Have you ever been with someone you’re 100% sexually compatible with?

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Anonymous wrote:Great Question

As a man, I've only had (3) really compatible partners out of literally dozens. Finding a woman that actually isn't shy nude, passionately enjoys oral both ways, able to O without toys, and puts in as much effort as me, is truly hard to find. Sadly, most women are just lazy, period.

Not wanting to give oral immediately isn’t a sign that a woman is lazy. Some women see it as degrading to service him like that and want to love the guy first. It’s usually low quality women that don’t hesitate.

This is a weird take. If a guy didn't want to give me oral because he saw it as degrading, I'd immediately move on. Certainly wouldn't have PIV sex with him, or even kiss him.

If a guy makes you feel so icky that oral is degrading, you shouldn't be sleeping with him, falling in love with him, none of that.

NP. I have never understood the distinctions people make like the PP.

I make the distinction because I don't want to get herpes from a new partner "down there". You are aware that our lips and mouth contain more bacteria, viruses and infections than genitalia, right?

Oral sex is mixing liquids and exposes you to STDs even if you use condoms for PIV. How come you didn't study it in HS?

By that logic you shouldn't kiss, either. You don't use a condom for kissing.

Or, just get an STD test. Pretty simple.

No. Kissing could be "light" eg no biting active rubbing etc. It's less shedding vs someone going down on me when I have less control and all in a moment. The time required and amount of forces applied in the act vs kissing is different. Also genitalia's skin is more prone to catch stuff. This is why condoms and dams are recommended for sex. I'm amazed people don't have basic sex safety knowledge.

You sound like a terrible kisser.

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Anonymous wrote:Great Question

As a man, I've only had (3) really compatible partners out of literally dozens. Finding a woman that actually isn't shy nude, passionately enjoys oral both ways, able to O without toys, and puts in as much effort as me, is truly hard to find. Sadly, most women are just lazy, period.

Not wanting to give oral immediately isn’t a sign that a woman is lazy. Some women see it as degrading to service him like that and want to love the guy first. It’s usually low quality women that don’t hesitate.

This is a weird take. If a guy didn't want to give me oral because he saw it as degrading, I'd immediately move on. Certainly wouldn't have PIV sex with him, or even kiss him.

If a guy makes you feel so icky that oral is degrading, you shouldn't be sleeping with him, falling in love with him, none of that.

NP. I have never understood the distinctions people make like the PP.

I make the distinction because I don't want to get herpes from a new partner "down there". You are aware that our lips and mouth contain more bacteria, viruses and infections than genitalia, right?

Oral sex is mixing liquids and exposes you to STDs even if you use condoms for PIV. How come you didn't study it in HS?

Your original post was about oral being degrading and you wanted love before it occurred. Now you talk about STDs. Strange that no one in high school taught you that everyone can spot when you shift your original argument.

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Anonymous wrote:Great Question

As a man, I've only had (3) really compatible partners out of literally dozens. Finding a woman that actually isn't shy nude, passionately enjoys oral both ways, able to O without toys, and puts in as much effort as me, is truly hard to find. Sadly, most women are just lazy, period.

Not wanting to give oral immediately isn’t a sign that a woman is lazy. Some women see it as degrading to service him like that and want to love the guy first. It’s usually low quality women that don’t hesitate.

This is a weird take. If a guy didn't want to give me oral because he saw it as degrading, I'd immediately move on. Certainly wouldn't have PIV sex with him, or even kiss him.

If a guy makes you feel so icky that oral is degrading, you shouldn't be sleeping with him, falling in love with him, none of that.

NP. I have never understood the distinctions people make like the PP.

I make the distinction because I don't want to get herpes from a new partner "down there". You are aware that our lips and mouth contain more bacteria, viruses and infections than genitalia, right?

Oral sex is mixing liquids and exposes you to STDs even if you use condoms for PIV. How come you didn't study it in HS?

