DS doesn’t want to marry

[Anonymous]

Maybe work on your own relationship since something he's seeing does not appeal to him.

[Anonymous]

Pretty sure this was written by a sixteen year old.

[Anonymous]

Deeply disturbing? We must have different definitions of that then. It was deeply disturbing when my 16 yr old told me about the voices he heard in his head telling him to hurt people.

[Anonymous]

Does he date? Have role models for how men should treat women?

I think most people don’t want their parents to marry. I’d feel that way even now as an adult.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DS (16) has recently expressed that he doesn’t want to ever get in a relationship or get married. This is deeply disturbing. Should I put him in therapy?

Yes. Use same therapist you used when he was 5 and expressed he wanted to be a superhero. Nip those deeply disturbing statements in the bud now before it’s too late.

[Anonymous]

My 15 year old son has said the same thing. I chalked it up to immaturity. I was not deeply disturbed but maybe a bit sad.

[Anonymous]

Not your choice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe work on your own relationship since something he's seeing does not appeal to him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DS (16) has recently expressed that he doesn’t want to ever get in a relationship or get married. This is deeply disturbing. Should I put him in therapy?

Yes. Use same therapist you used when he was 5 and expressed he wanted to be a superhero. Nip those deeply disturbing statements in the bud now before it’s too late.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Deeply disturbing. Well, time to get him some space in the garage so he can have a quiet place to start dissecting animals.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe he’s gay?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe he’s gay?

It’s 2025. Gay marriage is legal. For now at least.

One of my kids always said she’d never get married and doesn’t want a relationship. She’s pushing 40 now and has stuck to her guns and doing just fine.

[Anonymous]

goodness, OP. He's 16. Does it worry you because you think he thinks this way because he sees that your own marriage is awful or something?

When I was younger, I didn't want kids. My mother thought that was crazy talk. After I got married, I changed my mind and had 1. Then, I thought, ok that's it. Just the 1. Then I had another.

He will want to marry when/if he finds the right person.

Now go enjoy a bbq on this 4th. Unfortunately, I have to work

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe he’s gay?

It’s 2025. Gay marriage is legal. For now at least.

One of my kids always said she’d never get married and doesn’t want a relationship. She’s pushing 40 now and has stuck to her guns and doing just fine.

Maybe he’s not out yet.

[Anonymous]

I said this as a teenager. Changed my mind later. It is not deeply disturbing. It's probably good that a 16 year old is not thinking about marriage. Get some maturity, education and life experiences first.