So those are the girls you're talking about...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A "foreign" forum just like DCUM? Sounds made up.

As a foreigner myself who is a member of several ex-pat and "foreign" forums, I don't know anything like what you describe.

So, just because you don't know something it doesn't exist? How old are you? 3?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:A "foreign" forum just like DCUM? Sounds made up.

As a foreigner myself who is a member of several ex-pat and "foreign" forums, I don't know anything like what you describe.

So, just because you don't know something it doesn't exist? How old are you? 3?

Yes. I'm three. You called me out.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have friends who have been those kids you feel sorry for. Kids are very resourceful. They use the "new" wife and she feels accepted. She buys them all sorts of crap and then they are gone in about 5 years (give or take 2 years).

The kids only miss their step siblings - the nice ones.

They love their moms for their courage. They understand their dad is kind of a jerk but get that everybody is human.

Really hate seeing comments like this. I'm a stepmother, and I have stepparents. I really took those people in as my new family members, not pawns. I sent my stepmother Mother's Day cards and got my stepfather Father's Day gifts. I haven't tried to step into the role of being my stepchild's mom, and I leave the parenting decisions up to his parents, and I think we have a good relationship. Not everyone hates their stepkids, and not all stepkids hate their stepparents. I've always been grateful to my stepparents because they made my parents happy, which I could see they were not when they were married to each other. I hope one day my stepchild, when he's old enough to understand relationships, thinks the same thing- his parents are happier apart, and I was not a bad addition to his life, just another person there to love him and help him succeed.

I also doubt you call your step kids brats and mock their mom for her figure.

I don't discuss my stepchild's mother with him. However I feel about her personally, as a person and an adult, has nothing to do with him. Do I sometimes vent about her to my mom or my friends? Definitely. It doesn't intrude on my relationship with my stepchild. It's likely these women were using an anonymous message board to vent their adult feelings about the ex-wives as they DON'T do that in real life to their husband or stepchildren. It's a complex "relationship", between ex-wives and new wives. All do something to infuriate or aggravate the other party at some time. Have I made fun of her to my friends in moments of frustration with her? ABSOLUTELY. I feel 100% positive she has done the same with her friends about me. It's only natural. It's a coping mechanism; we're going to be in each other's lives in a very odd capacity forever, and we have to deal with it. How I feel about her has nothing to do with how I feel about my stepchild OR how I treat him. If a stepmother doesn't care for the ex-wife (and vice versa) it doesn't have to impact their ability to be good parents. I don't speak ill of her to my stepchild, and she doesn't speak ill of me to him either. But it doesn't mean we both haven't thought and felt some ugly things toward one another.

[Anonymous]

And sometimes the "Ex" has sympathy for you because they know what you bought. Did you ever think about that?

Girls gotta stick together I say.

[Anonymous]

Wait - there are large numbers of married American men divorcing their wives (and mothers to their children) for much younger foreign women? While I'm sure this happens, I didn't know there were so many that they have a forum like DCUM to bash the ex-wives.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wait - there are large numbers of married American men divorcing their wives (and mothers to their children) for much younger foreign women? While I'm sure this happens, I didn't know there were so many that they have a forum like DCUM to bash the ex-wives.

Apparently you can't read. The forum is for women from other countries who married American men. There's ONE SECTION there for this kind of marriage. There's one for couples with kids, another for couples with older DWs, and they're now thinking of adding a section for same sex couples.

And like PP said, I doubt these new wives have the courage of saying all this in person. Most of the time the questions are regarding how far they should interfere with parenting, reinforcing discipline, etc. They barely have the courage to talk to the husbands about the child's bad behavior.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have friends who have been those kids you feel sorry for. Kids are very resourceful. They use the "new" wife and she feels accepted. She buys them all sorts of crap and then they are gone in about 5 years (give or take 2 years).

The kids only miss their step siblings - the nice ones.

They love their moms for their courage. They understand their dad is kind of a jerk but get that everybody is human.

Really hate seeing comments like this. I'm a stepmother, and I have stepparents. I really took those people in as my new family members, not pawns. I sent my stepmother Mother's Day cards and got my stepfather Father's Day gifts. I haven't tried to step into the role of being my stepchild's mom, and I leave the parenting decisions up to his parents, and I think we have a good relationship. Not everyone hates their stepkids, and not all stepkids hate their stepparents. I've always been grateful to my stepparents because they made my parents happy, which I could see they were not when they were married to each other. I hope one day my stepchild, when he's old enough to understand relationships, thinks the same thing- his parents are happier apart, and I was not a bad addition to his life, just another person there to love him and help him succeed.

I also doubt you call your step kids brats and mock their mom for her figure.

