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Anonymous
| Wildly inappropriate. |
Anonymous
| No, the thread should not stay. The owner of the site closed it. Why do you think you are so important, OP, that you go against the owner by starting a new thread to continue the discussion he just ended? |
Anonymous
| Does it need help to get shut down again? If so, I will say totally sincerely and truthfully that I would consider terminating an unwanted pregnancy in the future even though I also already have a child. I couldn't care less who would want to adopt my child, if I didn't want to raise another child I would be unwilling to bring a new life into the world at all. |
Anonymous
Wait, are you all the same women who bemoan the fact that "all these judgmental prolifers never actually DO anything to help!"? I'm with OP. I would offer free childcare, and/or temporary or permanent caring for the baby. No woman should have to choose between her fetus and her future. OP, there are many of us who would help you in any way we can. Why is it inappropriate to let a woman, struggling with such a decision, hear these words? Why should her only choice be to destroy her developing fetus, or to have the baby and bear the burden completely on her own? No one is judging her; only offering help should she want it. If these were the types of conversations we could have face-to-face with the women in our neighborhoods, far fewer women would have to struggle with this difficult decision. We should be able to provide sisterly support to our friends, neighbors, relatives and co-workers, but unfortunately it is such a taboo subject. Why do women want to stifle this conversation? |
Anonymous
Because the OP of the other thread is the one who wants to "stifle the conversation." She asked that the thread be shut down. Why do women not want to respect her wishes? Or do you know better than she what "sisterly support" she needs? And the bolded section is a completely false dichotomy and you know it. |
Anonymous
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For all of you who are so eager to adopt unplanned babies, here is the website for the District's child and family services agency:
http://cfsa.dc.gov/DC/CFSA Hundreds of babies, kids, and teens need loving families. If your offers are sincere and not just hollow anti-abortion posturing, I hope you'll think seriously about calling today. |
Anonymous
| Why the vitriol? The vacillating mother is free to completely ignore this thread. |
Anonymous
It's offensive because it's manipulative. |
Anonymous
Agree. I realize it's heartfelt, but wildly misguided. |
Anonymous
Assuming OP and her husband are white, and her baby has no special needs. Why all the compassion and eagerness to help a blob of cells, but not living, breathing children that are in the foster system? You are telling them that this little embryo the size of a pinhead is more important than them. Disgusting. |
Anonymous
I think the issue is that some people consider it more than just a blob of cells and the justification of termination is not warranted because the offspring hasn't been deamed a harm to the mother's health or that the offspring is going to be defective. If the OP isn't a troll the shock to most people is that someone would terminate a pregnancy due to convienence and how the termination of a previous conception happened because of a timing issue of 2 months. |
Anonymous
| this is horrible and should be taken down immediately. |
Anonymous
disagree. it's free speech |
Anonymous
Then fine, disagree with her decision (though you have the facts wrong, and she never asked for your opinion). That's why, thank God, we have a right to privacy in this country so you don't get to judge her in person. I hope this thread gets taken down for being obnoxious and manipulative. OP, if you really want to adopt a child in need or help someone with childcare, there are literally thousands of women and children in this area who could use your help. Contact the foster care system and get helping. |
Anonymous
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I want to speak up to counter the OPs misguided and uninformed statements about how ending this pregnancy will impact her marriage and extended family. The OP has never actually ended a pregnancy and she is just making stuff up. My husband and I have had two abortions, one because we were young and in school and one late-term for medical reasons last year. I don't regret either one. Although having an abortion is difficult emotionally, it is no more difficult than a miscarriage or childbirth (and yes I have had these too). My husband and I now have a healthy newborn who was planned and we are in good financial and emotional health. Our baby is doing great and our marriage is strong.
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