Anyone enjoy youth sports but shocked at the politics?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I raised my kids to care about things that matter. They play sports for fun and exercise.

So did we. Our kid always out school first. Loved his sport. Straight A academic with 36 act who also happened to love his sport and train hours on his own without pushy parents. He’s playing in college. I drove him and that’s it. I didn’t push. Younger sin is as talented- also incredible student- but at 17 doesn’t train on his own. He does as much as he wants. Period

[Anonymous]

Full stop

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I raised my kids to care about things that matter. They play sports for fun and exercise.

Do tell, what do your kids care about?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your kid is just not that good

From a loser who has to suck up to the coach and be his buddy, huh??

I love that stupid excuse.

My kid was scouted professionally and trains off-season with a pro team while playing D1.

That idiotic response is typical of all the parents with suck bag kids there solely due to politics and @ss-kissing.

I never once emailed or contacted a coach, TD, HS official the entire time my kid was playing—even in the face of some pretty ridiculous stuff.

And this is the other side. Parents so heavily invested in winning at all costs they call children names and yell at refs.

Now this PP will say they never yelled at a ref or were the obnoxious parent on the sidelines or in the stands.

After your posts, no one believes you.

It was directed at the typical @sshole parent I have shared numerous sidelines with that always puts down other kids and loves to just say “the kid isn’t good” while the only reason there kid plays is because they are the manager in the coach’s ear 24/7 or the mom that constantly had to talk to the TD or HS coach.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I raised my kids to care about things that matter. They play sports for fun and exercise.

Do tell, what do your kids care about?

Academics of course. Duh

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I raised my kids to care about things that matter. They play sports for fun and exercise.

Do tell, what do your kids care about?

Academics of course. Duh

Which academics? Be specific please. Which academics “matter” and why?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your kid is just not that good

From a loser who has to suck up to the coach and be his buddy, huh??

I love that stupid excuse.

My kid was scouted professionally and trains off-season with a pro team while playing D1.

That idiotic response is typical of all the parents with suck bag kids there solely due to politics and @ss-kissing.

I never once emailed or contacted a coach, TD, HS official the entire time my kid was playing—even in the face of some pretty ridiculous stuff.

And this is the other side. Parents so heavily invested in winning at all costs they call children names and yell at refs.

Now this PP will say they never yelled at a ref or were the obnoxious parent on the sidelines or in the stands.

After your posts, no one believes you.

Of course I didn’t. I played in college too and my dad was a coach who taught us to shake the ref’s hand and thank him after every game and never to big the coach. He loved coaching except for most of the parents.

[Anonymous]

I am so over the youth soccer scene in this area. Pretty sure this is my child's last season and then we are gladly walking away. Will be looking at other activities and taking control of our schedule. I can't wait.

[Anonymous]

Take a youth team of, let’s say, 10 kids. It will pretty much always go something like this:

1 kid: clearly the most skilled kid on the team, very obvious
2 kids: clearly behind on skills, very obvious
7 kids: average, fine, not remarkable either way

“Politics” won’t matter much for the first 3 kids, but it will influence the experience of the remaining 7- sometimes heavily. Parent friendships/influence, kid friendships, other social factors etc etc.

I have never seen it go any other way. Literally ever. 3 kids. Some sports and teams it will only matter a little (pretty tolerable), other times it will matter a lot (can be hard to take).

All you can do is try to keep your kids playing in teams/sports where the politics are there (they always will be), but at a tolerable level. It is also important to ask yourself if it is bothering your child, or just bothering YOU. Often the kids are fine and having fun either way. Sometimes the kids do notice or feel a bit demoralized- in that case, likely time to move to a different team or organization.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your kid is just not that good

From a loser who has to suck up to the coach and be his buddy, huh??

I love that stupid excuse.

My kid was scouted professionally and trains off-season with a pro team while playing D1.

That idiotic response is typical of all the parents with suck bag kids there solely due to politics and @ss-kissing.

I never once emailed or contacted a coach, TD, HS official the entire time my kid was playing—even in the face of some pretty ridiculous stuff.

