Federal employees would you let MAGA’s stay in your home?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Context is the person is the spouse of DH’s army buddy. It is her and her sister. They live in TX. My feelings were clear when we hosted some friends of friends from Oklahoma- they had tix to the Easter Egg roll. We were very kind to them and took them out for dinner and sight seeing and even gave them a ride to the WH. DH did an Easter egg hunt for her kid and my kid. The whole visit I was uncomfortable and figured out that sharing my home with these MAGA people made me angry and uncomfortable. So I told DH that going forward I didn’t want to host Trump supporters. They know I’m a fed and I support our household. They want me fired and actively support policies in support of this so maybe they should stay in a hotel bc we need to protect ourselves financially and don’t have enough extra to lay a plate for them. I’d rather put the $ we pay in extra groceries/door dash/restaurants/gas etc into our savings this month. And id rather not burn utilities on them either.

DH knows my feelings but is like “they are my friends”.

Then you and your DH aren’t communicating very well about toll this Administration is taking on you. Either you need to be more up front about the stress you are under, or he needs to do a better job listening and empathizing. Because if you have a solid marriage and he understood what was happening, he wouldn’t ask.

[Anonymous]

Tell DH to explain to them the household is in precarious financial position and their request is therefore a bit awkward because you would need to ask them to buy groceries and help with gas money.
If they ask why say your job security is tenuous.

[Anonymous]

"They know I’m a fed and I support our household. "

Does your husband work?

[Anonymous]

People who invite themselves into other people's houses are scum griftrrs anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell DH to explain to them the household is in precarious financial position and their request is therefore a bit awkward because you would need to ask them to buy groceries and help with gas money.
If they ask why say your job security is tenuous.

Don’t do this. It’s passive aggressive AF. Tell them no because their beliefs are actively harming you. Or tell them no and give a generic excuse. But don’t make veiled swipes. It’s just immature.

[Anonymous]

If she doesn't say no and sounds like she won't then the grifters should chip in.

[Anonymous]

Anyone who is MAGA is either stupid or evil. I don’t want either kind in my house. Say no.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely not. No way. Under Trump I MAGA could plausibly plead ignorance. But they chose to vote for the known racist misogynist crook in 2024. I don’t respect them and I sure as hell would not host them in my home. F them.

[Anonymous]

I would only host them if I thought they were persuadable to reason.

[Anonymous]

No way

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Context is the person is the spouse of DH’s army buddy. It is her and her sister. They live in TX. My feelings were clear when we hosted some friends of friends from Oklahoma- they had tix to the Easter Egg roll. We were very kind to them and took them out for dinner and sight seeing and even gave them a ride to the WH. DH did an Easter egg hunt for her kid and my kid. The whole visit I was uncomfortable and figured out that sharing my home with these MAGA people made me angry and uncomfortable. So I told DH that going forward I didn’t want to host Trump supporters. They know I’m a fed and I support our household. They want me fired and actively support policies in support of this so maybe they should stay in a hotel bc we need to protect ourselves financially and don’t have enough extra to lay a plate for them. I’d rather put the $ we pay in extra groceries/door dash/restaurants/gas etc into our savings this month. And id rather not burn utilities on them either.

DH knows my feelings but is like “they are my friends”.

Counterpoint - they are not. This is his friend's wife, not his friend. And the previous folks were friends of friends.

If the people you were hosting were your husband's actual close friends I'd think you were being over the top. But they aren't. You don't have to host random people, regardless of whether they are MAGA or not.

[Anonymous]

Please take a beat and self-analyze, OP.
You leftist Dems have made politics your religion.
And unlike the formerly liberal openness that Democrats once espoused, this new leftist religion it’s not a religion that is very tolerant of other religions.
Somehow you’ve decided that unless your neighbor (or in this case, your DH’s friends of 20+ years) shares your religion of Democrat-ness, they are not worth your kindness and are deserving of hate.

Please try to do better.

[Anonymous]

The only MAGA I would host in my house is my baby brother. He and I used to be very close and the love is still there. The rest can pound sand.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please take a beat and self-analyze, OP.
You leftist Dems have made politics your religion.
And unlike the formerly liberal openness that Democrats once espoused, this new leftist religion it’s not a religion that is very tolerant of other religions.
Somehow you’ve decided that unless your neighbor (or in this case, your DH’s friends of 20+ years) shares your religion of Democrat-ness, they are not worth your kindness and are deserving of hate.

Please try to do better.

You are full of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Context is the person is the spouse of DH’s army buddy. It is her and her sister. They live in TX. My feelings were clear when we hosted some friends of friends from Oklahoma- they had tix to the Easter Egg roll. We were very kind to them and took them out for dinner and sight seeing and even gave them a ride to the WH. DH did an Easter egg hunt for her kid and my kid. The whole visit I was uncomfortable and figured out that sharing my home with these MAGA people made me angry and uncomfortable. So I told DH that going forward I didn’t want to host Trump supporters. They know I’m a fed and I support our household. They want me fired and actively support policies in support of this so maybe they should stay in a hotel bc we need to protect ourselves financially and don’t have enough extra to lay a plate for them. I’d rather put the $ we pay in extra groceries/door dash/restaurants/gas etc into our savings this month. And id rather not burn utilities on them either.

Politics aside, this relationship is too distant to host unless the spouse herself is a very good friend. Being married to a work buddy is not close enough to stay at my home with your plus-one who I've never met.