Would this bother you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you sharing a hotel room with the friend? If not, why is your husband bothered about you flying with them? Does he think you're going to hook up in the bathroom on the plane or something? He sounds insecure and immature. I'm a female with a lot of male friends and I made it clear decades ago when my husband and I started dating that I wasn't dropping my friends for him. I'm not disrespectful of my husband's feelings at all, but I'd never be with someone who didn't trust me.

Your husband is a pussy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I didn’t discuss this with him before, because I knew how he’d react, and didn’t want to deal with it until later. He has no reason to be angry or to distrust me. I wouldn’t mind if he did the same.

OP, the way you framed this is that of a classic manipulator. You didn't tell him in advance because you didn't want him to know about it, not because of a hypothetical future reaction that you prevented from occurring by your concealment. Obviously. If he finds out after you've booked, you will say he's overreacting and ignore his objections, which you did. You're a manipulative liar and you're obviously planning on hooking up with your friend

[Anonymous]

Would it bother me? No, because I make my own decisions. Husband's emotions are his own to deal with. Do what you want, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband and I got into a huge fight today (first one in months) and now I’m wondering who’s being unreasonable.

One of my old male college friends invited me to fly with him to attend our mutual female friend’s wedding. We’ve all known each other forever and there has never been anything romantic between us. It’s a short trip (about a 2-hour flight) and honestly just seemed practical/convenient to coordinate travel together.

My husband is furious about it and says he doesn’t want me to travel with my friend. I said he could come if he wanted, but he dislikes my friend, and says no. Today he yelled at me about it in front of our 6 year old daughter, which upset her so much she started crying. That bothered me more than the argument itself.

I told him I understand why he may feel uncomfortable and I’m sorry about that, but the ticket is already booked and I truly don’t feel like I’m doing anything wrong. I also don’t want to miss my friend’s wedding over this.

Would this bother other men here? Am I being insensitive, or is my husband overreacting?

Just admit it. You are attracted to that male friend. You sound like a wife who is planning to cheat on her husband.
No faithful wife would leave her husband to travel to a wedding with a male friend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would it bother me? No, because I make my own decisions. Husband's emotions are his own to deal with. Do what you want, OP.

Your poor husband, he married for a partner and got an inconsiderate, unsupportive, disrespectful abuse factory.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You may look at the guy as just a friend but I wouldn’t be surprised if the guy looks at you differently and your husband picks that up.

this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband and I got into a huge fight today (first one in months) and now I’m wondering who’s being unreasonable.

One of my old male college friends invited me to fly with him to attend our mutual female friend’s wedding. We’ve all known each other forever and there has never been anything romantic between us. It’s a short trip (about a 2-hour flight) and honestly just seemed practical/convenient to coordinate travel together.

My husband is furious about it and says he doesn’t want me to travel with my friend. I said he could come if he wanted, but he dislikes my friend, and says no. Today he yelled at me about it in front of our 6 year old daughter, which upset her so much she started crying. That bothered me more than the argument itself.

I told him I understand why he may feel uncomfortable and I’m sorry about that, but the ticket is already booked and I truly don’t feel like I’m doing anything wrong. I also don’t want to miss my friend’s wedding over this.

Would this bother other men here? Am I being insensitive, or is my husband overreacting?

Are you a man? This is DCUM so gotta ask. I make no assumptions.

[Anonymous]

Who plans to leave their kid to fly somewhere without even discussing it with their partner first?

[Anonymous]

Why would you need to travel together for a 2 hour flight?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

just seemed practical/convenient to coordinate travel together

This makes no sense.

If it was your husband, would it be more "practical/convenient" for him to travel with one of his male/female old college friends? Of course not.

Sorry. You don't sound credible.

NP. My DH? Yes, I would b/c he's never given me a reason to not trust him. I would expect this in reverse, as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you sharing a hotel room with the friend? If not, why is your husband bothered about you flying with them? Does he think you're going to hook up in the bathroom on the plane or something? He sounds insecure and immature. I'm a female with a lot of male friends and I made it clear decades ago when my husband and I started dating that I wasn't dropping my friends for him. I'm not disrespectful of my husband's feelings at all, but I'd never be with someone who didn't trust me.

Your husband is a pussy.

Not only that, but he can't win. If he is against this, he is an insecure man. If he doesn't complain, she tells her friends how he is advanced and confident while he stews.why do women play these games?