SIL plotted to inherit estates from childless aunts

[Anonymous]

Recency bias is real OP. Forget the last 50 years, all that matters is the last few.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So, ah, how often do you visit these childless aunts, OP? I'm thinking pretty much never?

+1

Right? Shame on you OP. You do not look good here.

SIL is here!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So, ah, how often do you visit these childless aunts, OP? I'm thinking pretty much never?

Everyone knows to hit up the childless aunts OP!!!!!

[Anonymous]

If you work in finance, concentrate on your own money. You know you can take a small sum and turn it into millions. Concentrate on that.
All this estate thing is time consuming. You should be glad someone else is doing it.
The aunts decide what to do with their money.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like she does work.

[Anonymous]

Their money, OP, not yours.

Unless you think these aunts are childless incompetent creatures?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Recency bias is real OP. Forget the last 50 years, all that matters is the last few.

Unfortunately this ended up as a First Come, First Served situation and the relatives didn’t care that it was a spouse of a relative nor to ask around.

Bear in mind, the executioner of a will can, in reality, do whatever s/he wants with the house, money, art, vehicles, or even body. That’s the prize. That’s why an aunt would want the most truthworthy non-family member following the orders— surely an out of state schmoozing spouse of a nephew…

Sorry Op, you’ve all been had. That’s why it’s a secret.

[Anonymous]

You snooze, you lose.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So, ah, how often do you visit these childless aunts, OP? I'm thinking pretty much never?

Op here. No one lives near them. We have a couple kids, bro/SIL have more.

I saw the hometown couple each year 1-5x a year for 25 years and holidays.

As a married adult with kids I saw one set 1-2x a year when in hometown and the other 1-2x a year when in their town during work trips.

My brother never saw the out of town one. He works full time in a senior position with lots of travel.

But his wife did some schmoozing behind the scenes the last 5+ years with each aunt. Most of it not in person, we all live 1000-4000 miles from one another.

So why didn’t you work on your relationship with your aunts? What stopped you? Your SIL put in the time and effort and now she will be rewarded. Did you just assume you would be a beneficiary? Your aunts might be thinking “forget you” since you couldn’t be bothered. What a missed opportunity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So, ah, how often do you visit these childless aunts, OP? I'm thinking pretty much never?

Op here. No one lives near them. We have a couple kids, bro/SIL have more.

I saw the hometown couple each year 1-5x a year for 25 years and holidays.

As a married adult with kids I saw one set 1-2x a year when in hometown and the other 1-2x a year when in their town during work trips.

My brother never saw the out of town one. He works full time in a senior position with lots of travel.

But his wife did some schmoozing behind the scenes the last 5+ years with each aunt. Most of it not in person, we all live 1000-4000 miles from one another.

Sadly the aunts, your brother and his wife let it be a secret inbound process, not an outbound process. While many extend privacy and space to distant relatives with money & savings, others kiss their @$$e$ in the outer years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So, ah, how often do you visit these childless aunts, OP? I'm thinking pretty much never?

Op here. No one lives near them. We have a couple kids, bro/SIL have more.

I saw the hometown couple each year 1-5x a year for 25 years and holidays.

As a married adult with kids I saw one set 1-2x a year when in hometown and the other 1-2x a year when in their town during work trips.

My brother never saw the out of town one. He works full time in a senior position with lots of travel.

But his wife did some schmoozing behind the scenes the last 5+ years with each aunt. Most of it not in person, we all live 1000-4000 miles from one another.

So why didn’t you work on your relationship with your aunts? What stopped you? Your SIL put in the time and effort and now she will be rewarded. Did you just assume you would be a beneficiary? Your aunts might be thinking “forget you” since you couldn’t be bothered. What a missed opportunity.

How’s SIL do that PP?

SIL arrived in the scene what, 10-15 years ago, has lots of kids, lives far away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You snooze, you lose.

Most people don’t have the audacity to ask their spouse’s aunt or uncle to manage their estate. Or love bomb them with emails, letters and invites. Those would be red flags to me. Maybe those women are all peas in the same pod.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You snooze, you lose.

Most people don’t have the audacity to ask their spouse’s aunt or uncle to manage their estate. Or love bomb them with emails, letters and invites. Those would be red flags to me. Maybe those women are all peas in the same pod.

The audacity to show the old women that you give a shit? I’d reward that too over the family that can’t be bothered. They are probably lonely as all get out and will take what they can get.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So, ah, how often do you visit these childless aunts, OP? I'm thinking pretty much never?

Op here. No one lives near them. We have a couple kids, bro/SIL have more.

I saw the hometown couple each year 1-5x a year for 25 years and holidays.

As a married adult with kids I saw one set 1-2x a year when in hometown and the other 1-2x a year when in their town during work trips.

My brother never saw the out of town one. He works full time in a senior position with lots of travel.

But his wife did some schmoozing behind the scenes the last 5+ years with each aunt. Most of it not in person, we all live 1000-4000 miles from one another.

So why didn’t you work on your relationship with your aunts? What stopped you? Your SIL put in the time and effort and now she will be rewarded. Did you just assume you would be a beneficiary? Your aunts might be thinking “forget you” since you couldn’t be bothered. What a missed opportunity.

How’s SIL do that PP?

SIL arrived in the scene what, 10-15 years ago, has lots of kids, lives far away.

It’s been a 5 year process according to OP. She laid it all out. What’s the mystery?

[Anonymous]

Oh well. They would include you if they wanted to.