SD’s graduation issue turning into something bigger.

[Anonymous]

Why is her father not involved and why did you marry a man who does not raise his own child?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can’t you find a senior from last year and borrow their cap and gown? Has anyone checked to see if she’s flunking a class? Something isn’t adding up here.

This. Usually you can find a used cap and gown from last year. Try your local buy nothing group on Facebook. Everything doesn't have to be this dramatic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP She’s always been this way and expects everything to happen on her terms. Now she wants to delay enrolling until spring, just so she can participate in the graduation ceremony, even though she doesn’t want to attend high school for the full year. Yes she has college plans, but is willing to delay to them. Her mother lives out of state, and her father hasn’t been very involved. I’ve been her stepmother since she was 7. I could try asking her school community.

This kind of behavior is designed to get attention from her actual parents. Why is she not getting that attention? Have you enabled your husband to slack as a parent?

[Anonymous]

You cannot walk with another school. Go to the school parent group and ask for one or buy off Amazon.

[Anonymous]

OP My stepdaughter isn’t failing any classes, but there are other requirements for graduation. The thing is that she wants to delay graduation to not complete some of the other requirements, so that she isn’t officially graduated yet, and can instead enroll and graduate at a new school, plus walk at that school too. She still wants to go ahead and do her other senior activities including her graduation party, even if she doesn’t complete school this year. She doesn’t want anyone (extended family & friends) to know about her possibly not finishing this year. She had access to a credit card to order her cap & gown, and it seems super simple, but she didn’t do it for whatever reason. I called the ordering company, but they said to contact the school. Her parents are caring, and she does receive attention from them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP My stepdaughter isn’t failing any classes, but there are other requirements for graduation. The thing is that she wants to delay graduation to not complete some of the other requirements, so that she isn’t officially graduated yet, and can instead enroll and graduate at a new school, plus walk at that school too. She still wants to go ahead and do her other senior activities including her graduation party, even if she doesn’t complete school this year. She doesn’t want anyone (extended family & friends) to know about her possibly not finishing this year. She had access to a credit card to order her cap & gown, and it seems super simple, but she didn’t do it for whatever reason. I called the ordering company, but they said to contact the school. Her parents are caring, and she does receive attention from them.

PP that is a school admin: Instead of posting here- call the school now.
What other requirements are you referring to? Senior dues? You can pay them without her.

[Anonymous]

THIS IS A TROLL.

It's the same poster who continually writes about autistic-presenting, super rigid young people who overreact when triggered by a minor issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:




THIS IS A TROLL.

It's the same poster who continually writes about autistic-presenting, super rigid young people who overreact when triggered by a minor issue.


Agree. If poster is real, get DSD a mental health eval.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP My stepdaughter isn’t failing any classes, but there are other requirements for graduation. The thing is that she wants to delay graduation to not complete some of the other requirements, so that she isn’t officially graduated yet, and can instead enroll and graduate at a new school, plus walk at that school too. She still wants to go ahead and do her other senior activities including her graduation party, even if she doesn’t complete school this year. She doesn’t want anyone (extended family & friends) to know about her possibly not finishing this year. She had access to a credit card to order her cap & gown, and it seems super simple, but she didn’t do it for whatever reason. I called the ordering company, but they said to contact the school. Her parents are caring, and she does receive attention from them.

PP that is a school admin: Instead of posting here- call the school now.
What other requirements are you referring to? Senior dues? You can pay them without her.

Returning school Chromebook, and chargers. Also, taking senior exams and tests.

[Anonymous]

OP No, this isn’t a troll. My SD is in danger of not graduating, and I’m so worried about her. I’m trying to do every thing I can to help her. I’ll be calling the school now, and I’m still waiting for response from her counsellor. The cos and gown can’t be ordered on somewhere random like Amazon, because it’s specific to the school, so if the school doesn’t have it, I’ll have to ask community groups.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP My stepdaughter isn’t failing any classes, but there are other requirements for graduation. The thing is that she wants to delay graduation to not complete some of the other requirements, so that she isn’t officially graduated yet, and can instead enroll and graduate at a new school, plus walk at that school too. She still wants to go ahead and do her other senior activities including her graduation party, even if she doesn’t complete school this year. She doesn’t want anyone (extended family & friends) to know about her possibly not finishing this year. She had access to a credit card to order her cap & gown, and it seems super simple, but she didn’t do it for whatever reason. I called the ordering company, but they said to contact the school. Her parents are caring, and she does receive attention from them.

