Do you want to be with him? Do you love him? Have kids with him? Rely on him for financial support? |
He's insulting you and this is POST "emotional" affair? He should be kissing up to you. This relationship sounds over. |
He wishes his life was different, indulges in escapism, and blames you for his unhappiness. |
When he’s being affectionate and not angry everything is great, when he’s like this I never want to see him again. I can feel so optimistic about us and happy then he has some sort of outburst like this and everything just runs out of my body. I am the breadwinner, if we split up we would both have a major downgrade in circumstances. |
He does replay the past where he says he made a compromise but if he stayed the course he would be wealthy/successful/happy/whatever. His options are currently wide open but he sees everything like he missed the train and is just stuck in this life, he’s not stuck he can do whatever he wants with my full support. We aren’t rich but we have a really nice life, healthy children and a nice home. |
+1. So you sit queit while your DH says these things in front of your kids? Come on OP! |
He's cheating (again). It's a very common first sign. |
There was a period after I caught him that he was super lovey-dovey but only lasted a month or two. |
Time for you to make very quiet plans to get out. Act normal and neutral and get your ducks in a row. |
I agree on grey rocking him. Do your thing. Treat him with civility, but that's it. This will either bring him around or convince you that you are better off without him. Maybe both.
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OP, don't be his doormat. You accepted his actions and he is treating you accordingly. He doesn't respect you at this point, demand better for yourself. |
The older one sort of cocked her head and looked at me wide eyed when he said that. I didn’t want to get into a whole thing in front of the kids. |
Plan your divorce. He’s probably cheating again and or wants out of the marriage. Don’t sit back and be his punching bag though.Absolutely not. Call him out on his rude comments. |
How will they learn that it's not okay for him to talk to you like that if you don't " get into a whole thing " in front of them? They are watching and learning. |
Do you work? It's definitely time to get your ducks in a row op. He's over it and either cheating again or it's imminent. |