Here's my question:
What's up with the posters who are chiming in either to bash Greek life or to say that their kid has no interest in rushing? If that's the your truth or how you feel, why post at all? This isn't a thread for you. It's like me posting on a thread about a certain private school as a public school parent to say private schools suck. Not relevant, helpful or remotely necessary. |
Read the OP again. She started this thread to discuss how insane this is, not for tips. So actually, this isn’t a thread for you. |
Yea, you're right, I misread. So my next question is: why do you all care what somebody else's mother does with her money? |
And then there was a response explaining why someone would use to answer OP question and. followed up with offers of assistance |
I had a wonderful sorority experience, but it was ages ago at a school that was much more casual about rush. So thank you for this! I’m not sure whether my DD will decide to rush, but I genuinely appreciate your advice. Thanks for being so open and specific. |
OP, its not a waste of money if your DD genuinely cares about rushing and she's already going to be in unfamiliar territory.
There are little quirks and oddities during rush that might seem unusual to a student from a family with no experience in greek life. As with standardized tests, you can prepare on your own or enlist assistance from more organized professionals. |
+ 1 |
PP here. What don't you understand? Did you read the PP's recommendations? If you are fine with creating a persona to gain access to a friend group, then go for it. My DD is more interested in meeting friends at school in a more organic manner. She's crossed all schools with dominant Greek life off the list. You might want to watch that documentary about Alabama Greek Life. I think it's called Bama Rush. If after that you and your daughter feel compelled to pursue, by all means, go for it. |
DD just wants to meet people organically but also understands that at a school like 'Bama she might need to join a sorority. She doesn't want to create anything or stress but wants to have a good experience. You are being judgy and I am looking for non-judgemental advice. I didn't understand that list of recommendation so I want that PP to break it down in simpler terms. |
I feel like I judge |
The only thing that bothers me about this situation is that you’re so judgmental about how other people choose to live. I hope you did not share your outrage (???!!!) with your DD. It would be sad if you were raising her to judge and mock her friends’ choices when they differ from hers. |
I wish there was a shock collar that would go off everytime someone made a rude comment about how someone else chooses to live their life or the choices they make.
Zap. Zap. Zap. |
I’m from the NE but lived in the south for a bit when my kids were in middle/high school.
It’s just a different world. An entirely different culture. And Greek life is a BIG deal to them. Moms start prepping their girls for rush in 9th grade and steer them away from any college known to have an especially messed up rush reputation. If your kid wants to rush an SEC school and you don’t have southern UMC/wealthy relatives who are nice and want to help, I understand why people would pay for help if they can afford it. They dress differently than we do and they all wear the same things. Conforming is important though nothing will make up for the fact that you don’t know people in the houses. |
I had a good enough time in my sorority but, damn, there is ZERO chance I would do any of this. I thought it was somewhat superficial in the 90's but this is . . . . not ok. |
He won't. But he needs to be open to any of them. |