How frequent is sex in your relationship?

[Anonymous]

Mid 50s married decades, sex 3-5x weekly.

[Anonymous]

51 and 54. Usually twice a week, more when we are on vacation. We are soon to be empty nesters and that could well increase the frequency and noise level.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mid 50s married decades, sex 3-5x weekly.

Geez, good for you. What’s your secret for success?

[Anonymous]

Maybe once every two weeks. We are 40 and 42 with four young children and life is pretty exhausting. My mother and I are very close friends and when I complained about our infrequent romance she said she and my dad still have sex once a week and they are in their early 70's. Yes, TMI !

[Anonymous]

All you fellow old people I'm so jealous. Dead bedroom for the most part and it has been that way for a while. Kids in the house, incl a kid with SN who won't respect closed doors, plus DH has low desire/ED now. This is on top of watch and wait prostate cancer. I'm 56.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We’re 54/52 and sex is an important part of our relationship. That said, our college kid has been home for the summer (which we love, of course) and his schedule is unpredictable. Its been pretty difficult to find time to have sex more than once a week.

After almost a week of no sex she starts having frustrating dreams and we both get short with each other. Good sex helps us stay connected.

We have a place that we go to on the weekends and there’s always a list of things we have to get done while there. This weekend after a margarita it just turned into sex and we had to double time it yesterday to get everything done before going home.

Every couple is different but for me, sex is an important part of our relationship. It may not be forever (we’re getting older) but its worth figuring out if its not working for you.

Have you considered couples counseling? After watching the series Couples Therapy I’d definitely try it.

What does the college kid being home have to do with your bedroom schedule?

Maybe its different in your house but he shouldn’t have to listen to his mom getting her cheeks clapped.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:3x per week. 40s. Literally, this was "negotiated" in counseling and is almost like a checklist item that has to happen weekly.

Ugh. Maybe if no long days or work travel or kid stuff to do until 10pm. Damn hockey rink times

Damn hockey - the killer of intimacy and quality family time. Wish we’d never let our kid try it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We’re 54/52 and sex is an important part of our relationship. That said, our college kid has been home for the summer (which we love, of course) and his schedule is unpredictable. Its been pretty difficult to find time to have sex more than once a week.

After almost a week of no sex she starts having frustrating dreams and we both get short with each other. Good sex helps us stay connected.

We have a place that we go to on the weekends and there’s always a list of things we have to get done while there. This weekend after a margarita it just turned into sex and we had to double time it yesterday to get everything done before going home.

Every couple is different but for me, sex is an important part of our relationship. It may not be forever (we’re getting older) but its worth figuring out if its not working for you.

Have you considered couples counseling? After watching the series Couples Therapy I’d definitely try it.

What does the college kid being home have to do with your bedroom schedule?

Maybe its different in your house but he shouldn’t have to listen to his mom getting her cheeks clapped.

We have two in college and they are both home right now. They use our back flight of stairs to get to their rooms so they don't pass by our bedroom though we do keep the door closed and the noise down.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mid 50s married decades, sex 3-5x weekly.

Mid 50s married decades, sex every 3-5 weeks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We’re 54/52 and sex is an important part of our relationship. That said, our college kid has been home for the summer (which we love, of course) and his schedule is unpredictable. Its been pretty difficult to find time to have sex more than once a week.

After almost a week of no sex she starts having frustrating dreams and we both get short with each other. Good sex helps us stay connected.

We have a place that we go to on the weekends and there’s always a list of things we have to get done while there. This weekend after a margarita it just turned into sex and we had to double time it yesterday to get everything done before going home.

Every couple is different but for me, sex is an important part of our relationship. It may not be forever (we’re getting older) but its worth figuring out if its not working for you.

Have you considered couples counseling? After watching the series Couples Therapy I’d definitely try it.

What does the college kid being home have to do with your bedroom schedule?

They don’t want to boink when the kid is in the house.

Are you slow?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mid 50s married decades, sex 3-5x weekly.

Geez, good for you. What’s your secret for success?

Not being fat.

[Anonymous]

Mid-forties. Married almost 20 years. Maybe 2-3x/wk. We take a sex-cation once or twice a year and plan them with a couple of “friends.”
We both work non-traditional schedules and have sex days when the kids are at school. That happens once every month or two.

[Anonymous]

Ugh. Depressing. It’s dead now. Over the last two years it went from 1x/week to zero. DH got fat, our relationship went to sht, I love sex and am dying over here but I cannot get my body to do it with him. We’re late 40s, kids, together 17 years.

[Anonymous]

DH is very sweet and is a fantastic husband and father. But he got really fat now and it is a complete turnoff. Even in pitch darkness I just cannot do it with him. He is working on reducing weight but not making any progress.

[Anonymous]

Men peak sexually very early by 50 most. After 50, for most men sex is just something they think they have to do not necessarily they want to do.

Kudos to the men 50+ who are still having sex regularly.