Husband suddenly not interested in being a parent or spouse

[Anonymous]

Agree affair or depression!

Affair: working out more, shaving grooming, cologne, diets, new underwear / clothes etc.

Depression: not working out, sleeping too much, eating too much, not cleaning, not caring about anyone or anything.

[Anonymous]

Mean u doing chump lady 180, not whatever is going on with him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:12 years and three kids in and it’s like a flip switched.

Always a loving, devoted and present husband and father and within months he has done a 180.

He seems fed up with us all. I figured it was stress from new job. Cut him some slack and picked up more responsibilities around the house and with parenting.

He doesn’t want to be around us. He doesn’t parent. He sleeps in the basement.

Yes, I thought he may be having an affair. He denies. We started therapy. I gave him so many outs. If he wants a divorce and is that unhappy so be it but his disinterest in his kids is killing me and them.

How does a man go from being the picture perfect involved father to ignoring them at night when they ask for a bedtime story?

He may not actively be in an affair yet but he could have his eye on someone and is plotting the moves. Be vigilant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The extent to which men can betray their wives and children when they are interested in a new woman is astonishing. It’s deeply cruel
and gutting. You no longer recognize the person, and they are resolute in their decision to distance themselves from their family. We need to do a better job of warning women about this. I was shocked when it happened to me.

Same, spend $ on a lawyer, stat, OP. I hope you work.

[Anonymous]

Just to throw out there another cause of sudden personality change- brain tumor.
Ask him to get an physical checkup.

[Anonymous]

Lots of happy, successful couples sleep in separate rooms.

I sense you are not giving us the whole story, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How many people readily admit their affairs when asked?

🤣🤣 Right? I asked my ex straight up when his behavior changed. He denied. Then he said he was REALLY F$%ING DEPRESSED but then I found literal receipts and proof and he couldn't deny so he turned me into the villain and filed for divorce and I lived happily ever after!

[Anonymous]

This was my husband exactly when he started his affair.

[Anonymous]

What’s the new job?

[Anonymous]

affair, depression, porn addiction or a combo of any of these.

[Anonymous]

Give him a break. Maybe he overdid it and now has nothing left to give plus midlife crisis.
The kids should be older; time for some independence.
My ex overdid it, but it was his choice and he had similar upbringing. He expected it from me also, but I could never measure up according to him. We are from very different cultures. Mine is all about independence and his is all about family.
As he pushed me aside as useless, I just left. He fell apart soon after. I guess family wasn't enough. Balance would have been nice.
Something wrong with his brain was also one of our thoughts at the end. Coroner said nothing about it though.

[Anonymous]

I hate to say it, but he's probably cheating on you with a co-worker at his new job.

[Anonymous]

Lawyer up ..

[Anonymous]

Gone crazy from stress and remorse over new job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How many people readily admit their affairs when asked?

This. Just file for divorce.