When you separated/ divorced - were you sad or relieved?
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Anonymous
| About to separate and I just feel so sad about it. And angry that this is how things turned out and this is my life now, and it’s going to be so much harder as a result. How did you feel when it happened? |
Anonymous
| Devastated. But it wasn't my choice. |
Anonymous
| I initiated the separation/divorce and felt huge relief. I had been very depressed around my ex, who alternated between ignoring me and making me feel like I was walking on eggshells. After I left, I sometimes felt very sad about the failure of our marriage, but the sadness didn't last more than a few minutes or hours. My ex ended up dating before I did, but as soon as that happened, I started dating too, and that resulted in lots of fun, new emotional connections, and surprisingly good sex (as well as new disappointments). |
Anonymous
Same. Totally blindsided. Completely devastated. I’m still sad, but I will be relieved when it is final. |
Anonymous
| I felt a range of emotions. I was married for 24 years. The alimony for life helps make me less sad. |
Anonymous
| Angry, foolish, free, scared, brave. I was all over the place. |
Anonymous
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The answer is yes.
Devastated because it was due to abuse, and nobody chooses to be abused. But also relieved, because it was due to abuse. Not that the abuse ended with the filing, but I keep reminding myself every day that slowly but surely I'm taking away more and more avenues for abuse to occur. |
Anonymous
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I was upset when I realized it was probably gonna fall apart.
I was relieved when it ended. |
Anonymous
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I was blindsided and devastated.
16 months later I realize it's the best thing that's happened to me in a long time. I made myself so, so small for that man. And I couldn't see it, because it felt like my survival depended on it. |
Anonymous
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Separated yes, more uncertainty to come.
Fully divorced no, was great. |
Anonymous
| Both. Relieved I finally did what was in my and my kids best interests, sad that this is what it came to. |
Anonymous
same. I was blindsided and betrayed by his affair |
Anonymous
| Both sad and relieved. Sad, because this is not how I imagined this union would turn out, and I was mourning what could have been. Relieved, because the way it’s been, this marriage was torture, and I was finally free. |
Anonymous
| Relieved as they were toxic/mentally unwell. They killed themselves soon after. Glad they didn't take me out. |
Anonymous
| Relieved but I wanted the divorce and we didn't have kids. Your situation sounds different. |