then folded her clothes. I think she might have been crazy.

So, they're probably everywhere.

I hate people who take out my laundry. She was only 10 minutes late, not as she left it there for hours.

Then get your damn laundry out of the COMMUNITY dryer. Or buy your OWN dryer and keep your clothes in it until the cows come home.

The only way to get people to not take our your laundry? STOP LEAVING IT IN THE MACHINE.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In my condo a woman yelled at me for taking her laundry out of the communal dryer because it still had time. I waited for 10 minutes to move it and then folded her clothes. I think she might have been crazy.

So, they're probably everywhere.

You took out her laundry while the dryer was still running/ had time?

You sound rude, self-centered, and unduly entitled.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is your baby loud?

Op here. Not really? He sleeps through the night and we are out the door by 9, back by 12 for his nap,'back out by 2:30 when he wakes up. We return by 5 and he's in bed by 7, up by 8. There is usually no extended crying or anything. Also we are on the first floor, so he can't be bothering anyone by his constant running around. Really we are outside almost all the time, and he is in his stroller when we are in the common areas.

I am sort of miffed that I have to "build a relationship" with these people to be treated decently. I'm not asking for much. I don't even need some sort of smile or acknowledgement tht I exist. They are just openly aggressive towards me and my child for seemingly no reason at all.

Thanks for the responses. I'm glad I'm not the only one. What's with these people??

[Anonymous]

CL, that you?

[Anonymous]

Welcome to D.C., OP. Ageism or racism, as PP said - or both. Some people genuinely hate others who are more (fill in the blank) than them. Some see this as entitlement. I see this as a HUGE mistake on their part.

If they are old crotchety women, they do NOT like fertile women anywhere within a million mile radius. Your mere presence is ruining their day and possibly more. It took me a long time to accept that there are some that really, truly are that miserable in their own life and simply HAVE to announce it to the world every chance they get.

You are too nice. Grow a thicker skin and decide they don't exist.

They would get one chance if it were me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:CL, that you?

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[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:CL, that you?

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Wondering if OP is Chipotle Lady. She posted about some strange neighbor stuff before.

[Anonymous]

I agree racism. They really probably assume you are the nanny and they can't be bothered. I know it's a pain to go to the meetings, but I agree with the go to the meeting, bring home baked cookies, introduce yourself. I don't think you necessarily have to volunteer for anything, but at least you just make people's acquaintance. I don't think this is much different than what those of us have had to do when we are the new (only younger w/ kids, only white) family moving into a neighborhood. When we moved to our neighborhood 10+ years ago, this was us. I made sure to always say hi and smile nicely and introduce myself, etc. to all the long-time neighbors. I was super careful not to park inappropriately, accidentally fail to say hi, do anything that could be remotely annoying. We have great relationships with all but one rude woman (rude is rude) and actually most have died or moved on to nursing homes so we don't have the youngest/only kids on the street anymore (nor are we the only white family anymore, but that's no big deal one way or another). It's great having more kids on the block and also great having the old timers. I'm busy, but I enjoy hearing about the neighborhood back in the day or just about my neighbor's recent surgery or grandkids or whatever. It's great to be part of the group, but it did take some work.

[Anonymous]

OP, you don't have to be up their posterior. I don't agree with you making cookies. They probably won't eat them and will act like you are trying to poison them, lets be realistic. They're batsh&t crazy. Let them be crazy, just don't be part of it.

Go to the association meetings. Introduce yourself. Ignore, ignore, ignore their atrocities and passive aggressive BS. Their problem, not yours. Remember that.

They will try to shoot you down and beat you to their level, as someone has done to them. They will try to insult you. I am extremely familiar with this type - extremely predictable. Be more street smart than they are. This does not mean you have to do anything, but know and be one step ahead of them.

They are predictable and don't have to be in your world. Certainly you have non racist friends who think more like you?

I would not go out of my way for them, thats just me.