Rush coach

[Anonymous]

The mother of my daughter’s friend is paying almost $3,000 for a rush coach. ???!!!

Will be a freshman at a Southern school. For the love of God….

[Anonymous]

Don’t judge. A lot of moms who didn’t rush want to understand the process and there are many nasties who want to gatekeep. I will list some information in case this is helpful. Nice people feel free to add if you are coming from a good place.

1. Recommendations from alumni don’t hold much weight anymore and even less if they don’t know your kid well.

2. Caveat if rec is from an super active alumni who goes to the conventions etc but this is fairly hard to find.

3. Recs from current students helps but do not rely. Some schools do not allow
any recommendations but go ahead and get rush chair email and send if your want and they keep a file.

4. What does help if knowing girls in the house and this is the biggest thing. How do you scale that mountain?? See if girls from the area are in said house. Look to see if you know girls in common and see if someone can introduce. My daughter is always open to helping girls. She gets the stress and so do most other sorority girls. They are nicer than you may believe.

5. Start following instagram of girls you may know and follow the intragram of all the houses. Do not put in comments but you can like a nice photo. Commenting is too try hard.

6. Before following on instagram get your instagram in order. Lots of friends photos. Nothing crazy and have a few friends look over for their opinion. You are communicating that you are fun and nice and don’t look like you will be a problem ie the drunk girl.

7. In a perfect world you are able to grab a coffee with some girls before rush starts. Keep in mind that getting to know new classmates is a huge bonus as they may know girls in the houses.

8. Organize your rush gear. Get a rush bag (scout/longchamps etc)to put your heels and make up. You will walk house to house in sneakers or do not try to do rush in heels because you will have blisters day one.
-white sun dress
-cute jean shorts
-black cocktail
above is a definite
-also add other cocktail depending on colors for even but it will be short and stylish but not over the top
jewelry-ask mom if you can borrow a few things or buy fakes hint most of the jewelry is fake but needs to look good so one nice price and a few fakes will do
-figure out the make up in hot weather now. Help your daughter and take her to get it done professionally so she knows how to do it. Nothing worse than looking clownish.

If you are totally clueless then by all means get a rush consultant because they may have a bunch of new alumni who can help with introductions but guessing you can really get this done on your own.

Good luck! I loved greek life and my kids love(d) it as well!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don’t judge. A lot of moms who didn’t rush want to understand the process and there are many nasties who want to gatekeep. I will list some information in case this is helpful. Nice people feel free to add if you are coming from a good place.

1. Recommendations from alumni don’t hold much weight anymore and even less if they don’t know your kid well.

2. Caveat if rec is from an super active alumni who goes to the conventions etc but this is fairly hard to find.

3. Recs from current students helps but do not rely. Some schools do not allow
any recommendations but go ahead and get rush chair email and send if your want and they keep a file.

4. What does help if knowing girls in the house and this is the biggest thing. How do you scale that mountain?? See if girls from the area are in said house. Look to see if you know girls in common and see if someone can introduce. My daughter is always open to helping girls. She gets the stress and so do most other sorority girls. They are nicer than you may believe.

5. Start following instagram of girls you may know and follow the intragram of all the houses. Do not put in comments but you can like a nice photo. Commenting is too try hard.

6. Before following on instagram get your instagram in order. Lots of friends photos. Nothing crazy and have a few friends look over for their opinion. You are communicating that you are fun and nice and don’t look like you will be a problem ie the drunk girl.

7. In a perfect world you are able to grab a coffee with some girls before rush starts. Keep in mind that getting to know new classmates is a huge bonus as they may know girls in the houses.

8. Organize your rush gear. Get a rush bag (scout/longchamps etc)to put your heels and make up. You will walk house to house in sneakers or do not try to do rush in heels because you will have blisters day one.
-white sun dress
-cute jean shorts
-black cocktail
above is a definite
-also add other cocktail depending on colors for even but it will be short and stylish but not over the top
jewelry-ask mom if you can borrow a few things or buy fakes hint most of the jewelry is fake but needs to look good so one nice price and a few fakes will do
-figure out the make up in hot weather now. Help your daughter and take her to get it done professionally so she knows how to do it. Nothing worse than looking clownish.

If you are totally clueless then by all means get a rush consultant because they may have a bunch of new alumni who can help with introductions but guessing you can really get this done on your own.

Good luck! I loved greek life and my kids love(d) it as well!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don’t judge. A lot of moms who didn’t rush want to understand the process and there are many nasties who want to gatekeep. I will list some information in case this is helpful. Nice people feel free to add if you are coming from a good place.

1. Recommendations from alumni don’t hold much weight anymore and even less if they don’t know your kid well.

2. Caveat if rec is from an super active alumni who goes to the conventions etc but this is fairly hard to find.

3. Recs from current students helps but do not rely. Some schools do not allow
any recommendations but go ahead and get rush chair email and send if your want and they keep a file.

4. What does help if knowing girls in the house and this is the biggest thing. How do you scale that mountain?? See if girls from the area are in said house. Look to see if you know girls in common and see if someone can introduce. My daughter is always open to helping girls. She gets the stress and so do most other sorority girls. They are nicer than you may believe.

5. Start following instagram of girls you may know and follow the intragram of all the houses. Do not put in comments but you can like a nice photo. Commenting is too try hard.

6. Before following on instagram get your instagram in order. Lots of friends photos. Nothing crazy and have a few friends look over for their opinion. You are communicating that you are fun and nice and don’t look like you will be a problem ie the drunk girl.

