Sibling adopted drug exposed toddler and their savior complex has because their whole persona

[Anonymous]

Let it go. And stop following your sister on social media.

[Anonymous]

Yes, it's gross of them. Just hide them on your feed so they don't enrage you.

[Anonymous]

Adopted kids are all about the adopters, not the actual adoptees. The kids serve the parents' purpose. This has been going fof decades and decades. Nothing new. This child is one big virtue signal and, in this case, if he ever doesn't need anything overtly, he will be failing them.
Signed,
Baby Scoop Era Adoptee

[Anonymous]

Why not expose your sister to the adoptee community online, since she's so into social media: IG or Tik Tok? Maybe they see a different perspective- away from their own.
Just a few:
Adoptee_thoughts
Karpoozy
Adoptees On

There are thousands and thousands of sites. Adoptees are speaking up.

[Anonymous]

Let it go. That way you won't get sucked in when kid develops issues like ODD.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Adopted kids are all about the adopters, not the actual adoptees. The kids serve the parents' purpose. This has been going fof decades and decades. Nothing new. This child is one big virtue signal and, in this case, if he ever doesn't need anything overtly, he will be failing them.
Signed,
Baby Scoop Era Adoptee

Your therapy isn't working. Go back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let it go. And stop following your sister on social media.

Pretty much.
Simply mind your own business.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Adopted kids are all about the adopters, not the actual adoptees. The kids serve the parents' purpose. This has been going fof decades and decades. Nothing new. This child is one big virtue signal and, in this case, if he ever doesn't need anything overtly, he will be failing them.
Signed,
Baby Scoop Era Adoptee

This is not exclusive to adoptive parents. Some parents also make their biological children all about themselves. It is especially common with people who have narcissistic personality traits.

[Anonymous]

Yuck. Adoptive parent hear. I am super careful and do not share info. These days I ask my dd if someone asks She’s in charge, not me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let it go. That way you won't get sucked in when kid develops issues like ODD.

What’s ODD?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Adopted kids are all about the adopters, not the actual adoptees. The kids serve the parents' purpose. This has been going fof decades and decades. Nothing new. This child is one big virtue signal and, in this case, if he ever doesn't need anything overtly, he will be failing them.
Signed,
Baby Scoop Era Adoptee

This post is wrong on many levels.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Adopted kids are all about the adopters, not the actual adoptees. The kids serve the parents' purpose. This has been going fof decades and decades. Nothing new. This child is one big virtue signal and, in this case, if he ever doesn't need anything overtly, he will be failing them.
Signed,
Baby Scoop Era Adoptee

Your therapy isn't working. Go back.

Educate yourself, dear. There's a lot you don't understand.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Adopted kids are all about the adopters, not the actual adoptees. The kids serve the parents' purpose. This has been going fof decades and decades. Nothing new. This child is one big virtue signal and, in this case, if he ever doesn't need anything overtly, he will be failing them.
Signed,
Baby Scoop Era Adoptee

This is not exclusive to adoptive parents. Some parents also make their biological children all about themselves. It is especially common with people who have narcissistic personality traits.

Sure! But not all parents are narcissists, including adoptive parents. But, in the world of adoption, society has supported the adoptive parents as saviors, and the child needing saving. The child serves the parents as a commodity, relinquishing identity and birth story to the parent's narrative, whatever that may be. The entire paradigm is flipped has been flipped backwards. Adoption should be child centered.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They’ve been through years of infertility and now have to transition into this new life. I have a ton of empathy for them. It sounds like you are coming from a place of judgment. Therefore, I wouldn’t say anything because it’s not coming from the right place.

Years of infertility doesn’t mean one can disregard basic parenting advice coming from professionals.

Signed, adoptee

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Adopted kids are all about the adopters, not the actual adoptees. The kids serve the parents' purpose. This has been going fof decades and decades. Nothing new. This child is one big virtue signal and, in this case, if he ever doesn't need anything overtly, he will be failing them.
Signed,
Baby Scoop Era Adoptee

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