By that logic you shouldn't kiss, either. You don't use a condom for kissing.

Or, just get an STD test. Pretty simple.

No. Kissing could be "light" eg no biting active rubbing etc. It's less shedding vs someone going down on me when I have less control and all in a moment. The time required and amount of forces applied in the act vs kissing is different. Also genitalia's skin is more prone to catch stuff. This is why condoms and dams are recommended for sex. I'm amazed people don't have basic sex safety knowledge.

If sex is limited to short pecks on the lips and PIV, not really worth having it. I guess that’s one way to protect yourself from STDs, just be so bad in bed nobody wants to sleep with you.

Just get an STD test. Way easier than calculating second by second during sex how likely it is you’re going to catch something.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, and the chemistry was wild. I would have done literally anything for him in bed and it hasn’t been like that with other partners. He had a gorgeous body. He was tall (like 6’3”), lean and muscular. The first time we were together he had gotten out of bed to take off his clothes. I was looking at the floor when he took off his pants and his penis literally cast a shadow. An enormous shadow. 🥵 He must’ve seen the look on my face because he was like “Don’t worry, we’ll go slow”.

Does it seem like these high chemistry guys have a way of making you do things you didn’t know you could do or would enjoy?

What happened????

To my relationship with him?

I wanted something more serious and he wasn’t on the same page at the time. I had started dating my now DH around the same time. The guy has a family now and by all appearances is a great husband and father.

One lucky wife he's got!

Anyone claiming looks and body don't matter to women should read this. Women would do anything for great sex and partners!

She’s definitely lucky but I don’t know how you make it work after having a family. Being with him is like an event, there’s no quiet quickies. 🤷‍♀️

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Anonymous wrote:Great Question

As a man, I've only had (3) really compatible partners out of literally dozens. Finding a woman that actually isn't shy nude, passionately enjoys oral both ways, able to O without toys, and puts in as much effort as me, is truly hard to find. Sadly, most women are just lazy, period.

Not wanting to give oral immediately isn’t a sign that a woman is lazy. Some women see it as degrading to service him like that and want to love the guy first. It’s usually low quality women that don’t hesitate.

This is a weird take. If a guy didn't want to give me oral because he saw it as degrading, I'd immediately move on. Certainly wouldn't have PIV sex with him, or even kiss him.

If a guy makes you feel so icky that oral is degrading, you shouldn't be sleeping with him, falling in love with him, none of that.

NP. I have never understood the distinctions people make like the PP.

I make the distinction because I don't want to get herpes from a new partner "down there". You are aware that our lips and mouth contain more bacteria, viruses and infections than genitalia, right?

Oral sex is mixing liquids and exposes you to STDs even if you use condoms for PIV. How come you didn't study it in HS?

By that logic you shouldn't kiss, either. You don't use a condom for kissing.

Or, just get an STD test. Pretty simple.

No. Kissing could be "light" eg no biting active rubbing etc. It's less shedding vs someone going down on me when I have less control and all in a moment. The time required and amount of forces applied in the act vs kissing is different. Also genitalia's skin is more prone to catch stuff. This is why condoms and dams are recommended for sex. I'm amazed people don't have basic sex safety knowledge.

If sex is limited to short pecks on the lips and PIV, not really worth having it. I guess that’s one way to protect yourself from STDs, just be so bad in bed nobody wants to sleep with you.

Just get an STD test. Way easier than calculating second by second during sex how likely it is you’re going to catch something.

Men on dating market don’t want to get STD test, tell if they have herpes, and they want oral on them right away on date 3.
All dating sex sucks for these reasons. Spousal committed sex was best I’ve had

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Great Question

As a man, I've only had (3) really compatible partners out of literally dozens. Finding a woman that actually isn't shy nude, passionately enjoys oral both ways, able to O without toys, and puts in as much effort as me, is truly hard to find. Sadly, most women are just lazy, period.

