Old friend (well of 10-15 years) is ghosting me and I don’t know why…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are you posting here instead of picking up the phone and asking her?

She already said she's getting no response. The correct thing to do is let it go, not stalk and harass by phone. That doesn't mean one can't notice a friendship died.

Can you read? She texted. Not nearly the same as a phone call.

If the friend wanted to be in touch, she'd respond. Op needs to leave her alone.

[Anonymous]

Relax

[Anonymous]

There could have been a close death, she could have med issues, maybe she’s very hectic at work, her kids might have incredible issues, etc.

[Anonymous]

I did this to a long term friend. All she talked about was herself all the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I did this to a long term friend. All she talked about was herself all the time.

yep and when I tried to talk about myself/my interests/my concerns, she changed the subject or made it about her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's impossible for us to give insight based on the limited info. Why does she owe you her free time?

NP. What kind of comment is this, in relation to a long-time friendship? Obviously nobody “owes” anybody anything but I’ve literally never thought of friendship in that context or through that lens.its so cynical and defensive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My close friend of longer than that ghosted me suddenly during an illness. When I reached out to say I was hurt, she got defensive and ghosted me again. This time forever. Still hurts years later.

Whose illness, yours or hers? If yours, she wasn’t truly a friend at all.

[Anonymous]

She’d finally had enough. She realized you weren’t going to change, or that what she thought was harmless teasing jabs were actually thinly veiled insults. She suddenly felt used. Maybe even her kids noticed you were mean to her.
Let her go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are you posting here instead of picking up the phone and asking her?

She already said she's getting no response. The correct thing to do is let it go, not stalk and harass by phone. That doesn't mean one can't notice a friendship died.

Can you read? She texted. Not nearly the same as a phone call.

Almost exactly the same. Someone who won't text you back isn't going to pick up the phone. OP already got the message to stay away, just needs to process it now.

[Anonymous]

OP, let her know how you feel and see how she responds. Either way, you’ll have your answer. As someone who has walked away from long-term friendships, this more about her than you, regardless of what the PPs above say.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Right now I'm ghosting friends who are taking more than they are giving.

Well, now guess what you get? A black hole of silence. You should look at it as a gift.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She’d finally had enough. She realized you weren’t going to change, or that what she thought was harmless teasing jabs were actually thinly veiled insults. She suddenly felt used. Maybe even her kids noticed you were mean to her.
Let her go.

This and this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, let her know how you feel and see how she responds. Either way, you’ll have your answer. As someone who has walked away from long-term friendships, this more about her than you, regardless of what the PPs above say.

It is about her (ops friend), but it's also about op. Going on the provided information, the friend's silence is the message. Let her contact you, op. Stop contacting her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She’d finally had enough. She realized you weren’t going to change, or that what she thought was harmless teasing jabs were actually thinly veiled insults. She suddenly felt used. Maybe even her kids noticed you were mean to her.
Let her go.

This is a nutty post. Wow

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Right now I'm ghosting friends who are taking more than they are giving.

This!

+1!

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