7. In a perfect world you are able to grab a coffee with some girls before rush starts. Keep in mind that getting to know new classmates is a huge bonus as they may know girls in the houses.

8. Organize your rush gear. Get a rush bag (scout/longchamps etc)to put your heels and make up. You will walk house to house in sneakers or do not try to do rush in heels because you will have blisters day one.
-white sun dress
-cute jean shorts
-black cocktail
above is a definite
-also add other cocktail depending on colors for even but it will be short and stylish but not over the top
jewelry-ask mom if you can borrow a few things or buy fakes hint most of the jewelry is fake but needs to look good so one nice price and a few fakes will do
-figure out the make up in hot weather now. Help your daughter and take her to get it done professionally so she knows how to do it. Nothing worse than looking clownish.

If you are totally clueless then by all means get a rush consultant because they may have a bunch of new alumni who can help with introductions but guessing you can really get this done on your own.

Good luck! I loved greek life and my kids love(d) it as well!!

This sounds super stressful and over the top. Glad my DD has expressed no interest in Greek life.

[Anonymous]

I'm so glad I never had to pay for friends.

[Anonymous]

What about for a DMV boy heading to an SEC school? Any tips to get into a top frat?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What about for a DMV boy heading to an SEC school? Any tips to get into a top frat?

"Organize your rush gear. Get a rush bag (scout/longchamps etc)to put your heels and make up. You will walk house to house in sneakers or do not try to do rush in heels because you will have blisters day one.
-white sun dress
-cute jean shorts
-black cocktail"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What about for a DMV boy heading to an SEC school? Any tips to get into a top frat?

He won’t get in one of the popular ones but that’s ok.

Guys rush without all the pressure and pain that the girls go through.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The mother of my daughter’s friend is paying almost $3,000 for a rush coach. ???!!!

Will be a freshman at a Southern school. For the love of God….

Not too different than college admit “coaches”. Really. They serve the same purpose which ultimately is access and networking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What about for a DMV boy heading to an SEC school? Any tips to get into a top frat?

Don’t call it a frat, first of all. It is “fraternity.” Trust.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What about for a DMV boy heading to an SEC school? Any tips to get into a top frat?

I know that many of the big schools have summer events pre rush. Alabama has something called Bama bound and others have things similar. I am hearing they are important to attend. You need khakis and golf shirts and a blazer for pledging and for some of the rush parties. Like sororities it is good if your son knows some guys at the school. Connecting with new students also good because a bunch of guys can plan their summer trip. Many of the pledge spots will be spoken for during the summer.. The social media stuff is not as important so that is good.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What about for a DMV boy heading to an SEC school? Any tips to get into a top frat?

He won’t get in one of the popular ones but that’s ok.

Guys rush without all the pressure and pain that the girls go through.

Not true.

[Anonymous]

My daughter knows many guys who did summer events and wound up in great houses. They each knew a few guys at different houses and all went around together.

[Anonymous]

I don't get it.
What is the point?
For friends that you have to be friends with?
What if you don't really like them after a while?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t judge. A lot of moms who didn’t rush want to understand the process and there are many nasties who want to gatekeep. I will list some information in case this is helpful. Nice people feel free to add if you are coming from a good place.

1. Recommendations from alumni don’t hold much weight anymore and even less if they don’t know your kid well.

2. Caveat if rec is from an super active alumni who goes to the conventions etc but this is fairly hard to find.

3. Recs from current students helps but do not rely. Some schools do not allow
any recommendations but go ahead and get rush chair email and send if your want and they keep a file.

4. What does help if knowing girls in the house and this is the biggest thing. How do you scale that mountain?? See if girls from the area are in said house. Look to see if you know girls in common and see if someone can introduce. My daughter is always open to helping girls. She gets the stress and so do most other sorority girls. They are nicer than you may believe.

5. Start following instagram of girls you may know and follow the intragram of all the houses. Do not put in comments but you can like a nice photo. Commenting is too try hard.

6. Before following on instagram get your instagram in order. Lots of friends photos. Nothing crazy and have a few friends look over for their opinion. You are communicating that you are fun and nice and don’t look like you will be a problem ie the drunk girl.

7. In a perfect world you are able to grab a coffee with some girls before rush starts. Keep in mind that getting to know new classmates is a huge bonus as they may know girls in the houses.

8. Organize your rush gear. Get a rush bag (scout/longchamps etc)to put your heels and make up. You will walk house to house in sneakers or do not try to do rush in heels because you will have blisters day one.
-white sun dress
-cute jean shorts
-black cocktail
above is a definite
-also add other cocktail depending on colors for even but it will be short and stylish but not over the top
jewelry-ask mom if you can borrow a few things or buy fakes hint most of the jewelry is fake but needs to look good so one nice price and a few fakes will do
-figure out the make up in hot weather now. Help your daughter and take her to get it done professionally so she knows how to do it. Nothing worse than looking clownish.

If you are totally clueless then by all means get a rush consultant because they may have a bunch of new alumni who can help with introductions but guessing you can really get this done on your own.

Good luck! I loved greek life and my kids love(d) it as well!!

This sounds super stressful and over the top. Glad my DD has expressed no interest in Greek life.

Can you break this down to us like we are 3yrs old? Or otherwise repost this using full sentences that non-rush people can understand? Please. Not trying to be funny. DD is interested in Alabama but I don't know what you're saying.