College sophomore home and sleeping in until 2-3 pm

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My guess is that it's not actually the sleeping late that is the issue, it's the fact that he seems to be taking it easy when he should be looking for a job.
And the fact that you are working to pay his tuition while he takes it easy.

I think the sleeping late is normal, procrastinating on the job search is also normal but needs to be addressed.

Maybe he doesn't want to get a summer job? He works and parties all year long. Maybe he just wants to sleep in every day until 2-3 from late May to August?

Ha. Not in my house, he wouldn't.

[Anonymous]

My kid is a college senior. Already accepted a job offer and will join work in June. He will be making bank.

He sleeps in until 4 pm. Gets up and ask his dad to feed him , and since he has a daddy seahorse in the form of human father, he gets a hot meal in his bed ( ). No, he won't bother me because it pisses me off and he knows it.

Then, God knows what he does but suddenly springs up from bed and at 8 pm when he is showered and smelling good - goes to hang out with his friends and comes home at 4 am.

OR if he is at home...he is video-gaming and cussing worse than a sailor.

And all his friends are the same - not lumpen elements per se but only coming out and furtively active at night like cockroaches. They hang in each others basements, watch movies, play poker, play video games, plan trips, eat out. Uffff ...gen Z...I love him and also want to shake him.

[Anonymous]

What’s he doing at night?

I could roll with a weird schedule if everything else is okay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kid is a college senior. Already accepted a job offer and will join work in June. He will be making bank.

He sleeps in until 4 pm. Gets up and ask his dad to feed him , and since he has a daddy seahorse in the form of human father, he gets a hot meal in his bed ( ). No, he won't bother me because it pisses me off and he knows it.

Then, God knows what he does but suddenly springs up from bed and at 8 pm when he is showered and smelling good - goes to hang out with his friends and comes home at 4 am.

OR if he is at home...he is video-gaming and cussing worse than a sailor.

And all his friends are the same - not lumpen elements per se but only coming out and furtively active at night like cockroaches. They hang in each others basements, watch movies, play poker, play video games, plan trips, eat out. Uffff ...gen Z...I love him and also want to shake him.

Christ this is so grumpy though. Were you always 100 years old? Young people are nocturnal. He seems like a great kid with friends who has done well. Why would you want to shake him?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kid is a college senior. Already accepted a job offer and will join work in June. He will be making bank.

He sleeps in until 4 pm. Gets up and ask his dad to feed him , and since he has a daddy seahorse in the form of human father, he gets a hot meal in his bed ( ). No, he won't bother me because it pisses me off and he knows it.

Then, God knows what he does but suddenly springs up from bed and at 8 pm when he is showered and smelling good - goes to hang out with his friends and comes home at 4 am.

OR if he is at home...he is video-gaming and cussing worse than a sailor.

And all his friends are the same - not lumpen elements per se but only coming out and furtively active at night like cockroaches. They hang in each others basements, watch movies, play poker, play video games, plan trips, eat out. Uffff ...gen Z...I love him and also want to shake him.

wut

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My guess is that it's not actually the sleeping late that is the issue, it's the fact that he seems to be taking it easy when he should be looking for a job.
And the fact that you are working to pay his tuition while he takes it easy.

I think the sleeping late is normal, procrastinating on the job search is also normal but needs to be addressed.

Maybe he doesn't want to get a summer job? He works and parties all year long. Maybe he just wants to sleep in every day until 2-3 from late May to August?

Ha. Not in my house, he wouldn't.

Why? Have you always been an overly controlling parent?

[Anonymous]

This would drive me nuts as well, OP. If he doesn't find a full-time summer job (or string together several part-time jobs to make 35-40 hours per week), then I would stop paying for his cell phone and his car and other extras. Make sure you sit down with him this winter break and tell him that last summer was a mistake, and that you are requiring him to get a job/jobs this summer in order for you to continue paying his bills. It is time for him to learn how to be an adult. He can play hard if and only if he works hard.

[Anonymous]

OP here. I wonder if it changes anyone perspective if I clarify that they are my daughter.

[Anonymous]

16:52 PP here. DS or DD... doesn't change my perspective at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My guess is that it's not actually the sleeping late that is the issue, it's the fact that he seems to be taking it easy when he should be looking for a job.
And the fact that you are working to pay his tuition while he takes it easy.

I think the sleeping late is normal, procrastinating on the job search is also normal but needs to be addressed.

This
OP prepare for a soon to be unemployed or underemployed college graduate who will more than likely return to your home full time.

Best of luck though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My college kid is home for winter break. Like last year, they are sleeping in, daily, until often after 2 pm. One day last week, was after 3 pm. I WFH and this is driving me nuts.

They don't have a job. In fact, they should be finding a summer job. (didn't have one last summer, so this is a priority.)

They have been home since mid-December. Since the holidays are over, this is now officially making me frustrated.

Am I wrong? Are all of your college kids home this winter doing the same? Are we normal?

My college sophomore is seeing his friends at night, but pounding the pavement for internships during the day for next summer. The peer group seems to be doing the same. What are your son’s professional goals?

[Anonymous]

My college freshman is home. He has a job at Target. I don’t know what time he goes to sleep, what time he wakes up or when he is coming or going. He hangs out with friends a lot too when he is not working. He also helps by running my errands for me. We did not require him to work but happy he is doing so. Sleeping until 4pm would not bother me but not doing anything all day would bother me, but not doing something would.

[Anonymous]

Finding a summer job and sleeping late are two separate issues. Is it really a reasonable time to find a summer job now? It starts in four or five months? If it is a reasonable time for the kind of job, he is seeking, talk to him about that.

Regarding sleeping late, I would leave the kid alone. Even if they are having a good time at school, it is exhausting living in a dorm, being on your own, having to take all of your meals out at the cafeteria, doing homework. My kid works hard during the term and then comes home and crashes and luxuriates just so grateful to be home and sleep, relax, hang out with old friends and eat home cooking. I am happy for home to be that restful place for him.

[Anonymous]

They basically have completely messed up sleep cycles. That is another issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Finding a summer job and sleeping late are two separate issues. Is it really a reasonable time to find a summer job now? It starts in four or five months? If it is a reasonable time for the kind of job, he is seeking, talk to him about that.

Regarding sleeping late, I would leave the kid alone. Even if they are having a good time at school, it is exhausting living in a dorm, being on your own, having to take all of your meals out at the cafeteria, doing homework. My kid works hard during the term and then comes home and crashes and luxuriates just so grateful to be home and sleep, relax, hang out with old friends and eat home cooking. I am happy for home to be that restful place for him.

Yep. Our college junior secured their paid Summer job last week during their Winter break.