Not wanting to give oral immediately isn’t a sign that a woman is lazy. Some women see it as degrading to service him like that and want to love the guy first. It’s usually low quality women that don’t hesitate.

This is a weird take. If a guy didn't want to give me oral because he saw it as degrading, I'd immediately move on. Certainly wouldn't have PIV sex with him, or even kiss him.

If a guy makes you feel so icky that oral is degrading, you shouldn't be sleeping with him, falling in love with him, none of that.

NP. I have never understood the distinctions people make like the PP.

I make the distinction because I don't want to get herpes from a new partner "down there". You are aware that our lips and mouth contain more bacteria, viruses and infections than genitalia, right?

Oral sex is mixing liquids and exposes you to STDs even if you use condoms for PIV. How come you didn't study it in HS?

By that logic you shouldn't kiss, either. You don't use a condom for kissing.

Or, just get an STD test. Pretty simple.

No. Kissing could be "light" eg no biting active rubbing etc. It's less shedding vs someone going down on me when I have less control and all in a moment. The time required and amount of forces applied in the act vs kissing is different. Also genitalia's skin is more prone to catch stuff. This is why condoms and dams are recommended for sex. I'm amazed people don't have basic sex safety knowledge.

If sex is limited to short pecks on the lips and PIV, not really worth having it. I guess that’s one way to protect yourself from STDs, just be so bad in bed nobody wants to sleep with you.

Just get an STD test. Way easier than calculating second by second during sex how likely it is you’re going to catch something.

Presumption is that everyone dates and sleeps with others until exclusivity so no I’m not doing French kissing or oral with a dude who probably was sticking it in someone’s anus a day prior or ate some unknown P …
STS testing is pointless pretty much for early dating stage situations

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Great Question

As a man, I've only had (3) really compatible partners out of literally dozens. Finding a woman that actually isn't shy nude, passionately enjoys oral both ways, able to O without toys, and puts in as much effort as me, is truly hard to find. Sadly, most women are just lazy, period.

Not wanting to give oral immediately isn’t a sign that a woman is lazy. Some women see it as degrading to service him like that and want to love the guy first. It’s usually low quality women that don’t hesitate.

This is a weird take. If a guy didn't want to give me oral because he saw it as degrading, I'd immediately move on. Certainly wouldn't have PIV sex with him, or even kiss him.

If a guy makes you feel so icky that oral is degrading, you shouldn't be sleeping with him, falling in love with him, none of that.

It's not a weird take. Most me I've been with would not reciprocate with oral but expected me to do it. Pushing my head down. And did so early on. Lots of women feel this way. And lots were not taught to what your last sentence says, had bad role models, or lots of other reasons. So stop being so high and mighty with the judgeent.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Great Question

As a man, I've only had (3) really compatible partners out of literally dozens. Finding a woman that actually isn't shy nude, passionately enjoys oral both ways, able to O without toys, and puts in as much effort as me, is truly hard to find. Sadly, most women are just lazy, period.

Not wanting to give oral immediately isn’t a sign that a woman is lazy. Some women see it as degrading to service him like that and want to love the guy first. It’s usually low quality women that don’t hesitate.

This is a weird take. If a guy didn't want to give me oral because he saw it as degrading, I'd immediately move on. Certainly wouldn't have PIV sex with him, or even kiss him.

If a guy makes you feel so icky that oral is degrading, you shouldn't be sleeping with him, falling in love with him, none of that.

It's not a weird take. Most me I've been with would not reciprocate with oral but expected me to do it. Pushing my head down. And did so early on. Lots of women feel this way. And lots were not taught to what your last sentence says, had bad role models, or lots of other reasons. So stop being so high and mighty with the judgeent.

Men are not stupid they know they can get throat cancer from giving oral caused by HPV. It would be suicidal for them to do it to each woman they sleep with when dating. But they do expect women giving them oral. No, thank you.

