Would this bother you?

[Anonymous]

Your husband is being weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like it has more to do with this friend in particular, since he doesn’t like him personally. Did you know about this issue already? Does he have good reason for disliking him? If so, you can have your opinions, but are definitely in the wrong from my perspective. His yelling is a product of you showing him a complete lack of respect and not taking his concerns seriously.

My ex wife ended up having an affair with the one “friend” that I disliked immediately. It was a case of soft boundaries creating opportunities for a man with ill intentions. Be careful with this “friend”.

Uhm he yelled because she refused to obey him and cancel the trip. I'd triple down and definitely go now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You may look at the guy as just a friend but I wouldn’t be surprised if the guy looks at you differently and your husband picks that up.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You may look at the guy as just a friend but I wouldn’t be surprised if the guy looks at you differently and your husband picks that up.

+1

+2, A previous girlfriend broke up with me because I was jealous of one of her male friends, who she conveniently hooked up with a day later. I'll admit it's me projecting, but I'm also thinking you may be leaving out some important information about the relationship with the man your travelling with.

[Anonymous]

I would have run it by my now-ex before booking tickets regardless of who I was traveling with. You have a 6yo child. "Hey, I'd like to go to Larla's wedding in June in Oshkosh. Are those dates cool? I'm going to travel with Friend" whether friend is male or female.

[Anonymous]

Are you sharing a hotel room with the friend? If not, why is your husband bothered about you flying with them? Does he think you're going to hook up in the bathroom on the plane or something? He sounds insecure and immature. I'm a female with a lot of male friends and I made it clear decades ago when my husband and I started dating that I wasn't dropping my friends for him. I'm not disrespectful of my husband's feelings at all, but I'd never be with someone who didn't trust me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband and I got into a huge fight today (first one in months) and now I’m wondering who’s being unreasonable.

One of my old male college friends invited me to fly with him to attend our mutual female friend’s wedding. We’ve all known each other forever and there has never been anything romantic between us. It’s a short trip (about a 2-hour flight) and honestly just seemed practical/convenient to coordinate travel together.

My husband is furious about it and says he doesn’t want me to travel with my friend. I said he could come if he wanted, but he dislikes my friend, and says no. Today he yelled at me about it in front of our 6 year old daughter, which upset her so much she started crying. That bothered me more than the argument itself.

I told him I understand why he may feel uncomfortable and I’m sorry about that, but the ticket is already booked and I truly don’t feel like I’m doing anything wrong. I also don’t want to miss my friend’s wedding over this.

Would this bother other men here? Am I being insensitive, or is my husband overreacting?

On a private jet? If so your husband is JEALOUS.

[Anonymous]

Why wouldn't you talk to your husband about this before you bought the ticket? That seems like the logical thing to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband and I got into a huge fight today (first one in months) and now I’m wondering who’s being unreasonable.

One of my old male college friends invited me to fly with him to attend our mutual female friend’s wedding. We’ve all known each other forever and there has never been anything romantic between us. It’s a short trip (about a 2-hour flight) and honestly just seemed practical/convenient to coordinate travel together.

My husband is furious about it and says he doesn’t want me to travel with my friend. I said he could come if he wanted, but he dislikes my friend, and says no. Today he yelled at me about it in front of our 6 year old daughter, which upset her so much she started crying. That bothered me more than the argument itself.

I told him I understand why he may feel uncomfortable and I’m sorry about that, but the ticket is already booked and I truly don’t feel like I’m doing anything wrong. I also don’t want to miss my friend’s wedding over this.

Would this bother other men here? Am I being insensitive, or is my husband overreacting?

Why? Because he doesn't like or trust this guy? I'm trying to figure out why your husband would be uncomfortable about it. Also, if you knew he would be uncomfortable about it then it was kind of a crappy thing for you to just book it. To be clear, I think your husband is being both stupid and rude but it sounds like maybe you did something you knew would make him mad?

[Anonymous]

Did he just offer to travel with you? Are you two staying together too, with two beds in one room? Sure, nothing will happen...

You know you want him. That’s why you care less about what he thinks. That’s why you did not even have a prior conversation about it. And now you’re gaslighting him.

[Anonymous]

Your husband should be grateful you will have an escort to protect you from any dangers--it's not always safe for a woman to be traveling alone. If you're sharing a hotel room (rooms with a solo queen bed are the cheapest), splitting the cost of a cab/car rental, he should be glad you're shaving hundreds of dollars off this trip than if you went solo.

Since he is such a close friend, I'd talk about this situation with him while you have lots of time together on this trip. I'd ask him whether DH's jealousy and insecurity is something you should have to put up with as a wife, and share whether or not you are truly happy and fulfilled in this marriage. An outside perspective from someone who knows both of you could be very insightful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did he just offer to travel with you? Are you two staying together too, with two beds in one room? Sure, nothing will happen...

You know you want him. That’s why you care less about what he thinks. That’s why you did not even have a prior conversation about it. And now you’re gaslighting him.

You are not well. I hope you are not married.

[Anonymous]

OP would you be ok if your husband had similar plans w a female friend ?

[Anonymous]

Y’all are sound perfect for each other.

[Anonymous]

We all know women who would rip their husband’s balls off for doing the same thing so get over the yelling part. OP is wrong.