Do you think it's okay to criticize the behavior of a kid who is not yours?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s alarming how many people here will side with bullying a kid. However, it proves that insecurities like this child’s are hard to overcome! Be better, everyone!

No one is bullying a kid FFS. She was talking to another adult and the kid in question will never know about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would guess that your friend is friendly with that mom?
There is a kid who is a bit obnoxious and his mom is standoff ish and I hear parents complaining about that kid constantly. But another kid who is even worse gets off with "spirited" because his mom is popular. People will say "Dave and Mary are the most amazing people. It's a shame their kids are so rude." As if the parents had nothing to do with it.

OP here and no, my friend doesn't have kids at this school and has never met these people. She just objects to me calling this kid an ***hole.

Yes, most people would object. Stop that. It makes YOU the horrible person in the story, OP because as an adult, you should know better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would guess that your friend is friendly with that mom?
There is a kid who is a bit obnoxious and his mom is standoff ish and I hear parents complaining about that kid constantly. But another kid who is even worse gets off with "spirited" because his mom is popular. People will say "Dave and Mary are the most amazing people. It's a shame their kids are so rude." As if the parents had nothing to do with it.

OP here and no, my friend doesn't have kids at this school and has never met these people. She just objects to me calling this kid an ***hole.

Or glass bowl (credit: Hax chat).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would guess that your friend is friendly with that mom?
There is a kid who is a bit obnoxious and his mom is standoff ish and I hear parents complaining about that kid constantly. But another kid who is even worse gets off with "spirited" because his mom is popular. People will say "Dave and Mary are the most amazing people. It's a shame their kids are so rude." As if the parents had nothing to do with it.

OP here and no, my friend doesn't have kids at this school and has never met these people. She just objects to me calling this kid an ***hole.

Yes, most people would object. Stop that. It makes YOU the horrible person in the story, OP because as an adult, you should know better.

Most people would NOT object.

[Anonymous]

You’re both wrong, but now you know this isn’t a friend you can be safely wrong with. Some are, some aren’t.

That’s a very harsh thing to say about a little girl though and you are way, way, way to into what she does and says. There’s almost nothing in your whole rant about your own kid learning to run her own race or filter unkindness or any of the things you SHOULD be focused on in this situation.

We all have venting moments but you do seem a little over the top. I would have a hard time listening to you. I wouldn’t lecture you though, I would just avoid you. So at least she cares enough to try.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would guess that your friend is friendly with that mom?
There is a kid who is a bit obnoxious and his mom is standoff ish and I hear parents complaining about that kid constantly. But another kid who is even worse gets off with "spirited" because his mom is popular. People will say "Dave and Mary are the most amazing people. It's a shame their kids are so rude." As if the parents had nothing to do with it.

OP here and no, my friend doesn't have kids at this school and has never met these people. She just objects to me calling this kid an ***hole.

Calling a child an a-hole is really, really low behavior.

[Anonymous]

Yes, it's okay to criticize the behavior of a kid who is not yours.

No, it's not okay to refer t a kid as an a-hole to other people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s alarming how many people here will side with bullying a kid. However, it proves that insecurities like this child’s are hard to overcome! Be better, everyone!

No one is bullying a kid FFS. She was talking to another adult and the kid in question will never know about it.

You're fine with getting called an ***hole by other people if you never get to know about it?

Yeah, I don't think you are, hypocrite.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You’re both wrong, but now you know this isn’t a friend you can be safely wrong with. Some are, some aren’t.

That’s a very harsh thing to say about a little girl though and you are way, way, way to into what she does and says. There’s almost nothing in your whole rant about your own kid learning to run her own race or filter unkindness or any of the things you SHOULD be focused on in this situation.

We all have venting moments but you do seem a little over the top. I would have a hard time listening to you. I wouldn’t lecture you though, I would just avoid you. So at least she cares enough to try.

Only OP is wrong. The friend was right to correct her.

[Anonymous]

Don't worry about these people on their high horses. Some kids are little shits. If people told them to their faces they'd probably get better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would guess that your friend is friendly with that mom?
There is a kid who is a bit obnoxious and his mom is standoff ish and I hear parents complaining about that kid constantly. But another kid who is even worse gets off with "spirited" because his mom is popular. People will say "Dave and Mary are the most amazing people. It's a shame their kids are so rude." As if the parents had nothing to do with it.

OP here and no, my friend doesn't have kids at this school and has never met these people. She just objects to me calling this kid an ***hole.

Yes, most people would object. Stop that. It makes YOU the horrible person in the story, OP because as an adult, you should know better.

OP here. I truly am not being intentionally dense here, but: what is horrible about it?

It's not like I'm calling this kid an ***hole to her face. I've seen her do things I think are just egregious. A recent example was watching her loudly make fun of kids who need after-school tutoring for reading at a school even where those kids could definitely hear her. I said nothing. But in my head, I thought "wow, what an ***hole" because, well, what an ***hole. And I still don't get what is wrong with thinking that or even expressing it to a friend in confidence.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, it's okay to criticize the behavior of a kid who is not yours.

No, it's not okay to refer t a kid as an a-hole to other people.

Why?

Is it okay to refer to an adult as an a-hole to other people?

What is the age at which it is acceptable to refer to someone as an a-hole when they are, you know, being an a-hole?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s alarming how many people here will side with bullying a kid. However, it proves that insecurities like this child’s are hard to overcome! Be better, everyone!

No one is bullying a kid FFS. She was talking to another adult and the kid in question will never know about it.

You're fine with getting called an ***hole by other people if you never get to know about it?

Yeah, I don't think you are, hypocrite.

Why would I care? I would prefer that someone call me that to my face if I'm being an a**hole but I couldn't care less.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would guess that your friend is friendly with that mom?
There is a kid who is a bit obnoxious and his mom is standoff ish and I hear parents complaining about that kid constantly. But another kid who is even worse gets off with "spirited" because his mom is popular. People will say "Dave and Mary are the most amazing people. It's a shame their kids are so rude." As if the parents had nothing to do with it.

OP here and no, my friend doesn't have kids at this school and has never met these people. She just objects to me calling this kid an ***hole.

Yes, most people would object. Stop that. It makes YOU the horrible person in the story, OP because as an adult, you should know better.

OP here. I truly am not being intentionally dense here, but: what is horrible about it?

It's not like I'm calling this kid an ***hole to her face. I've seen her do things I think are just egregious. A recent example was watching her loudly make fun of kids who need after-school tutoring for reading at a school even where those kids could definitely hear her. I said nothing. But in my head, I thought "wow, what an ***hole" because, well, what an ***hole. And I still don't get what is wrong with thinking that or even expressing it to a friend in confidence.

You're fine. The audience here is just a lot of pearl-clutching hypocrites.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't worry about these people on their high horses. Some kids are little shits. If people told them to their faces they'd probably get better.

Do people really NOT tell kids like this that they are being little shits? I cannot imagine behaving like that in elementary school and not being clearly told by my parents, my older siblings, teachers, and other relatives, that I was being a little shit and needed to cut it out.