Appropriate to wear black to a wedding?

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Anonymous wrote:It's fine. I like the jewelry idea.

This.

Another +1 to this. Black is the new "appropriate for everything" color. My bridesmaids wore black.

Hmm. That's unusual and I think guests should check with the couple to ask if they can wear black.

Totally disagree. Are you 95 years old?

I would be completely upset as a bride to have guests checking colors with me. Who has time for that?

My SIL wore black to my daytime wedding and mildly upset some people (I didn't really care). Maybe to evening weddings, it's OK, but in general, no, you do not wear black to weddings. Most people don't even check with the couple and just steer clear of that color, but you shouldn't be upset if they do - they're trying to make your day go smoothly. You'd be upset if someone showed up wearing something you didn't like, so your guests can't win, can they?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d be offended if someone wore black at my wedding. It’s the color of sadness and mourning.

Are 84? That's absurd.

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No black.

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https://www.brides.com/can-you-wear-black-to-a-wedding-4800808?utm_source=copilot.com


Yes it is. The people posting it's offensive are likely boomers. Or ignorant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No black.

Maybe get with the times. It's 2026 not 1926

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’d be offended if someone wore black at my wedding. It’s the color of sadness and mourning.

Are 84? That's absurd.

I’m 42. It’s inappropriate in my social circle. I suppose if you only had one dress I would be understanding.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I know the consensus is that it’s fine for an evening wedding. The wedding in question is on Valentine’s Day at 4:30pm, and while the venue is upscale, the wedding itself is fairly casual (the ceremony will be held at the same location.)

I have a black A line dress with sleeves, thick material and wintery. I was going to dress it up with red or pink jewelry for the “holiday”.

What are the rules on wearing black? Thanks!

Not at 4:30pm. If it was 5:30 or 6:00pm it would be ok.

I'm sorry, but these rules are just silly.

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Anonymous wrote:https://www.brides.com/can-you-wear-black-to-a-wedding-4800808?utm_source=copilot.com


Yes it is. The people posting it's offensive are likely boomers. Or ignorant.

. . . Or they follow more traditional UC customs rather than a sensationalize fad magazine

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No black.

Maybe get with the times. It's 2026 not 1926

Good manners never go out of style. Let’s add don’t wear overly bold colors or revealing clothing. No beach wear or flip flops. Geez, some people really must have grown up in the tenement housing with no one to teach them the basics.. should we add don’t eat with your hands (except foods designed to), no vulgar language, and no overly aggressive gestures. It’s appropriate to bring a gift.

These social norms are to ensue people are comfortable, which is what good manners mean. Buy a book; there are plenty.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know the consensus is that it’s fine for an evening wedding. The wedding in question is on Valentine’s Day at 4:30pm, and while the venue is upscale, the wedding itself is fairly casual (the ceremony will be held at the same location.)

I have a black A line dress with sleeves, thick material and wintery. I was going to dress it up with red or pink jewelry for the “holiday”.

What are the rules on wearing black? Thanks!

Not at 4:30pm. If it was 5:30 or 6:00pm it would be ok.

I'm sorry, but these rules are just silly.

Ok, you can just look silly. You must be the girl who thinks it's fine to wear white. Whatever looks good on your Insta.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No black.

Maybe get with the times. It's 2026 not 1926

Good manners never go out of style. Let’s add don’t wear overly bold colors or revealing clothing. No beach wear or flip flops. Geez, some people really must have grown up in the tenement housing with no one to teach them the basics.. should we add don’t eat with your hands (except foods designed to), no vulgar language, and no overly aggressive gestures. It’s appropriate to bring a gift.

These social norms are to ensue people are comfortable, which is what good manners mean. Buy a book; there are plenty.

If you want to ensure people are comfortable, don’t make them go out and buy clothing to please you. Let them wear the stuff they already own.

Oh, and the reference to “tenement housing” really shows your class. The people you are trying to emulate would never say it.

[Anonymous]

NO RED!

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Anonymous wrote:NO RED!

You’re insane if you think a guest can’t wear red jewelry. What are you, afraid of the devil or something?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No black.

Maybe get with the times. It's 2026 not 1926

Good manners never go out of style. Let’s add don’t wear overly bold colors or revealing clothing. No beach wear or flip flops. Geez, some people really must have grown up in the tenement housing with no one to teach them the basics.. should we add don’t eat with your hands (except foods designed to), no vulgar language, and no overly aggressive gestures. It’s appropriate to bring a gift.

These social norms are to ensue people are comfortable, which is what good manners mean. Buy a book; there are plenty.

If you want to ensure people are comfortable, don’t make them go out and buy clothing to please you. Let them wear the stuff they already own.

Oh, and the reference to “tenement housing” really shows your class. The people you are trying to emulate would never say it.

I emulate no one - anonymous board and all that. And most people have something appropriate in their closet. I wouldn’t expect anyone to go out and buy something new - where did I say that? I’m sure OP has an appropriate dress in a different color. A 430 wedding is not a black tie event - church clothing would work.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:NO RED!

You’re insane if you think a guest can’t wear red jewelry. What are you, afraid of the devil or something?

I think PP meant no red dress. No one would think no red applies to jewelry or accents on a dress - for example a cute floral a-line with red on the flowers.