When you separated/ divorced - were you sad or relieved?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Devastated. But it wasn't my choice.[/quote

Same, the first divorce. Still sad about it.
Second divorce, relief and rage. I’ll never get the money and time back he robbed me of.

[Anonymous]

I was sad. Never saw my life playing out like that.

I was also very excited to sleep with new and younger women.

[Anonymous]

Relieved. I had been waiting since six months into marriage to divorce. We never should have married and it lasted a decade. Getting married ruined my life. I am a woman.

[Anonymous]

I'm a guy that divorced... is it 20 years ago now?
I'm the one that moved out. I had my faults in the relationship and did everything that was asked to try to fix things. (Well, getting a new job was a struggle at the time, but everything else.) But eventually I finally moved out. I still vividly remember laying in bed the first night thinking about if it was the right decision after all of the stuff, and all of the efforts I made, and the counseling that I went to, and then she finally decided to get involved with when "divorce" was mentioned. And then I suddenly felt all of the pent up stress that I had just wash away. That I didn't have to live within the box and rules and everything anymore and I could do whatever I wanted. In hindsight, sometimes I think about some things from when we were dating that I should've viewed as bigger red flags. I wouldn't have done things over again with her. Sure, I had some things to work on with myself. That new freedom gave me the opportunity to work on things without walking on egg shells and feeling like nothing I did was right.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I felt a range of emotions. I was married for 24 years. The alimony for life helps make me less sad.

How were you able to get a lifetime alimony?

[Anonymous]

Relieved was my middle name.

[Anonymous]

op - i am mostly sad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I felt a range of emotions. I was married for 24 years. The alimony for life helps make me less sad.

How were you able to get a lifetime alimony?

20 is the magic number…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I felt a range of emotions. I was married for 24 years. The alimony for life helps make me less sad.

How were you able to get a lifetime alimony?

20 is the magic number…

Do you work? I have a job but married 25+ but with big salary discrepancy

[Anonymous]

Sad. So incredibly sad. And so guilt ridden. But ten years later, I know that it was the right thing to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I felt a range of emotions. I was married for 24 years. The alimony for life helps make me less sad.

How were you able to get a lifetime alimony?

20 is the magic number…

Do you work? I have a job but married 25+ but with big salary discrepancy

We owned a company together. I got my half but also lost my job.

[Anonymous]

So relieved, but it was my choice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sad. So incredibly sad. And so guilt ridden. But ten years later, I know that it was the right thing to do.

Why the guilt?

[Anonymous]

NP-were you still sad if you initiated it due to cheating?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I felt a range of emotions. I was married for 24 years. The alimony for life helps make me less sad.

How were you able to get a lifetime alimony?

20 is the magic number…

DP here. I have heard several anecdotal stories of people getting lifetime alimony in VA for marriages over 20+ particularly when the wife was a SAHM for a significant period of time. Obviously every case is different.