Keep the Poor Students in Poor Schools

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do understand the resentment others feel because so many families, like you, think FA is a right. But, why stop at thinking your child deserves the same education that others receive? Why not go to a Mercedes dealer and ask for a discount because other DCs are “afforded” one. Why not go to a realtor and ask for a discount on a house because other DCs are “afforded” a large house? Good public education is a right. Private education is not a right. The reason why we are "afforded" the education is because we can afford it.

You're directing your anger towards the wrong person. You should really take this up with Board of your DC's school and the administartion, I mean they are the people enforcing the school's policy. Better yet, protest, stage a sit in, start a petition...be visible and vocal. I mean this has to change right? Come on, you and I both know that public education will never be equal. If so, why didn't YOU support YOUR local public school???

[Anonymous]

Home-school PP has a point. 21:49 if you banded together with a couple of other resentful families you could tutor-share and have a completely private school for your children. Just think, find a couple of other FA-hating families with a couple of kids and you'll have a couple hundred thousand dollars to spend on private tutors and your children will never ever have to waste their time in the presence of people like their teachers' children or a kid trying to succeed on his own merits instead of the size of his trust fund.

Look, if I buy a bag of M&Ms and don't eat the blue ones because I personally don't like them, that's certainly my right. If I complain loudly about how I shouldn't have to play for blue M&Ms and how blue M&M eaters are entitled jerks who think they have a right to eat the blue M&Ms that come in the bag, that makes me look kind of silly. Don't buy the damn bag of M&Ms if you can't stomach paying for the blue ones. Don't hate on the people that eat the blue ones just cause they are there though.

[Anonymous]

OP,

I think most of the vitriol is aimed at families gaming the system, with high mortgages, fancy cars, vacations and summer camps. Sorry but you can be critical of that but still support FA for folks who truly need it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do understand the resentment others feel because so many families, like you, think FA is a right. But, why stop at thinking your child deserves the same education that others receive? Why not go to a Mercedes dealer and ask for a discount because other DCs are “afforded” one. Why not go to a realtor and ask for a discount on a house because other DCs are “afforded” a large house? Good public education is a right. Private education is not a right. The reason why we are "afforded" the education is because we can afford it.

If you went to a Mercedes dealer and bought a car under the condition that you let someone who has no car but needs a car to get work use it, would you still buy it? Would you buy a large house under the condition that you have to let a child who has inadequate heat and running water, take a bath and sleep in it on cold and rainy days? If the answer is no, then don't send your kid to a school where part of the tuition you pay goes to helping a family with financial need to get the education. Stop complaining about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP,

I think most of the vitriol is aimed at families gaming the system, with high mortgages, fancy cars, vacations and summer camps. Sorry but you can be critical of that but still support FA for folks who truly need it.

That is probably true;however, some families just hate the idea altogether.

[Anonymous]

PP - I don't think most"of it is directed at the people gaming the system. The folks you are talking about certainly would be deserving of ire from everyone. That would be really understandable. But this board is littered with threads in which people have objected to FA for anyone.

DCUM FA posts have included beauties about how anyone who legitimately needed financial aid should have just made better choices so they could pay 30K a year for their child to go to school. That certainly makes sense in response to the kind of ridiculous HHI 250K but wants FA post recently, but it just seems offensive and mean spirited when it is directed towards someone who is in a terrible public school system but has a kid whose potential would be tapped at a great school. It seems offensive to refer to FA recipients as "freeloaders" and then brag about how great the teachers and college placements are at X school when these "freeloaders" include some of those great teachers and kids who are standouts that land at great colleges.

I don't resent my tuition dollars going towards FA either 22:15. I do resent some of the comments directed at those recipients on these boards and the assumption that most FA recipients are crooks or underqualified minorities. Neither of those groups seem to make up the majority of FA recipients (in my experience), yet it seems like the anti-FA crowd is always out in force to accuse people of being 1 or both of these things.

[Anonymous]

22:22 I am an ass.

[Anonymous]

Do you not believe that a family with a dad who is a security guard making 25K a year and a mom who is a cafeteria cook making 22k a year are hard working people? Or how about a teacher and a coach with HHI of say 90K, are they just some free loaders? How about nannies and housekeepers? The white collar workers aren't the only ones working hard. And they aren't the only ones who deserve a private school education simply because they can pay for it out of pocket.

[Anonymous]

Poor kids should only go to public schools

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Poor kids should only go to public schools

Ouch. How do you sleep at night?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Poor kids should only go to public schools

Then there are complaints about the Out of Boundary Lottery.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The anger that you often see on this board is that after paying $30,000 + for our own DCs to get an education we are then asked to pay more for your children.

You should just home school.

As someone who pays $30k+ per child at private school, you make me sick. I truly hope my children never have to interact with yours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Poor kids should only go to public schools

You are an asshole and karma is a bitch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do understand the resentment others feel because so many families, like you, think FA is a right. But, why stop at thinking your child deserves the same education that others receive? Why not go to a Mercedes dealer and ask for a discount because other DCs are “afforded” one. Why not go to a realtor and ask for a discount on a house because other DCs are “afforded” a large house? Good public education is a right. Private education is not a right. The reason why we are "afforded" the education is because we can afford it.

You clearly do not understand the history of America. People in American very rarely are able to move up the social structure - it is a myth. Why would you stand in the way of someone trying to better themselves. I hope we are not neighbors b/c I would never want to live near anyone as uneducated as you.

My dad has a 6th grade education. He is 91, black and born in a rural part of VA. He busted his ass to send me to college and now I am a lawyer. I don't have any generational wealth. I have enormous student loans. I've never had anything given to me and or any family to help me. Even if my dad could have gone to college, he would not have been able to go to any state universities. They didn't accept black people. Therefore, I would not have even had the advantage of getting into college based on my parents attending. That means that even though I have a college education, I certainly do not have the advantages that many people on this list serv have.

I doubt that you have the same story. You don't know what the story is for people who apply for financial aid. In addition, just be happy that you are not poor.

[Anonymous]

I don't have a problem with financial aid for college students. Can't agree with giving financial aid for "poor" nursery school and pre-K kids.