Portion size for your DH

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are you policing what a grown man eats?

Because he’s OBESE! BMI 33.

I assume he is underreporting on things like the mac and cheese.

How tall ?

BMI doesn’t work for tall athletic bodies.

What is his hip to waist ratio?

[Anonymous]

You should not be policing what he eats. I can't believe he is even entertaining this conversation with you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DH and I are at odds about what is typical food intake for a man.

Here is a typical daily log, which seems like way too much food.

breakfast:
Two egg omelette on a bagel with tomato and onion

Lunch:
6” deli meat sub, fruit slices, baked crisps

Snack:
Two handfuls of honey roasted peanuts

Dinner
Two chicken thighs, sautéed vegetables, starch like a 1-2 cups of potatoes au gratin or Mac and cheese.

I'll go ahead and say it. Past the age of 50 that is probably too much food to maintain weight. Most of us really can't get away with eating 3 full on-meals plus a snack daily every day, which is what you are listing. Two egg omelette with a bagel followed by a big lunch is a lot of food for the first part of the day.

I say what I said above and do want to be clear...you should not be tracking his food or having anything to do with his food. Stop.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH and I are at odds about what is typical food intake for a man.

Here is a typical daily log, which seems like way too much food.

breakfast:
Two egg omelette on a bagel with tomato and onion

Lunch:
6” deli meat sub, fruit slices, baked crisps

Snack:
Two handfuls of honey roasted peanuts

Dinner
Two chicken thighs, sautéed vegetables, starch like a 1-2 cups of potatoes au gratin or Mac and cheese.

Man here. Portion wise, that's fine. But it's a lot of fat and carbs. An EXTRAORDINARY amount of carbs. The bagel and sub bread alone probably add up to around 125 grams. The snack and dinner carbs are that again.

Why are you trying to restrict his diet, though?

[Anonymous]

Wonder what the answers would be if a DH came on here and asked about his wife's food intake. Total lunacy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are you policing what a grown man eats?

Because he’s OBESE! BMI 33.

I assume he is underreporting on things like the mac and cheese.

What's his alcohol intake? He could have insulin resistance.

[Anonymous]

the 1 - 2 cups starch seems excessive to me. a normal portion of anything at anywhere is more like a 4-6 oz.

2 eggs on a sandwich also seems like a lot (i only use one) but not outrageous (and an egg is what, 90 calories?)

[Anonymous]

I think the biggest factor is if your DH is asking for help managing his diet. If he is, then I think it's great that you are helping him. If he's not, well, you can read the other comments that have already told you.

This probably is not the best strategy but if you want him to lose weight on his own, you probably have to help him gain weight first. If you encourage him to eat all of his favorite foods and get him really big, he will realize that he's got to lose weight for himself and then you can start "helping" him. Again, not the best strategy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wonder what the answers would be if a DH came on here and asked about his wife's food intake. Total lunacy.

This hit a nerve with me. DH serves me portions like I’m a child. 2-3 ounces of meat. 1/2 cup of carb. It makes me crazy. Don’t try to police someone else’s food. Your spouse is an adult and gets to decide how much they eat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wonder what the answers would be if a DH came on here and asked about his wife's food intake. Total lunacy.

This hit a nerve with me. DH serves me portions like I’m a child. 2-3 ounces of meat. 1/2 cup of carb. It makes me crazy. Don’t try to police someone else’s food. Your spouse is an adult and gets to decide how much they eat.

I hope you go back and serve yourself whatever you want to eat. Insane.

[Anonymous]

It's too much simple carbs for anyone. Needs to have a lot more fiber for fullness and for colon health. Lentils, sautéed or raw greens etc etc. fiber at breakfast too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are you policing what a grown man eats?

Because he’s OBESE! BMI 33.

I assume he is underreporting on things like the mac and cheese.

What's his alcohol intake? He could have insulin resistance.

No alcohol, probably prediabetic

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DH and I are at odds about what is typical food intake for a man.

Here is a typical daily log, which seems like way too much food.

breakfast:
Two egg omelette on a bagel with tomato and onion

Lunch:
6” deli meat sub, fruit slices, baked crisps

Snack:
Two handfuls of honey roasted peanuts

Dinner
Two chicken thighs, sautéed vegetables, starch like a 1-2 cups of potatoes au gratin or Mac and cheese.

Man here. Portion wise, that's fine. But it's a lot of fat and carbs. An EXTRAORDINARY amount of carbs. The bagel and sub bread alone probably add up to around 125 grams. The snack and dinner carbs are that again.

Why are you trying to restrict his diet, though?

Define "EXTRAORDINARY." If you are referring to above and beyond what OP's DH should be eating as a percentage of his overall diet, then ok. Probably. But it isn't much (if at all) beyond what most Americans are eating.

[Anonymous]

OP, I've read all of your responses here.

If you have that much contempt for your DH, and such a need to criticize him, just discuss divorce with him now. You are hitting 2/4 (and the biggest and baddest) of the horsemen in this one post.

[Anonymous]

OP, I eat more than this daily and I weigh 120 pounds. Leave your poor DH alone.