She's not getting “excited” about a school she didn’t want to apply to in the first place. We’re allowed to be disappointed and look ahead at the same time. |
Wow, OP...your job as a parent is to help her find joy in the options in front of her. Clearly she liked those schools better than the 28937401928753 other schools in this country, because she chose to apply to them over the other schools she could have clicked on the common app. Buy the merch, learn the fight song, get excited about dorm shopping. Phenomenal graduates have come from all those schools, and they are dream schools for many. |
So DC applied to 20 schools and got accepted to 8. That’s lots of options. What did you think the breakdown of reaches, targets, and safeties were? No one applies to eight safeties, so some of the acceptances must’ve come from a target or two - that DC could be very happy at. I understand it might feel like a bit of a sting with rejections from two in-state schools but if you’ve been reading DCUM for any length of time, surely you realize there are many well-qualified VA students who don’t get offered admission. Going into something expecting to leave just doesn’t sound like a sane plan to me. |
Stop pretending that every CommonApp checkbox is a dream school. She chose those the way people buy insurance. And just because phenomenal graduates could come from everywhere doesn't mean that doesn’t mean every school is the right place for every student. She earned more. She’s allowed to be disappointed. We’ll buy the merch when it makes sense to buy for now we're focused on the future. |
Try to give it a go at the safety. One solid year. All of those schools have amazing opportunities for your child. They may love it and really excel. If not, then think about transferring. Good luck - I know this a brutal process. |
Go to Syracuse! |
What are the stats? What was her major? Sorry you are disappointed. She will find her place and will be happy. It will all work out. |
I agree with this. What a terrible start to a new journey--already planning your DC's exit plan. Take the gap year. Or do CC if you're both that worried about acceptance prestige. |
Major? Some of these seem strange if high stats. |
This |
She applied to WAY too many schools. I suspect many of these were far reaches and wasted applications. |
So your student was accepted to eight schools they didn’t want to apply to in the first place? Sounds to me like the entire approach and attitude was wrong, and set your kid up to feel like a failure. Sorry to be harsh but this is not a bad outcome, it’s a bad attitude. There are lots of great schools among those eight. Sad that you and your kid can’t see that. |
One of the main rules is to not apply to any schools that you wouldn't be happy attending. Sounds like the plan wasn't thought out well from the beginning. And all of the ones who didn't accept her are tough acceptances for most. |
+1 |
I'm sorry you and your daughter are disappointed but she still had nice options to choose from. I hope your family can move forward so your daughter can try and enjoy this momentous time in her life.
My picks from your acceptances would be JMU for the instate traditional college experience, Syracuse if you want to get away or Drexel if you really wanted the urban & coop experience. The schools she didn't get into were all high reaches with the exception of Richmond. In hindsight were there other schools that should have been considered, like Fordham perhaps? |