I don't discuss my stepchild's mother with him. However I feel about her personally, as a person and an adult, has nothing to do with him. Do I sometimes vent about her to my mom or my friends? Definitely. It doesn't intrude on my relationship with my stepchild. It's likely these women were using an anonymous message board to vent their adult feelings about the ex-wives as they DON'T do that in real life to their husband or stepchildren. It's a complex "relationship", between ex-wives and new wives. All do something to infuriate or aggravate the other party at some time. Have I made fun of her to my friends in moments of frustration with her? ABSOLUTELY. I feel 100% positive she has done the same with her friends about me. It's only natural. It's a coping mechanism; we're going to be in each other's lives in a very odd capacity forever, and we have to deal with it. How I feel about her has nothing to do with how I feel about my stepchild OR how I treat him. If a stepmother doesn't care for the ex-wife (and vice versa) it doesn't have to impact their ability to be good parents. I don't speak ill of her to my stepchild, and she doesn't speak ill of me to him either. But it doesn't mean we both haven't thought and felt some ugly things toward one another.

Not to lecture you but I really suggest you stop this behavior. Kids are very intuitive. Somebody made this suggestion to me - stop complaining about my MIL. Find 5 things that I respect about her and only talk about those things when discussing her.

Wow your MIL can be a real %$&*.

Me of the past: Yea - want to hear some stories.
Me Now: Hea but she is a great cook and the kids love to cook with her.

Makes a big difference in my mindset and I also think people see how I treat somebody that is not my best ally and respect me for it.

Just because it is natural does not make it right.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I won't tell and I'll stay right here, sorry!

So childish.

Why should she leave? This is where she can enjoy the results of her malicious post. She's feeding off of this.

Feeding off of what? I just came here to let you know that the same way you mock your ex for marrying someone younger they're on the other end mocking you for something else.

Just keep that in mind.

Oh, I get it! OP, you're a mail order bride from Ukraine who snagged a bold middle-aged military contractor whose wife'd left him, and now you're feeling all superior to the old lady.

[Anonymous]

9:23 - there are not. OP is a troll unhappy in her new marriage and wants to think that all ex-wives are unhappy too. Most ex-wives I know married up - and they did not have to take someone else's rejects - or marry a foreigner. BAHAHAHA.

10:23 - THIS.

[Anonymous]

I'm totally laughing at the crazy defensiveness you all immediately went to! Too damn funny. And no, I'm not foreign born or any of these populations, but man, this looks more like a high school forum right now.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I won't tell and I'll stay right here, sorry!

So childish.

Why should she leave? This is where she can enjoy the results of her malicious post. She's feeding off of this.

Feeding off of what? I just came here to let you know that the same way you mock your ex for marrying someone younger they're on the other end mocking you for something else.

Just keep that in mind.

Oh, I get it! OP, you're a mail order bride from Ukraine who snagged a bold middle-aged military contractor whose wife'd left him, and now you're feeling all superior to the old lady.

HA! The old lady was prob smokin' hot (they are often were hotter than the trophy wife in their day--when they were that age). I am certain the sex was also good back in the day---but after 10-14 years of marriage maybe that old lady thinks she's the lucky one and pities you that you have to get her old, used baggage!! If you were so hot you could have been the 'first' wife and not settled for sloppy seconds...or thirds.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I won't tell and I'll stay right here, sorry!

So childish.

Why should she leave? This is where she can enjoy the results of her malicious post. She's feeding off of this.

Feeding off of what? I just came here to let you know that the same way you mock your ex for marrying someone younger they're on the other end mocking you for something else.

Just keep that in mind.

Oh, I get it! OP, you're a mail order bride from Ukraine who snagged a bold middle-aged military contractor whose wife'd left him, and now you're feeling all superior to the old lady.

Not really. But these girls are there too ;P

I married a single woman who does not have kids.

[Anonymous]

OP, you are a lonely troll who married the wrong man. We get it. You can claim to be laughing at us, but we will never believe you because something made you come here to begin with. Are you really that dense? Only a matter of time before he trades you in and they both laugh at you. You need to watch yourself and not try to start trouble where there is none. It only comes back to bite you in the ass hard. Boy, are you naive.

[Anonymous]

Mail order bride - LMFAO! True, true!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I won't tell and I'll stay right here, sorry!

So childish.

Why should she leave? This is where she can enjoy the results of her malicious post. She's feeding off of this.

Feeding off of what? I just came here to let you know that the same way you mock your ex for marrying someone younger they're on the other end mocking you for something else.

Just keep that in mind.

Oh, I get it! OP, you're a mail order bride from Ukraine who snagged a bold middle-aged military contractor whose wife'd left him, and now you're feeling all superior to the old lady.

Not really. But these girls are there too ;P

I married a single woman who does not have kids.

Huh?