splitting costs w/ spouse - we earn very different amounts
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Anonymous
| I'm in a similar boat. Husband makes about 5x my salary; he contributes slightly more than I to joint account - which is for household expenses and otherwise our money is separate. So I'm interested in responses as well. |
Anonymous
| Yikes! I don't get the paying household expenses 50% or even in proportion to your income. We mingle our money and I am the breadwinner (wife). I know and accept that more of my money is used for our expenses. I don't think of it as "my" money at all. It is "our" money used to benefit "our" family. |
Anonymous
| Just want to say that this is a relationship issue and not money/finance issue. If you don't have joint accounts you should be contributing in proportion to income. |
Anonymous
| I make about 7 times my wife. We basically have one major account and everything goes in it. To each accordinf to need. Besides, as a middle aged man i dont teally want anything and primarily spend money ony family. Other than odds and ends for minor hobbies which even out. on We are in this for life. |
Anonymous
| Party the typos. |
Anonymous
Pardon. Oy. |
Anonymous
| I'm baffled by this. My wife and I deposit everything into one account. Do MARRIED people really nickle and dime each other like this? |
Anonymous
That's what I was inartfully trying to say above. What would he do with his secret stash? In my house if I wanted to foolishly spend our money on a boat, we would talk it through as a team and make a joint decision. |
Anonymous
| Op it sounds like you have a business arrangement and not a marriage. Makes no sense that one spouse is struggling to pay bills while the other is living the high life. That isn't marriage. And what happens at retirement, you are going to sit at home while he travels the world? |
Anonymous
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We have a joint account and everything goes into that. We got married in our 30s with different amounts of savings and debt but it all got pushed together after the wedding.
I guess it helps that there isn't any "extra" money to be tucked away. Mo money, mo problems. |
Anonymous
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...pp again.
But I must add that whatever works for a particular couple is great. (separate accounts for everything, book keeping and dividing bills based on income works for some) |
Anonymous
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DH and I mingled our accounts/assets in the first year of marriage to avoid this. I married him when I was the breadwinner and I put him through school. Now that we both work, he makes more, so it's only fair more of his assets are used!
I agree with PP who recommended a therapist and financial advisor for you both. |
Anonymous
| what else is hiding from you? |
Anonymous
| Seriously? Your DH is making 20x your salary and he doesn't find anything amiss in this scenario? This is whack. |
Anonymous
| So you make about 50K to his 1 million a year? I just find it hard to believe that you would earn enough to split expenses 50/50. Do you mean more like you make 100K to his $500K? |