PP that is a school admin: Instead of posting here- call the school now.
What other requirements are you referring to? Senior dues? You can pay them without her.

Returning school Chromebook, and chargers. Also, taking senior exams and tests.

It sounds like she is self-sabotaging because she is worried about taking the tests, worried about college, worried about all the transitions, who knows. I suggest you focus on the underlying reason, and maybe that she's concealing something.

You say she receives attention from her bio parents but is it enough. You said your DH is not very involved as a parent and that's probably very hard for her at this critical moment. No kid wants to be ignored by their bio parents no matter how nice their step-parents are.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP My stepdaughter isn’t failing any classes, but there are other requirements for graduation. The thing is that she wants to delay graduation to not complete some of the other requirements, so that she isn’t officially graduated yet, and can instead enroll and graduate at a new school, plus walk at that school too. She still wants to go ahead and do her other senior activities including her graduation party, even if she doesn’t complete school this year. She doesn’t want anyone (extended family & friends) to know about her possibly not finishing this year. She had access to a credit card to order her cap & gown, and it seems super simple, but she didn’t do it for whatever reason. I called the ordering company, but they said to contact the school. Her parents are caring, and she does receive attention from them.

PP that is a school admin: Instead of posting here- call the school now.
What other requirements are you referring to? Senior dues? You can pay them without her.

Returning school Chromebook, and chargers. Also, taking senior exams and tests.

It sounds like she is self-sabotaging because she is worried about taking the tests, worried about college, worried about all the transitions, who knows. I suggest you focus on the underlying reason, and maybe that she's concealing something.

You say she receives attention from her bio parents but is it enough. You said your DH is not very involved as a parent and that's probably very hard for her at this critical moment. No kid wants to be ignored by their bio parents no matter how nice their step-parents are.

OP She’s does have worries about the future. She also just really wants a ceremony, that she can participate in and fully enjoy at the same time. My husband isn’t very hands on. I did most of the hands on ‘parenting” part, but he’s physically and emotionally always there for her. They spend alot of time together, and are very close.

[Anonymous]

OP, tell her you will take care of getting a gown for her.

Then make her sit at the kitchen table doing her homework two hours a night to make sure she graduates.

This is ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP My stepdaughter isn’t failing any classes, but there are other requirements for graduation. The thing is that she wants to delay graduation to not complete some of the other requirements, so that she isn’t officially graduated yet, and can instead enroll and graduate at a new school, plus walk at that school too. She still wants to go ahead and do her other senior activities including her graduation party, even if she doesn’t complete school this year. She doesn’t want anyone (extended family & friends) to know about her possibly not finishing this year. She had access to a credit card to order her cap & gown, and it seems super simple, but she didn’t do it for whatever reason. I called the ordering company, but they said to contact the school. Her parents are caring, and she does receive attention from them.

PP that is a school admin: Instead of posting here- call the school now.
What other requirements are you referring to? Senior dues? You can pay them without her.

Returning school Chromebook, and chargers. Also, taking senior exams and tests.

It sounds like she is self-sabotaging because she is worried about taking the tests, worried about college, worried about all the transitions, who knows. I suggest you focus on the underlying reason, and maybe that she's concealing something.

You say she receives attention from her bio parents but is it enough. You said your DH is not very involved as a parent and that's probably very hard for her at this critical moment. No kid wants to be ignored by their bio parents no matter how nice their step-parents are.

OP She’s does have worries about the future. She also just really wants a ceremony, that she can participate in and fully enjoy at the same time. My husband isn’t very hands on. I did most of the hands on ‘parenting” part, but he’s physically and emotionally always there for her. They spend alot of time together, and are very close.

You said he isn't very involved! Now you're backtracking because people are calling out that your DH isn't a good parent and you have enabled him.

[Anonymous]

STOP TYPING AND CALL THE SCHOOL.