Do you 3rd graders do lots of sleepovers?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP if your kid wants one, why wouldn't you just host one? I personally hate them, but two of my kids started them in 1st grade. Fortunately, they kind of fizzle out and stop doing them by 7th/8th grade.

oh they come back when kids need to crash after drinking

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP- if your kid is dying to do a sleepover, but no one is inviting her and mistakenly feels that you are holding her back from participating--why not host a sleepover at your home? You can have a small one with just 2-3 kids if you want to check out how this works with your child. Problem solved.

+1

[Anonymous]

Too many perverts no way for my DD

[Anonymous]

OP here. The only reason we haven't hosted is that the kids my DD is closest to don't do them. Two of her closest friends are a year younger, which is part of it. One of their moms has discussed doing a sleep under with us. The others don't do them at all yet. If there was another girl she's friends with who did sleepovers, we would have hosted by now.

But DD is convinced she's the only girl in her grade who hasn't done a sleepover. I was just trying to get a sense for if that was true or not. I can tell there is a group of girls in he class who are close and I think live near each other, I'm guessing this is who she is referring to. But that's not all the kids. So I'm just trying to figure out if she's as much of an outlier as she thinks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. The only reason we haven't hosted is that the kids my DD is closest to don't do them. Two of her closest friends are a year younger, which is part of it. One of their moms has discussed doing a sleep under with us. The others don't do them at all yet. If there was another girl she's friends with who did sleepovers, we would have hosted by now.

But DD is convinced she's the only girl in her grade who hasn't done a sleepover. I was just trying to get a sense for if that was true or not. I can tell there is a group of girls in he class who are close and I think live near each other, I'm guessing this is who she is referring to. But that's not all the kids. So I'm just trying to figure out if she's as much of an outlier as she thinks.

Then host a sleepover with the kids you think may be hosting sleepovers with your DD in an attempt to get your DD into that circle, or drop it until her real friends get older and want to do sleepovers. But asking for info on an anonymous internet board to figure out whether your kid is an "outlier" of the 3rd grade set seems...misguided.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Too many perverts no way for my DD

Same

[Anonymous]

We only do them with families we know well. So if the case is that the families you know well don't do sleepovers, so be it.

If it's really important to you, find out from your daughter which kids are doing sleepovers and invite one of those kids over.

[Anonymous]

None. No way to ensure they are safe.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. The only reason we haven't hosted is that the kids my DD is closest to don't do them. Two of her closest friends are a year younger, which is part of it. One of their moms has discussed doing a sleep under with us. The others don't do them at all yet. If there was another girl she's friends with who did sleepovers, we would have hosted by now.

But DD is convinced she's the only girl in her grade who hasn't done a sleepover. I was just trying to get a sense for if that was true or not. I can tell there is a group of girls in he class who are close and I think live near each other, I'm guessing this is who she is referring to. But that's not all the kids. So I'm just trying to figure out if she's as much of an outlier as she thinks.

Then host a sleepover with the kids you think may be hosting sleepovers with your DD in an attempt to get your DD into that circle, or drop it until her real friends get older and want to do sleepovers. But asking for info on an anonymous internet board to figure out whether your kid is an "outlier" of the 3rd grade set seems...misguided.

Why is it misguided? I have no idea what other families do, outside of my family and the handful of families we know well. This seems like as good a way as any to find out if my DD's perception is correct or not.

I don't care about getting my DD into the "circle" of kids who do sleepovers. She likes her current friends. She just wants to do sleepovers with them, and they don't do sleepovers yet.

[Anonymous]

My son attended his first sleepover in second grade and a few in third grade. He hosts one or two a year and goes to one or two each year. He also camps with Scouts once a month but I don’t know if those count as sleep overs.

[Anonymous]

Yes my third grader had the their first sleepover with some close friends within the last month. It was a blast! We plan to do more!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:None. No way to ensure they are safe.

What are you doing to ensure they're safe at school? I used to work in a school district. They fingerprinted me and ran the prints for that state only. If I'd abused kids in another state (and only if I'd been caught and arrested for it), that wouldn't show up. I can't tell you how many times I was in an art supply closet or an empty classroom and a kid would come in to talk with me. Just the two of us. I coached gymnastics and no background check was done on me at all. I was a camp counselor and no background check was done on me. I've been alone with kids in all these places. So how are you ensuring your kids are safe everywhere they go without you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:None. No way to ensure they are safe.

What are you doing to ensure they're safe at school? I used to work in a school district. They fingerprinted me and ran the prints for that state only. If I'd abused kids in another state (and only if I'd been caught and arrested for it), that wouldn't show up. I can't tell you how many times I was in an art supply closet or an empty classroom and a kid would come in to talk with me. Just the two of us. I coached gymnastics and no background check was done on me at all. I was a camp counselor and no background check was done on me. I've been alone with kids in all these places. So how are you ensuring your kids are safe everywhere they go without you?

DP but it's an unnecessary risk. There's no upside and only downside. We don't do gymnastics either. I don't need to serve my kid on a platter to predators.

[Anonymous]

How many have you hosted?

[Anonymous]

My 3rd grader had his first sleepover with his bestie this year. It was a first for both boys.