Have you ever been with someone you’re 100% sexually compatible with?

[Anonymous]

Yes, unfortunately we were a mismatch in nearly every other way. I still think about him.

[Anonymous]

Yes and also compatible in every other possible way, sense of humor, values, compassion, kindness, interests, goals.

Unfortunately it's a totally long distance relationship, hard to say if it would all transfer to real life. I'll find out someday!

[Anonymous]

Yes! Ex husband cheated on me and I left. HOLY CRAP is my sex life phenomenonal now. I shutter at the mere thought of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sure, but he was 100% incompatible in like 10 other very important things so I dumped him. There’s more to life than sex!

Hahaha ditto! It was a bummer but the incompatibilities were numerous and I realized that from the get go.

Same girl.

[Anonymous]

Yes, just once; I confused it for love and for many years I could not get past it even though I’m certainly intellectually that he would have been a huge disappointment as a partner if I’d stayed with him.

A very strong sexual attraction and compatibility is incredibly intoxicating. It’s likely rooted in biochemistry that would result in very healthy offspring, but in modern life means nothing with regard to healthy relationship dynamics or successful parenting.

[Anonymous]

Great Question

As a man, I've only had (3) really compatible partners out of literally dozens. Finding a woman that actually isn't shy nude, passionately enjoys oral both ways, able to O without toys, and puts in as much effort as me, is truly hard to find. Sadly, most women are just lazy, period.

[Anonymous]

What’s his name?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes! Ex husband cheated on me and I left. HOLY CRAP is my sex life phenomenonal now. I shutter at the mere thought of it.

Ts or Ds?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He was a former college acquaintance I ran into about 7 years later and we became FWB. He was shorter than me but was a college wrestler. He is the only man who ever picked me up, lol. I stopped seeing him before the sex got old, when I met future DH.

That’s hot!

[Anonymous]

I have someone like that but he lives on the west coast and I live on the east coast. And we don't have lifestyles that allow frequent visits. Sigh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Great Question

As a man, I've only had (3) really compatible partners out of literally dozens. Finding a woman that actually isn't shy nude, passionately enjoys oral both ways, able to O without toys, and puts in as much effort as me, is truly hard to find. Sadly, most women are just lazy, period.

Again, that's not compatible, that's just good in bed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, just once; I confused it for love and for many years I could not get past it even though I’m certainly intellectually that he would have been a huge disappointment as a partner if I’d stayed with him.

A very strong sexual attraction and compatibility is incredibly intoxicating. It’s likely rooted in biochemistry that would result in very healthy offspring, but in modern life means nothing with regard to healthy relationship dynamics or successful parenting.

This is interesting. I wonder a lot about how many long-term (like lifelong) relationships out there really shine on all of these fronts. Certainly it must ebb and flow regardless, even if it's really strong in the beginning.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I married the first man I was intimate with. Now years later, I'm realising we're not very compatible in the bedroom.

I wonder how many women are in the same situation. Ladies, if he doesn't listen to you and learn in the bedroom, or doesn't make you O regularly, don't marry him! It won't get better after marriage!

I was a virgin when I got married but my husband and I were very attracted to each other and for a few years I would say our sex life was incredible.

I think having kids sort of changed things for him and now almost 20 years later he has a lot less enthusiasm although he recognizes we need to be intimate and he enjoys it when we are together. I always o. I think he also realizes that a lot of men would be jealous of someone whose wife always initiates.

I can’t imagine anyone’s sexual relationship with their spouse stays the same for decades.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve been dating a man and this is the first time I’ve felt like I’m 100% sexually compatible with someone.

Yes, good sex requires a lot of communication and expressing your wants. But this is the first time it’s felt like a man is reading my mind and doing exactly what I want, without me ever having to say it. And when I do ask for something, he makes sure to do it over and over again without asking, not just that one time.

This is so different from my previous relationships, where I’d ask for something and sure, he’d do it, but I’d have to ask every single time. Or he’d do it just briefly. Or I felt like I had to constantly give instructions because what we liked sexually was just so different.

Has anyone else experienced this? I’m curious how common it is.

Yes. And I married him. Still compatible 25 years later.

[Anonymous]

I still think about him from time to time. It was the best sex of my life.

However, we were not on the same page about many things, like where we prefer to live geographically, level of ambition, and we often had arguments as we both like being in control. Haven't spoken to him in many years and are now both married to other people.