24 year old crush on 35 year old

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's fine. My aunt is 10 years younger than her husband, and it's been a very happy marriage. At 86, he's still very spry - she's the one who had to get a double stent operation.

My husband is 18 years older than me. I'm the one with the auto-immune diseases and blood clotting issues. He's a doctor and takes good care of me.

Im seeing all the responses and I guess its not a big deal! /OP

I mean at 26 my sis in law had a baby with a guy who was 52 (no, he didn't have money, no he wasn't a well preserved 52, yes he did have kids older than her), so.... could be just so much worse.

[Anonymous]

I don’t see the issue. First of all, it’s a crush, so it might not go anywhere. Second, even if it did, she’s an adult, not a teenager, and 35 is not exactly old.

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They’re probably both in their prime. Might be a perfect combo.

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When I was in my twenties I dated guys in their thirties and forties. IME they were pretty much only with me for my looks/youth and we ended up not sharing enough cultural touch points that something longer-term wasn’t interesting. No harm, but not a lot of potential. That said, my aunt is married to a man 10ish years older than she is and they’ve been together for decades, have kids and a good life. To each their own!

[Anonymous]

If a 24 year old wanted to get engaged to her 24 year old steady boyfriend, DCUM would've tripped even if both were well employed.

However, relationship with a decade+ older senior colleague seems acceptable to them. That's kind of surprising!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If a 24 year old wanted to get engaged to her 24 year old steady boyfriend, DCUM would've tripped even if both were well employed.

However, relationship with a decade+ older senior colleague seems acceptable to them. That's kind of surprising!

I got married at 25 (we were both employed, post grad school). I have no issue with the age difference here. Plus this is a crush, not a relationship! Are we policing thoughts now?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If a 24 year old wanted to get engaged to her 24 year old steady boyfriend, DCUM would've tripped even if both were well employed.

However, relationship with a decade+ older senior colleague seems acceptable to them. That's kind of surprising!

21/22, DCUM probably not approve. But 24 and well-employed would be on the edges of fine.

But it’s not a relationship, it’s just a crush! Harmless fun!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They’re probably both in their prime. Might be a perfect combo.

What do you mean by prime? My daughter lacks selfesteem /OP

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My 37 year old boss is marrying a 23 year old at a courthouse today. I can’t tell anyone. He called out (never does). It's killing me.
A 32 year old on our team is in love with him and will flip when she finds out. All of these ppl have a masters or PhD.
Sorry to hijack the thread but I've been dying and it seemed loosely relevant.

I have to know more about this 32 year old. Have they dated? Because of she flips out at work.... boy.

No but both of them highly prioritized work and I think she feels that this represents more than it does. I believe she has never has a boyfriend. This will manifest in her WFH for the near future in some kind of act of protest

[Anonymous]

I was 24 when I got engaged to a 35 year old. We've now been married 15 years and have five kids.

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A lot of young women have crushes on professors and bosses. Daddy issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They’re probably both in their prime. Might be a perfect combo.

What do you mean by prime? My daughter lacks selfesteem /OP

Stop dripping details and tell the whole story.

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It’s going to blow up the office culture. Someone is going to get fired, transferred, or quit. If it goes anywhere, half the office will disrespect the guy as a creep and disrespect OP DD as pathetic.

[Anonymous]

This is the age gap between my husband and me. I always dated older. Men closer to "my age" felt so unfinished, too poor and too much work.

[Anonymous]

I dated a 36 year old at her age. He wanted to get married, I didn’t. I definitely felt our age difference sometimes but it wasn’t a huge deal. Its not really so unusual.