And this is the other side. Parents so heavily invested in winning at all costs they call children names and yell at refs.

Now this PP will say they never yelled at a ref or were the obnoxious parent on the sidelines or in the stands.

After your posts, no one believes you.

It was directed at the typical @sshole parent I have shared numerous sidelines with that always puts down other kids and loves to just say “the kid isn’t good” while the only reason there kid plays is because they are the manager in the coach’s ear 24/7 or the mom that constantly had to talk to the TD or HS coach.

“suck bag kids”

You showed who you are.

[Anonymous]

Our society is becoming like that Squid games tv show. Ridiculous, but people feel it’s all a zero sum game. Can’t really blame them when inequality is worse than during the guilded age and unelected oligarchs run the country.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your kid is just not that good

From a loser who has to suck up to the coach and be his buddy, huh??

I love that stupid excuse.

My kid was scouted professionally and trains off-season with a pro team while playing D1.

That idiotic response is typical of all the parents with suck bag kids there solely due to politics and @ss-kissing.

I never once emailed or contacted a coach, TD, HS official the entire time my kid was playing—even in the face of some pretty ridiculous stuff.

And this is the other side. Parents so heavily invested in winning at all costs they call children names and yell at refs.

Now this PP will say they never yelled at a ref or were the obnoxious parent on the sidelines or in the stands.

After your posts, no one believes you.

It was directed at the typical @sshole parent I have shared numerous sidelines with that always puts down other kids and loves to just say “the kid isn’t good” while the only reason there kid plays is because they are the manager in the coach’s ear 24/7 or the mom that constantly had to talk to the TD or HS coach.

“suck bag kids”

You showed who you are.

He’s a frustrated athlete just like his kid

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Take a youth team of, let’s say, 10 kids. It will pretty much always go something like this:

1 kid: clearly the most skilled kid on the team, very obvious
2 kids: clearly behind on skills, very obvious
7 kids: average, fine, not remarkable either way

“Politics” won’t matter much for the first 3 kids, but it will influence the experience of the remaining 7- sometimes heavily. Parent friendships/influence, kid friendships, other social factors etc etc.

I have never seen it go any other way. Literally ever. 3 kids. Some sports and teams it will only matter a little (pretty tolerable), other times it will matter a lot (can be hard to take).

All you can do is try to keep your kids playing in teams/sports where the politics are there (they always will be), but at a tolerable level. It is also important to ask yourself if it is bothering your child, or just bothering YOU. Often the kids are fine and having fun either way. Sometimes the kids do notice or feel a bit demoralized- in that case, likely time to move to a different team or organization.

You nailed it! I’ve seen this exact scenario play out so much. I’m not sure what the answer is. My kids are still young. I’ve found the age impact of the 7 kids in the middle too, like coach runs drills first week to see actual stats- best time on dash, longest throw, longest catch and then its head to head with another kid who is a full year older but same grade and older kid gets position due to maturity. Then older kid gets better in position and so on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your kid is just not that good

From a loser who has to suck up to the coach and be his buddy, huh??

I love that stupid excuse.

My kid was scouted professionally and trains off-season with a pro team while playing D1.

That idiotic response is typical of all the parents with suck bag kids there solely due to politics and @ss-kissing.

I never once emailed or contacted a coach, TD, HS official the entire time my kid was playing—even in the face of some pretty ridiculous stuff.

And this is the other side. Parents so heavily invested in winning at all costs they call children names and yell at refs.

Now this PP will say they never yelled at a ref or were the obnoxious parent on the sidelines or in the stands.

After your posts, no one believes you.

It was directed at the typical @sshole parent I have shared numerous sidelines with that always puts down other kids and loves to just say “the kid isn’t good” while the only reason there kid plays is because they are the manager in the coach’s ear 24/7 or the mom that constantly had to talk to the TD or HS coach.

“suck bag kids”

You showed who you are.

He’s a frustrated athlete just like his kid

And you can’t even see you are just as bad. You the problem.

[Anonymous]

You are the problem.