How frequent is sex in your relationship?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread is comical. In the real world, dead bedroom marriages are 90% because the woman has lost her sexual drive. The reasons are varied and this is not a “blame” issue. But it is clear that these woman are choosing not to participate in this thread, so we get a bunch of outlier posts about women in their 40s/50s who want sex but their husbands won’t put out.

It's comical that you don't want to explore the reasons why the sex drive is gone. Miraculously, many women get it back following divorce. Women don't want toddler husbands. They've gone through pregnancies, breastfeeding, perimenopause, menopause. Majority work ft jobs and do eveyrhing else with kids and at home. All without supportive partners. THAT is why sex drive disappears.

Blah blah eternal victim

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread is comical. In the real world, dead bedroom marriages are 90% because the woman has lost her sexual drive. The reasons are varied and this is not a “blame” issue. But it is clear that these woman are choosing not to participate in this thread, so we get a bunch of outlier posts about women in their 40s/50s who want sex but their husbands won’t put out.

It's comical that you don't want to explore the reasons why the sex drive is gone. Miraculously, many women get it back following divorce. Women don't want toddler husbands. They've gone through pregnancies, breastfeeding, perimenopause, menopause. Majority work ft jobs and do eveyrhing else with kids and at home. All without supportive partners. THAT is why sex drive disappears.

Blah blah eternal victim

Sorry your wife doesn’t want you anymore. Maybe if you open your ears every once in a while you could grow and your situation would change.

[Anonymous]

The women who frequent this forum must be the women with the highest sex drive in the universe I swear lol. Every time the subject of sex comes up they can't wait to say how often they have sex..some of the women in sexless marriages really envy you. Y'all should write a book with tips

[Anonymous]

I'm 48 years old and I will admit I am in the minority because I think sex is overrated. When people have to track how often they are having sex and if the frequency is below a certain number they start drawing all kind of conclusions about their relationship is in my opinion a sad way to live your life. Again I am in the minority so I am not going to argue against y'all who want it daily.

[Anonymous]

So far it's been seven times this year. Two young kids. Late thirties.

[Anonymous]

Is it me, or does it feel like women track the frequency more than men? Your typical woman can tell you exactly how many times she had sex in the past year with an exact number.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is it me, or does it feel like women track the frequency more than men? Your typical woman can tell you exactly how many times she had sex in the past year with an exact number.

Men might not track the frequency, but we are conscious of how long it's been since the last time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If wives did for their husbands what they’ll do for random guys there’d be a lot lower divorce rate.

Agree 100%

DW 62, DH 61

Maybe once per month. And not nearly enough for this DH.

Wife lets it all hang out when out-on-the-town with girlfriends. At home is a frost-covered prude!

Because her friends see her (not as a mom or a wife or an employee) and she feels like she can be herself. It's for HERSELF, not for the male gaze, FYI. That's why she does that in a safe space (with her friends) and not with you (who takes it only as an invitation, seeing her as a blow up doll, rather than a dynamic human being). Ask women why they hang out with gay men/go to gay clubs. It's the only time we're not being felt up or used.

Not in this case. Wife has cheated multiple times as a result of these outings, due to the overwhelming attention received. Remain together to keep rest of family together. Remaining as the wayward spouse isn't for everyone. Hence the high divorce rate perpetuated by visual and physical promiscuity.

[Anonymous]

We’re in our early 50’s and currently (for another week) have a college aged kid living at home with us. We average about once a week. Though we’re only doing it once a week, the sex is really good. I’m sure after he moves back to school we might move it up to twice a week. We’ve been together over 20 years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is it me, or does it feel like women track the frequency more than men? Your typical woman can tell you exactly how many times she had sex in the past year with an exact number.

My husband knows it's been 10 days. He started tracking after I hit menopause. Never once has he asked me why we have sex only three or four times a month.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 48 years old and I will admit I am in the minority because I think sex is overrated. When people have to track how often they are having sex and if the frequency is below a certain number they start drawing all kind of conclusions about their relationship is in my opinion a sad way to live your life. Again I am in the minority so I am not going to argue against y'all who want it daily.

What is more enjoyable than sex with someone you love?

[Anonymous]

3-4 a week. Man, 40s. Wish was more. Very high sex drive.

[Anonymous]

We are in our early 50s and have sex 2-3 times a week. Only once will we have PIV as we’ve really come to enjoy other means of pleasure. I do believe that being more adventuresome has kept our sex life going after over 25 years.

[Anonymous]

2-4 times a week, 40, 2 young kids.

2 is when one or both isn’t sleeping through the night or a fever/virus is going through the house.

When the kids are away, we revert to 2-3 times a day, but after a few days of that go back to once a day.

But w managing kids and work, I’m too tired for sex everyday.

Early on after our first kid, we realized I need to be calm/relaxed to want sex, and husband uses sex to calm himself/relax. So he started taking over parenting after dinner so I’d have an hour or so to unwind, and boom, I was suddenly much more into sex after kids fell asleep. We don’t do this every night, but if it’s busy and we haven’t had sex in a few days, he’ll usually ask if I want a kid break, and I’ll do yoga, shower, etc. Really helps bc some nights I’m so touched out w two toddlers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:2-4 times a week, 40, 2 young kids.

2 is when one or both isn’t sleeping through the night or a fever/virus is going through the house.

When the kids are away, we revert to 2-3 times a day, but after a few days of that go back to once a day.

But w managing kids and work, I’m too tired for sex everyday.

Early on after our first kid, we realized I need to be calm/relaxed to want sex, and husband uses sex to calm himself/relax. So he started taking over parenting after dinner so I’d have an hour or so to unwind, and boom, I was suddenly much more into sex after kids fell asleep. We don’t do this every night, but if it’s busy and we haven’t had sex in a few days, he’ll usually ask if I want a kid break, and I’ll do yoga, shower, etc. Really helps bc some nights I’m so touched out w two toddlers.

And this, men, is how you get what you want. Not sitting on your phone letting her exhaust herself and then trying to grope her when she falls into bed.