Anyone else experience regret after a vasectomy?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have to admit, as a woman, I'd view a man with a vasectomy as less of a man in some way.

Just something very unnatural about doing that.

Maga Momma right here.

Hope my R voting sister doesn't feel this way, considering her R voting husband was the one responsible for their infertility and the reason they needed (gasp!) IVF.

[Anonymous]

God no. Have you seen the world lately?

[Anonymous]

I don’t know. I had 3 easy pregnancies and 3 C sections. Doctor said I could have had more. DH got a vasectomy after 3rd was born (or few months later). Third kid is now 6 and I have never had anted another child. Perhaps I would have regretted it had I only had 2 kids, but 3 for me in enough (more than that sometimes).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have to admit, as a woman, I'd view a man with a vasectomy as less of a man in some way.

Just something very unnatural about doing that.

Maga Momma right here.

+1. What a weirdo

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have to admit, as a woman, I'd view a man with a vasectomy as less of a man in some way.

Just something very unnatural about doing that.

Do you always sound like a moron or just on DCUM?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have to admit, as a woman, I'd view a man with a vasectomy as less of a man in some way.

Just something very unnatural about doing that.

+1

[Anonymous]

It does not have to be over just because he had a vasectomy, OP.

You could have a fertility clinic do a TESA or an SST procedure on his testicles to still retrieve viable sperm. If you don’t want to carry another child to term, just hire a surrogate and use DH’ sperm.

[Anonymous]

Guy here who had vasectomy after a few kids. So glad I did. It's all upside.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have to admit, as a woman, I'd view a man with a vasectomy as less of a man in some way.

Just something very unnatural about doing that.

Well that’s interesting and you should explore it.

I took my ex husband for the procedure. He asked me bc we are family. We live in a city away from relatives Now he tells me about his sperm count . haha He also shares about his GFs. Really don’t care. I tolerate it.

He seemed to like the procedure. It was in and out that day at the facility.
Makes sense for divorced men and their exs. I am thrilled for MY kids.

[Anonymous]

[list]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have to admit, as a woman, I'd view a man with a vasectomy as less of a man in some way.

Just something very unnatural about doing that.

Do you always sound like a moron or just on DCUM?

No. You are the moron. The sperm and their free movement is want makes the male a male. Women can smell free mobile sperm through the man’s skin pores. Same with certain medications. It effects the pheromones and the female nose can tell

[Anonymous]

What happens to the sperm? Do they die in the ball sack? Do they have a lobby?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had a terrible birth experience with my first - I fact although I was conscious, I completely blacked out and have no memory of him being born and some of the traumatic things that occurred in the delivery room. I also got a postpartum infection and he wouldn’t latch - it was rough.

I went on to have two more children and they were each easier experiences. Your fertility isn’t gone at 35 and if you had one more child, it’s possible the second time could be easier.

That said, if one is best for your family, it’s okay to mourn the life you thought you’d had. Some dreams don’t work out. But you could go to therapy to explore if it’s anxiety preventing you from having another or just help you work through it

Her husband would have to undo his vasectomy.

[Anonymous]

No vasectomy, but I regularly feel sad we didn’t go for a third and it’s too late now. On some level I know it was the right choice but I still have regrets! I think it’s normal to feel how you are feeling. I just try to focus on all the good things about our family size and not linger on the ‘could have beens.’ You don’t actually know what that could have been would actually be - I have a sister whose last child has severe special needs that have upended their family - so theirs that. Regret and some mourning is normal though!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had a terrible birth experience with my first - I fact although I was conscious, I completely blacked out and have no memory of him being born and some of the traumatic things that occurred in the delivery room. I also got a postpartum infection and he wouldn’t latch - it was rough.

I went on to have two more children and they were each easier experiences. Your fertility isn’t gone at 35 and if you had one more child, it’s possible the second time could be easier.

That said, if one is best for your family, it’s okay to mourn the life you thought you’d had. Some dreams don’t work out. But you could go to therapy to explore if it’s anxiety preventing you from having another or just help you work through it

Her husband would have to undo his vasectomy.

Not true.

Just have a TESA / TESE or SST done on him. Then IVF.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have to admit, as a woman, I'd view a man with a vasectomy as less of a man in some way.

Just something very unnatural about doing that.

It’s way better to keep having kids, especially at advanced age with complications or leaving it up to woman to pump themselves full of hormones or have much more major surgery to tie their tubes.