All these discussions lf sex quality are very remote from dating realities

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Anonymous wrote:Great Question

As a man, I've only had (3) really compatible partners out of literally dozens. Finding a woman that actually isn't shy nude, passionately enjoys oral both ways, able to O without toys, and puts in as much effort as me, is truly hard to find. Sadly, most women are just lazy, period.

Not wanting to give oral immediately isn’t a sign that a woman is lazy. Some women see it as degrading to service him like that and want to love the guy first. It’s usually low quality women that don’t hesitate.

This is a weird take. If a guy didn't want to give me oral because he saw it as degrading, I'd immediately move on. Certainly wouldn't have PIV sex with him, or even kiss him.

If a guy makes you feel so icky that oral is degrading, you shouldn't be sleeping with him, falling in love with him, none of that.

NP. I have never understood the distinctions people make like the PP.

I make the distinction because I don't want to get herpes from a new partner "down there". You are aware that our lips and mouth contain more bacteria, viruses and infections than genitalia, right?

Oral sex is mixing liquids and exposes you to STDs even if you use condoms for PIV. How come you didn't study it in HS?

By that logic you shouldn't kiss, either. You don't use a condom for kissing.

Or, just get an STD test. Pretty simple.

No. Kissing could be "light" eg no biting active rubbing etc. It's less shedding vs someone going down on me when I have less control and all in a moment. The time required and amount of forces applied in the act vs kissing is different. Also genitalia's skin is more prone to catch stuff. This is why condoms and dams are recommended for sex. I'm amazed people don't have basic sex safety knowledge.

If sex is limited to short pecks on the lips and PIV, not really worth having it. I guess that’s one way to protect yourself from STDs, just be so bad in bed nobody wants to sleep with you.

Just get an STD test. Way easier than calculating second by second during sex how likely it is you’re going to catch something.

Men on dating market don’t want to get STD test, tell if they have herpes, and they want oral on them right away on date 3.
All dating sex sucks for these reasons. Spousal committed sex was best I’ve had

So don't have sex when you're dating? You don't HAVE to sleep with men who refuse STD tests and expect sex on date 3.

No sex is preferable to anxiety-ridden, boring sex.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Great Question

As a man, I've only had (3) really compatible partners out of literally dozens. Finding a woman that actually isn't shy nude, passionately enjoys oral both ways, able to O without toys, and puts in as much effort as me, is truly hard to find. Sadly, most women are just lazy, period.

Not wanting to give oral immediately isn’t a sign that a woman is lazy. Some women see it as degrading to service him like that and want to love the guy first. It’s usually low quality women that don’t hesitate.

This is a weird take. If a guy didn't want to give me oral because he saw it as degrading, I'd immediately move on. Certainly wouldn't have PIV sex with him, or even kiss him.

If a guy makes you feel so icky that oral is degrading, you shouldn't be sleeping with him, falling in love with him, none of that.

NP. I have never understood the distinctions people make like the PP.

I make the distinction because I don't want to get herpes from a new partner "down there". You are aware that our lips and mouth contain more bacteria, viruses and infections than genitalia, right?

Oral sex is mixing liquids and exposes you to STDs even if you use condoms for PIV. How come you didn't study it in HS?

By that logic you shouldn't kiss, either. You don't use a condom for kissing.

Or, just get an STD test. Pretty simple.

No. Kissing could be "light" eg no biting active rubbing etc. It's less shedding vs someone going down on me when I have less control and all in a moment. The time required and amount of forces applied in the act vs kissing is different. Also genitalia's skin is more prone to catch stuff. This is why condoms and dams are recommended for sex. I'm amazed people don't have basic sex safety knowledge.

If sex is limited to short pecks on the lips and PIV, not really worth having it. I guess that’s one way to protect yourself from STDs, just be so bad in bed nobody wants to sleep with you.

Just get an STD test. Way easier than calculating second by second during sex how likely it is you’re going to catch something.

