Going to orientation alone

[Anonymous]

Depends on the kid, perhaps, though I wouldn't have a problem with it if you can work out the hotel logistics.

Been to 3 orientations. Some of the programming for parents was helpful, but not really crucial.

Most don't have a ton of parent/child interaction. Look at the schedule of events for the particular college orientation.

[Anonymous]

The only concern I have would be if your child can check into the hotel given their age.

Some hotels do not allow that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, are you first gen? Parents go with the kids. Do not send them alone!

this. bet OP is FG or immigrant.

[Anonymous]

You kid will be okay, but how strange to miss this because of your…mom?? Surely they’d prefer you come along!

[Anonymous]

OP. As long as no issue checking into the hotel, then if kid is fine with it let him go.

Don’t let the Huey parents create any issues for you. He will be going away in the fall. If he can’t handle two days now, best to know before you start writing the big checks.

[Anonymous]

Why is your mom coming? If just a regular visit, change the date. If longer planned, have her come with you to the hotel. This is so odd. Your kid goes off to college once.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You kid will be okay, but how strange to miss this because of your…mom?? Surely they’d prefer you come along!

The fact that OP hasn’t shared details about her mom’s visit would suggest the mom may need special support. If it’s first generation immigrant, the mom could be visiting from overseas and doesn’t speak English. So someone has to be with her. It could also be that the mom has health or medical conditions that require someone to be with her. So let’s not guilt trip her.

Now if her mom is a fully capable/independent person and the two are spending time at a spa while son is alone at orientation, then that’s different.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Go with your kid.

I am all for them being an adult however this is a parent child thing. Again what is wrong with you?

Your mother is an adult for god's sake/
Why in the world did you plan this the same time? You knew about this and you made an alternate plan?

Why are you so triggered and judgmental? You don’t know all the circumstances about the mother’s visit or timing.

I went to my orientation by myself and was fine with it. If her son is okay with it, then she should be okay too.

My mom is visiting and cannot be left alone, this was scheduled before we got orientation dates.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is your mom coming? If just a regular visit, change the date. If longer planned, have her come with you to the hotel. This is so odd. Your kid goes off to college once.

We have visited the college twice and will be going for drop off in August. My dh will not be home and my mom is coming from overseas. She has health issues and does not speak English at all. Ds will be 18.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The only concern I have would be if your child can check into the hotel given their age.

Some hotels do not allow that.

Even at 18?

[Anonymous]

Please prioritize your child over your mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The only concern I have would be if your child can check into the hotel given their age.

Some hotels do not allow that.

Even at 18?

If 18, he just needs a credit card in his name. He can even pay cash but would need like $800 for a security deposit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The only concern I have would be if your child can check into the hotel given their age.

Some hotels do not allow that.

Even at 18?

If 18, he just needs a credit card in his name. He can even pay cash but would need like $800 for a security deposit.

Even if prepaid and my card on file?

[Anonymous]

Pay to change your mother's flight.

[Anonymous]

I thought going to orientation without parents was common. Are people thinking about August orientation as in moving in? Some colleges do it that way but at many schools it’s two separate events.