friend hurt my feelings with facebook post

[Anonymous]

Some things were just better in our life before facebook.
TMI.

[Anonymous]

OP are you 12? Get over yourself, she was probably not thinking of you, but you are insecure about your own abilities (or narcissistic?) that you perceive it directed to you. You said you don't like her very much as you stated than even more of a reason why you shouldn't give a shit what she says/thinks.

[Anonymous]

I agree. I think this sounds very high school and sophmoric. I appreciate diversity around me. I don't think I'd like to live in a world where everyone was monotonically uniform. There is room for everyone to think and do things the way that they think is appropriate. It is amusing to me that in my FB feed I get everything from hard-core conservative to ultra-liberals. As with everything in my life, I take in everyone's opinions and ideas and I sift through them to find that which is most appropriate for me.

When I see someone like the PP's FB non-friend who posts very opinionated ideas about child-rearing that conflict with mine, I just think "Wow, I'm glad that she's not raising my children!" Someone else's opinions are just that--opinions. If she thought this about you, but didn't say anything, would it change your life any more or less than if she did say it? Why? It only has the power to bother you if you let it. Just ignore it and know in your heart that what she thinks is not the best for you and your family and move on. She's welcome to think and do what she wants for her children and it doesn't really change what you do for you children.

[Anonymous]

Is it vaccines? You either do or do not vaccinate and she has an opinion on this issue? Honestly, if it has anything to do with parenting, there's a good chance it's an issue she has with the *issue* and not you. You surely can't be the only one doing ____ (whatever it is she posted about). What are the odds you are the only person she knows making this choice? She might have a general opposition to the issue that has absolutely nothing to do with you. This is most likely your own insecurities coming out.

[Anonymous]

I hate FB and deleted my account three years ago. It is an utter waste of time populated by preening baboons.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hate FB and deleted my account three years ago. It is an utter waste of time populated by preening baboons.

See, OP? You can get offended by this, or you can tell yourself, "I guess this person won't be friending me anytime soon," and move along.

That woman is not a close friend, she's not going to be a close friend, and she's not going to be swayed by any suggestions that she tone it down. There is no way she is unaware that there is more than one perspective on the issue. She just thinks she's right.

[Anonymous]

My SIL did this. There is a controversy in our family that has caused a big rift and she posted a link to a judgmental article on the subject. Felt like a slap in the face. I confronted her about it and she said it hadn't even occurred to her that it related to the controversial issue.

[ThatSmileyFaceGuy]

OP if you got your feelings hurt every time someone expressed an opinion that didn't match yours, your feelings would be hurt EVERYDAY. You would leave Facebook, you would leave DCUM, you wouldn't turn on the TV, the radio, pick up a newspaper, ect.

[Anonymous]

You should just defriend her and go on with your life. In a civilized democracy, people are allowed to disagree with each other in public and all you can do is control your reaction to these disagreements.

If the issue is vaccines and you are an anti-vax person, you will need to get used to criticism. This issue is not like the others that you mentioned. BF or FF is something that only impacts the health of your child, as are issues such as cloth diapering, sleep training, organic food, BLW, etc. However, foregoing vaccines impacts herd immunity and is a health concern for everyone so that position is going to be (and has a right to be) publicly criticized by others. If this is your issue, you will need to toughen up.

[Anonymous]

OP, just let it go. Seriously, you will not accomplish anything by responding, and who really cares what she thinks? She already had the thoughts before posting on FB, and her broadcasting them has zero to do with you. You won't change her mind and she's entitled to post whatever she wants on FB. You can adjust your settings so you don't see her posts, and then forget it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am considering blocking all the Jesus-y people on fb. "Little Anne-Marie spit up so many times today. Thanking God for his bountiful blessings!" Really? And then grandma and the aunts chime in with, "Praying for Anne-Marie!" "In his divine mercy, you are a part of His plan!" "Loving Jesus for giving us our niece!" Anne-Marie is a perfectly healthy baby who happened to barf a bunch that day. I don't know why it rubs me the wrong way, but it does.

This made me laugh! I'm thanking Jesus right now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am considering blocking all the Jesus-y people on fb. "Little Anne-Marie spit up so many times today. Thanking God for his bountiful blessings!" Really? And then grandma and the aunts chime in with, "Praying for Anne-Marie!" "In his divine mercy, you are a part of His plan!" "Loving Jesus for giving us our niece!" Anne-Marie is a perfectly healthy baby who happened to barf a bunch that day. I don't know why it rubs me the wrong way, but it does.

This made me laugh! I'm thanking Jesus right now.

A friend of mine posted once, "Kayden has a fever of 101! Please pray!" I rolled my eyes so hard. Tylenol works better than prayer for that, girl.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Had someone i know on fb post something offensive (like yours, not directed at me but at about something i believe in) so i defriended him and left it at that. Few months later his wife (was still fb friends with) contacted me to ask why i deleted her husband and i told her i found some of his posts offensive.


You seem to be overthinking this too much. I doubt it was directed at you, and you don't like her anyways. Just defriend her. Seriously it isn't worth your time and energy investing thought into this. So she has a different opinion and didnt go about addressing it the right way. Big deal and move on.

This is the high road. Take it.

There is no zinger that will adequately address her post to the point of shutting her down. She's going to think what she thinks and post what she posts. Rest your mind. Let it go. Just freeze her out. Defriend her online and with calm certainty IRL.

High road.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Had someone i know on fb post something offensive (like yours, not directed at me but at about something i believe in) so i defriended him and left it at that. Few months later his wife (was still fb friends with) contacted me to ask why i deleted her husband and i told her i found some of his posts offensive.


You seem to be overthinking this too much. I doubt it was directed at you, and you don't like her anyways. Just defriend her. Seriously it isn't worth your time and energy investing thought into this. So she has a different opinion and didnt go about addressing it the right way. Big deal and move on.

That's what I would do too. Sounds like your neighbor was looking to start an argument given what you saw in the comments with another friend, and I wouldn't take the bait - if you don't want to defriend her, just hide her posts.

[Anonymous]

Let it go. Some people say offensive shit all the time and they really aren't thinking about who they are talking to - and this is x100 on fb. Feel bad for her that she thinks this is OK. I don't have a ton of close friends, but everyone at work loves me because I don't go round offending and belittling people. This has honestly taken me pretty far professionally.