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Federal employees would you let MAGA’s stay in your home?
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Anonymous
| DH’s friends are coming to DC and asking to stay with us for a couple of days in July. They are active MAGA. As a federal employee whose livelihood is directly under attack I don’t think it’s reasonable for us to share our roof with them. Why should I spend money to shelter and feed them when they are actively supporting a president who is gleefully, destroying my livelihood and deliberately causing me daily trauma, not to mention, villainizing my career to the American people and spreading lies about people in my profession? They are visiting Washington DC. They know I’ve been a career federal employee for over 20 years. If they are actively in support or just doing my livelihood, I feel like they should stay at a hotel. Do you think would you allow this? |
Anonymous
| Nope. |
Anonymous
| Nope - sorry - we have a lot going on and can't host. |
Anonymous
| Nope. I can’t do much about this administration so if there’s a micro aggression against MAGAs, I’ll do every time. |
Anonymous
| I'll let them know that you have a conflict and have to travel that time so can't host them this year. |
Anonymous
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Hmm. I would welcome them if I thought I could persuade them to see my side of things. Such attempts at reaching are extremely valuable, and how we change hearts and minds.
If they were the type to get hostile, then I would not host, and I would wonder why my husband was still friends with them. |
Anonymous
| Context is the person is the spouse of DH’s army buddy. It is her and her sister. They live in TX. My feelings were clear when we hosted some friends of friends from Oklahoma- they had tix to the Easter Egg roll. We were very kind to them and took them out for dinner and sight seeing and even gave them a ride to the WH. DH did an Easter egg hunt for her kid and my kid. The whole visit I was uncomfortable and figured out that sharing my home with these MAGA people made me angry and uncomfortable. So I told DH that going forward I didn’t want to host Trump supporters. They know I’m a fed and I support our household. They want me fired and actively support policies in support of this so maybe they should stay in a hotel bc we need to protect ourselves financially and don’t have enough extra to lay a plate for them. I’d rather put the $ we pay in extra groceries/door dash/restaurants/gas etc into our savings this month. And id rather not burn utilities on them either. |
Anonymous
DH knows my feelings but is like “they are my friends”. |
Anonymous
Same Absolutely no easy I would host them, OP |
Anonymous
| My sibling and SIL are MAGA and it’s hard but I’d let them stay. We hosted my aunt recently who’s not MAGA but conservative and her husband is MAGA. She said it was really eye opening to be in DC and see how our lives are impacted by Trump esp since my husband is a Fed. She seemed to start critically thinking about what she sees/hears in the media vs how people’s real lives are being impacted by these policies. Maybe it’s an opportunity to engage with them on a different level. |
Anonymous
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No.
I have four brothers two of them voted for Trump first time but one of them voted for him this last time. No, they cannot stay at my house. The other two can. There’s a family wedding coming up and I normally am someone that would share a rental car, help with the Airbnb, etc. I’m not. I got my family an Airbnb and a rental car and they can worry about themselves. They’ve already texted me questions about the wedding and I said.. I’m not getting married why don’t you ask the bride and groom. I did not have them over for my Mother’s Day celebration, I did not invite them to my other brother’s birthday dinner. As a family funeral and I got flowers from my family and when they got to the funeral, they were like you didn’t put all our names on the flowers… nope. There are social consequences to your decision decisions if you don’t like them make better decisions. |
Anonymous
1) you don't need to use financial strain to justify not letting them stay with you. You can dislike people based on their actions. That's enough. 2) if they do end up staying, make yourself scarce. Go do spa nights/days, visit friends, say you need to work late because of all the people who left. Ask them to wash their sheets before they go. |
Anonymous
No never no |
Anonymous
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Nope. I’m a Fed. And under Trump 1, given my agency with was pretty much ignored, I would have given you a different answer. But I’m dealing with DOGE right now and doing it 40 hours a week is taking a toll. An I’m sending out resumes even though I’m at a low RIF risk toll. I will not be doing it 24/7 on my off hours. I can’t.
I’m fine saying this to my MAGA relatives. I’m over them. I have an awesome spouse who is very supportive of me and makes accommodations for me, so I would host his close MAGA relatives *if it was important to him.* Probably with the understanding that I had a prior engagement that weekend or emergency with my own family and couldn’t be there much, if at all. Regrettably. If you’re a Fed, this isn’t a political disagreement. It’s destroying our jobs, and missions we believe very strongly in and have devoted our lives to. It’s painful. It’s first hand damage we see every day. It’s okay to draw a line. |
Anonymous
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Deport them from your house. It's the only way they'll respect you. Don't let your husband open the floodgates to invaders.
Why are you with a man who love people who hate you more than he loves you? |