We live in Arlington and don't know the names of any neighbors. The ones we knew moved. Nobody presses community on us, lol. |
Sure You can “value” community for all the wrong reasons. Like chastising women, or brainwashing cult members, or motivating radicalized killing of XYZ whom you hate. Or you can value community for positive strengths and universal values, like cohesive families, active parenting, having morals, staying away from human vices, and controlling for human nature (power & greed). |
Other issue today is people *think* they have a real community via online social meeting groups and posts. They don’t. Those are fickle and often posters are not whom they say they are. Doomscrolling is rampant |
Real communities have traditions they maintain and are helpful:
Sport team players Church or temple or mosque active members Active alumni groups Sororities and fraternities Neighborhoods that are friendly and caring/ look out for another In person hobby groups Extended families with traditions and gatherings |
DCUM is MY community! |
You can be a social outcast, or estrange yourself, or isolate yourself anywhere in the world Op. it’s not an America only thing. |
I dont think that is pushed in America at all. It should be, but isn’t. It is in many other countries and communities. Sometimes out of economic necessity, sometimes out of strong traditions or religious ties. I don’t think anyone anywhere cares if you want to lone wolf it. Your parents and siblings might be sad. But you likely don’t care about that or them. |
The US is by far the most individualistic, least communal country in the world. You’re not going to find anything more than that somewhere else. |
Sportball is dumb. Religion is a threat to government. Only HYP please. Filled with racists and homophobes. My neighbors are spying on me. What is a hobby? I won't talk to my MAGA family. --DCUM |
I agree. We are very self-centered and individualistic vs. many other cultures. |
Seattle and Washington state! I hated it so we moved but it’s gorgeous. If I was like this I would move there! |
We're here for you babe. We'll tell you if you're tacky. But don't charge us for potluck or we'll unceremoniously dump you. |
This is interesting, I’d love to hear more about it. How does it manifest? What is it like in your neighborhood? |
+1. When I saw the title of OP’s thread, I immediately thought “the US is that place”. |
There is no shared culture nor history here. Increasingly a nation of strangers probably because of high immigration.
Add to that the lack of American culture. Look, this place doesn't have a long history and politics fills the void where culture would be in another, older, society. This is a country of doublespeak. Liberalism and freedom constantly waved throughout its history despite the shameful stain of slavery and half the country's unwillingness to end it. So when you hear terms like "community" used, remember the doubles peak. Community doesn't really exist and is nit a priority in policy making. |