Why do people marry unattractive people?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a guy and have completely different preference than my guy friends. They like the thin blond yoga type. I prefer a woman with small “pooch” and slightly saggy boobs. They like laid back and casual, I like high maintenance/snotty.

Everyone likes something different.

My saggy boobed, small pooched body appreciates you!

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't worry your pretty little head over it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Assume great wealth is not involved. I just don’t get it.

They are either more evolved or have low self esteem or just got hooked into proximity syndrome.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Assume great wealth is not involved. I just don’t get it.

Well your spouse married you. Ask them instead of us.

[Anonymous]

Cue up the Jimmy Soul music…


Hey, hey, hey, hey
… If you want to be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So for my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you
… If you want to be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So for my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you
… A pretty woman makes her husband look small
And very often causes his downfall
As soon as he married her and then she starts
To do the things that will break his heart
… But if you make an ugly woman your wife
Ah you'll be happy for the rest of your life
An ugly woman cooks meals on time
She'll always give you peace of mind
… If you want to be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So for my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you
… Don't let your friends say you have no taste
Go ahead and marry anyway
Though her face is ugly, her eyes don't match
Take it from me, she's a better catch
… If you want to be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So for my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you
… Say man! Hey baby!
I saw your wife the other day!
Yeah? Yeah, an' she's ugly!
Yeah, she's ugly, but she sure can cook, baby!
Yeah, alright!
… If you want to be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So for my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you
… If you want to be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So for my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you
… If you want to be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So for my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you
… If you want to be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So for my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a guy and have completely different preference than my guy friends. They like the thin blond yoga type. I prefer a woman with small “pooch” and slightly saggy boobs. They like laid back and casual, I like high maintenance/snotty.

Everyone likes something different.

High maintenance and snotty are not pooch and saggy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Assume great wealth is not involved. I just don’t get it.

Connection is connection. It doesn't happen that often in life. So that's valuable regardless of anything.

But generally, it seems to be women that settle and not vice versa. My personal opinion is that most people are fairly attractive when they are fit and work out. So it's more of a why are you settling for a lazy-ass, slothful, parasitical fat ass when there's so much better out there? A good conversation only goes so far. You still need to sleep with them to make it work. And if you can't take an hour a day to work out, well...

But there's a lid for every pot.

[Anonymous]

I was kind of pretty for a short minute right after college. I married a balding short man who was into running and swimming. He is awesome, funny, tells a good story, sex was and is great and he turned out to be a good dad and partner. Far more in sync with me and our family values than many partners of my friends. Works for me. Married 15 years. He adores me, I find him attractive and proud to be his other half.

[Anonymous]

1. I’m not that attractive either
2. Was totally heart broken by my very attractive boyfriend, so I swore off the type.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Assume great wealth is not involved. I just don’t get it.

Me either. I've seen so many thin, somewhat fit men with seriously obese wives.

[Anonymous]

You won't be able to manipulate someone into marrying you, OP. Sooner or later, even "pretty" goes away, if you had it to begin with (which I'm assuming you don't). A beautiful heart and mind long outlast an "attractive" body. Smarter people marry for more than looks. Anyone who does will likely cheat for looks too.

So don't worry about spending an hour a day working out (dafuhhh?). Get a hobby and a life of your own that someone might reasonably want to share, and you should do fine.

[Anonymous]

My DH had very bad cystic acne, was scrawny, wore glasses and had really unkempt hair while we dated.

After we married, he went on Accutane, got contacts, put on a little weight and found a great hairstylist.

Looks are transient.

I was always attracted by his wit, intellect, tenacity, kindness, political outlook and ambition.

Remains true 40 years later.

[Anonymous]

Just because you don’t find the person attractive doesn’t mean they don’t.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Assume great wealth is not involved. I just don’t get it.

Connection is connection. It doesn't happen that often in life. So that's valuable regardless of anything.

But generally, it seems to be women that settle and not vice versa. My personal opinion is that most people are fairly attractive when they are fit and work out. So it's more of a why are you settling for a lazy-ass, slothful, parasitical fat ass when there's so much better out there? A good conversation only goes so far. You still need to sleep with them to make it work. And if you can't take an hour a day to work out, well...

But there's a lid for every pot.

So people who don't match your personal opinion of fairly attractive are "lazy-ass, slothful, parasitical fat asses"? Because it's everyone job to be attractive to... you.

Clearly you're this ugly because no one will sleep with you, which just makes you act uglier, which makes you less likely to get laid... the incel spiral, amirite?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a guy and have completely different preference than my guy friends. They like the thin blond yoga type. I prefer a woman with small “pooch” and slightly saggy boobs. They like laid back and casual, I like high maintenance/snotty.

Everyone likes something different.

High maintenance and snotty are not pooch and saggy

Guess you have never met my wife.