Men on dating market don’t want to get STD test, tell if they have herpes, and they want oral on them right away on date 3.
All dating sex sucks for these reasons. Spousal committed sex was best I’ve had

So don't have sex when you're dating? You don't HAVE to sleep with men who refuse STD tests and expect sex on date 3.

No sex is preferable to anxiety-ridden, boring sex.

I had “anxiety “ sex and stopped. Just gross all this cross pollination. But women who treat sex seriously and cautiously essentially have no game. Women who lead with sex and have it in all variety unprotected and soon would win.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, and the chemistry was wild. I would have done literally anything for him in bed and it hasn’t been like that with other partners. He had a gorgeous body. He was tall (like 6’3”), lean and muscular. The first time we were together he had gotten out of bed to take off his clothes. I was looking at the floor when he took off his pants and his penis literally cast a shadow. An enormous shadow. 🥵 He must’ve seen the look on my face because he was like “Don’t worry, we’ll go slow”.

Does it seem like these high chemistry guys have a way of making you do things you didn’t know you could do or would enjoy?

What happened????

To my relationship with him?

I wanted something more serious and he wasn’t on the same page at the time. I had started dating my now DH around the same time. The guy has a family now and by all appearances is a great husband and father.

Also, one more thing is that he could be kind of a jerk sometimes and not help fix problems he caused. For instance, I mentioned he was tall, he would have his feet pressed against the footboard of my bed when we were at it. He was pushing against it too hard and it let out a loud crack. He just kept going and never helped fix it. I also lost my deposit on the house I was renting because the hardwood floors were chewed up where my bed was.

That’s one of the things that made me fall for my dh. He helped me move and even fixed the footboard on my bed. He made some awkward jokes about it but I just played dumb. 😇

This is most hilarious story I've read on dcum in years!

A guy wrote it for sure…

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Anonymous wrote:Yes. We were a disaster in other ways but 100% on the same page in the bedroom including preferring quickies and me finishing second via oral. Glorious and still missed many years later.

Seems to be the way it always happens. She would try ANYTHING I asked for, but had massive emotional issues. Once the excitement wore off, it was over.

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I'm glad I'm no longer on the dating market. Really sounds strange nowadays. The other day was at the grocery store and noticed a hot woman in the frozen food section. I didn't get a really good look because staring is rude. She had a nice looking silhouette out of the corner of my eye. I went to the checkout as one does, and waited for the inevitable little old lady who I always seem to get in line behind, to unload her cart onto the checkout belt ever so slowly. As one also does in these situations, I turned around and took out my phone while I waited. So by chance hot woman is directly in line behind me. I got a good look at her torso and it was impressive but clearly artificially enhanced to an extreme. I got a really good look at her face and realized, her name might be Lola. Be careful out there, there is so.much deceptive advertising in the dating market

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Anonymous wrote:It’s hard to see if I’m sexually compatible with men when dating. I’m so grossed out by their whoring around. Sex is everything protected I’m avoiding anything but PIV because I can’t know for sure where his lips, P etc were last night

When I was exclusive with exH we could explore because I trusted him. Good sex to me comes from high level of trust

Why not find a partner open and honest who will discuss these things beforehand so that this isn't an issue? I have had women bring this up and I am just as concerned about safety as they are. And if they weren't, it would not be a good match for me. I can't be the only man who thinks like this.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s hard to see if I’m sexually compatible with men when dating. I’m so grossed out by their whoring around. Sex is everything protected I’m avoiding anything but PIV because I can’t know for sure where his lips, P etc were last night

When I was exclusive with exH we could explore because I trusted him. Good sex to me comes from high level of trust

Why not find a partner open and honest who will discuss these things beforehand so that this isn't an issue? I have had women bring this up and I am just as concerned about safety as they are. And if they weren't, it would not be a good match for me. I can't be the only man who thinks like this.

Men who are ready to be exclusive outright either continued secretly sleeping with other women and just used exclusivity to get a “condom exception”. Or they would be unattractive . Everyone attractive - men and women - sleep around a lot