what to do about mentally ill neighbor?
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Anonymous
| You need to record the outbursts & paranoia. Play it for police when they arrive or at a police station. Your report can be anonymous. |
Anonymous
| OP, isn't it worth it for you to move, seriously? |
Anonymous
| Hi, this is OP and thank you for all the responses. I really appreciate it a lot. We own, as does the neighbor. I do wish that this neighbor could get help, for their sake as well as our community's. My question is how to do this, and my fear is that our efforts may not do any good while also making us a target of the neighbor's paranoia and rage. Their rants take on racial and sexual overtones that are really, really horrendous. We have not yet lodged a noise complaint with our HOA out of reluctance to react in any way to this volatile person. But of course that is a first line of action. I did call the county and there is a crisis unit that does respond to these cases. I was told that the report remains anonymous, and I hope that is the case. As I said, we don't particularly want to get involved. This neighbor is not exactly likable/lovable. But, without sounding too co-dependent here, I'm don't think anyone else will make an attempt to get this person help if we don't. And there's no way to know what their issues may escalate to, against themselves and others. Again, thank you all so much for taking the time to respond. |
Anonymous
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I convinced a similar neighbor to move back to her home state. Glad I did - one morning just before she left, I opened my door to let the dogs out on the lawn and there she was, on my walk, staring at me. She was coherent, but odd, and very creepy. She was not as bad as your neighbor, I believe was manic/depressive, but it's a very tense situation to be in. I feel for you.
You must do something though because you do not want to find out the hard way that she would be dangerous to you. My heart was literally in my throat. I had always been nice to her though, but as I said, she was more coherent. |
Anonymous
| We live in the District and have called some agency (not sure who it was- my neighbor initiated)- they come out and check on our neighbor who is either mentally ill, addicted to drugs, or both. I've found her face down in a planter before. Other neighbor found her all the way in Rockville in a McDonald's parking lot (no kidding). We feel sorry for her, but don't want to overstep our bounds. Not sure what the agency was though- sorry! |
Anonymous
I hate to say this but you are pretty much right on in your assessment of the situation. The neighborhood crazy we had mostly effected her next door neighbor and every time they reported something, the neighbor ramped up the crazy. There was a consistent 3+ year history of reports to the county and police that finally resulted in a family member stepping in but those few year were bad for the neighborhood in general but really terrible for the direct neighbor. |
Anonymous
| Deal with the conduct, not the mental illness. |
Anonymous
| I have had a severe issue with mentally Ill neighbor. I had called police several times and landlord and neighbors were aware. She stalked me for almost 3 years. It was suggested by police I file for an injunction. I finally filed and was scared I wouldn't get it granted. IT WAS GRANTED. I had a lot of evidence from over the last year and months of journaling. I shouldn't of ever had to go thru this. I don't have the money to move and needed to protect myself. I feel the injunction is a joke to her however I can now have her arrested for violating injunction and from there clearly she can be evicted. I still feel I have my rights being violated due to her illness however I have something backing me now. |
Anonymous
| No idea, but it sounds like it's caught in that gray area of alleged mental illness and disruption of others' enjoyment of their homes. No one will want to intervene, probably, for fear of being sued. |
Anonymous
| Sell. Life is too short. |
Anonymous
| Condo boards are there for a reason. Contact them and explain situation. I'm sure neighbors are well aware. This fits under violations of condo rules. Take care. I had a crazy old man who lived below me who would scream, rant throw things and knock on the ceiling. Management did nothing since he paid his rent. |
Anonymous
+1 I would sell before you are forced to get a court order against the neighbor. We were in the same situation, and are SO glad we did! GL, OP. I know it can be very difficult, especially if the ill neighbor is obsessed, and/or tries (!!!) to fly under the radar. Did someone try to warn you about them ahead of time? Do you have children? Does the ill neighbor own guns? Do you record their actions? These are some of the questions we had to answer, for our own safety. I can not emphasize enough that you should sell and be done with it. If that neighbor is ill enough to stalk you, or tries to involve others, you will have to pursue it further. GL. |
Anonymous
| Move |
Anonymous
| It is against the rules of many Condo boards and HOA to be a nut case and a resident. |
Anonymous
| This is my retirement home. 14 years and 2 years ago new neighbor who has been in and out of jail for assaulting people and in and out of institutions for mental health issues. last year he went off meds and ran from jail. He was arrested at airport a mon later from he returned. They only kept him a month. Needless to say there have been alot of problems and I'm scared. But no one can do anything including his parents who put him there because they couldn't live with him anymore. HELP |