Ex-lowered child support

[Anonymous]

He makes $95K & currently pays you $6K a year. After taxes he takes home maybe $62K. We live in the DC area. It's expensive for you & also for him. I don't think he's living a lap of luxury on $62K take home. I'm sure it's tough for both of you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm going to look into talking to a attorney if he/she says leave it alone I will...But, this is not just about the child support. He tries to blame me for his financial irresponsibility of being in debt. It's not my fault that he got all those credit cards and created that debt for himself. He sometimes does whatever he can to get me rawled up when I don't give him the attention he wants.

So it's not about the child support. You just want to push his buttons because he tries to push yours. I've been sympathetic to you somewhat, but you lost me here. You're just starting trouble, and it's not good for your daughter. And by the way, no lawyer ever tells you to leave it alone. They make money off people not leaving it alone.

Military lawyers are free. They are doing there job to give you advice....If I wanted to push his buttons, I would ask for the $1000 that he owes me in back child supposrt and I would of went to court for more money when my daughter was with me full time. And I would take all his stuff that he has in my garage and put it in the street if I wanted to push his buttons.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm going to look into talking to a attorney if he/she says leave it alone I will...But, this is not just about the child support. He tries to blame me for his financial irresponsibility of being in debt. It's not my fault that he got all those credit cards and created that debt for himself. He sometimes does whatever he can to get me rawled up when I don't give him the attention he wants.

So it's not about the child support. You just want to push his buttons because he tries to push yours. I've been sympathetic to you somewhat, but you lost me here. You're just starting trouble, and it's not good for your daughter. And by the way, no lawyer ever tells you to leave it alone. They make money off people not leaving it alone.

Military lawyers are free. They are doing there job to give you advice....If I wanted to push his buttons, I would ask for the $1000 that he owes me in back child supposrt and I would of went to court for more money when my daughter was with me full time. And I would take all his stuff that he has in my garage and put it in the street if I wanted to push his buttons.

Okay, whatever. You came in here as if this was a straightforward child support issue and then you bring up all this shit like his crap in your garage and back child support and credit cards like we were supposed to know that. We clearly can't give you an answer if we don't know any of this and regardless, you don't want an answer other than "You are right, he's scum." Do whatever you want. It sounds like your DD has two immature parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm going to look into talking to a attorney if he/she says leave it alone I will...But, this is not just about the child support. He tries to blame me for his financial irresponsibility of being in debt. It's not my fault that he got all those credit cards and created that debt for himself. He sometimes does whatever he can to get me rawled up when I don't give him the attention he wants.

So it's not about the child support. You just want to push his buttons because he tries to push yours. I've been sympathetic to you somewhat, but you lost me here. You're just starting trouble, and it's not good for your daughter. And by the way, no lawyer ever tells you to leave it alone. They make money off people not leaving it alone.

This. OP you're listing lots of reasons that you want to pick a fight and so it looks like that's what you're going to do. Good luck to you...

[Anonymous]

Okay, whatever. You came in here as if this was a straightforward child support issue and then you bring up all this shit like his crap in your garage and back child support and credit cards like we were supposed to know that. We clearly can't give you an answer if we don't know any of this and regardless, you don't want an answer other than "You are right, he's scum." Do whatever you want. It sounds like your DD has two immature parents.

Maybe she does...I really want to do what is right. I'm just feeling like I constantly get shafted by this guy. Do I want you to say he is scum? No, because I don't feel that way. I was trying to get advice because I don't want to make a bad decision based off of my emotions. There's been a lot going on with us lately from a botched try at trying to work things out to other stuff that there are a lot of emotions every where. I just want to make sure I'm not thinking with those feelings. I'm going to pray about it and ask God to help me seperate my emotions from what is right.

[Anonymous]

Posters are giving you great advice, OP, I hope you carefully consider what they have to say. They're right about the central issue: this is about your daughter, not about you.

That said, it's so completely understandable that you're feeling frustrated with your ex - it sounds like he's been/being difficult. I completely get that and really feel for you. It's frustrating and infuriating! On the other hand, as posters are telling you, he's actually contributing in significant ways to your child's support. If you take steps like the ones you're talking about, then you may very well end up stirring the pot. I don't think you'll like the result. You want to be assertive and firm, and draw boundaries so he doesn't push too far, but right now, the situation you're describing doesn't call for the kind of responses you're considering. Right now, the best response seems to be to maintain the status quo. If he steps out of line in the future, okay, maybe then it's time to take action. Not now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Posters are giving you great advice, OP, I hope you carefully consider what they have to say. They're right about the central issue: this is about your daughter, not about you.

That said, it's so completely understandable that you're feeling frustrated with your ex - it sounds like he's been/being difficult. I completely get that and really feel for you. It's frustrating and infuriating! On the other hand, as posters are telling you, he's actually contributing in significant ways to your child's support. If you take steps like the ones you're talking about, then you may very well end up stirring the pot. I don't think you'll like the result. You want to be assertive and firm, and draw boundaries so he doesn't push too far, but right now, the situation you're describing doesn't call for the kind of responses you're considering. Right now, the best response seems to be to maintain the status quo. If he steps out of line in the future, okay, maybe then it's time to take action. Not now.

Op here...I'm just going to leave it alone...And keep my distance from him as much as I can.