24 year old crush on 35 year old

[Anonymous]

My 24 year old daughter has a crush on a 35 year old at her work.

Is this normal? She has had 1 boyfriend years ago but they were the same age.

She’s an adult but I’m worried why she is so open about this?
How would you fix this?

[Anonymous]

As long as he’s not married, what’s the problem?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As long as he’s not married, what’s the problem?

Different life stages makes it inappropriate right? /OP

[Anonymous]

Why is this a problem? Do you envision her to be a teenager and he is an adult? I mean, 35 year olds are still in an extended adolescence too in this generation- with exceptions of course, but it looks like adulting doesn't even start till 40s now.

But assuming they are both fairly mature- where is ths problem?

[Anonymous]

Not a problem at those ages OP. As long as she is more mature and he is less mature (which happens) it will probably work out.

She should just make sure he's not married or already living with someone. Otherwise, not a problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As long as he’s not married, what’s the problem?

Different life stages makes it inappropriate right? /OP

Not at all. They’re both adults. And at this point in time, it’s just a crush. There’s no “fixing” anything, certainly not as a mom.

[Anonymous]

My 37 year old boss is marrying a 23 year old at a courthouse today. I can’t tell anyone. He called out (never does). It's killing me.
A 32 year old on our team is in love with him and will flip when she finds out. All of these ppl have a masters or PhD.
Sorry to hijack the thread but I've been dying and it seemed loosely relevant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is this a problem? Do you envision her to be a teenager and he is an adult? I mean, 35 year olds are still in an extended adolescence too in this generation- with exceptions of course, but it looks like adulting doesn't even start till 40s now.

But assuming they are both fairly mature- where is ths problem?

I just have always thought an agegap of 1 decade is a bit too much /OP

[Anonymous]

I certainly wouldnt want my daughter being entwined with someone so much older than her. All you can do is warn her and hope you get through to her

[Anonymous]

If he's hot, he's hot. 35 is not ancient!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is this a problem? Do you envision her to be a teenager and he is an adult? I mean, 35 year olds are still in an extended adolescence too in this generation- with exceptions of course, but it looks like adulting doesn't even start till 40s now.

But assuming they are both fairly mature- where is ths problem?

I just have always thought an agegap of 1 decade is a bit too much /OP

It’s fine if that’s too much for you, but your adult daughter is apparently fine with it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 37 year old boss is marrying a 23 year old at a courthouse today. I can’t tell anyone. He called out (never does). It's killing me.
A 32 year old on our team is in love with him and will flip when she finds out. All of these ppl have a masters or PhD.
Sorry to hijack the thread but I've been dying and it seemed loosely relevant.

I have to know more about this 32 year old. Have they dated? Because of she flips out at work.... boy.

[Anonymous]

my dh and I have the same age difference, married 30 years

[Anonymous]

It's fine. My aunt is 10 years younger than her husband, and it's been a very happy marriage. At 86, he's still very spry - she's the one who had to get a double stent operation.

My husband is 18 years older than me. I'm the one with the auto-immune diseases and blood clotting issues. He's a doctor and takes good care of me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's fine. My aunt is 10 years younger than her husband, and it's been a very happy marriage. At 86, he's still very spry - she's the one who had to get a double stent operation.

My husband is 18 years older than me. I'm the one with the auto-immune diseases and blood clotting issues. He's a doctor and takes good care of me.

Im seeing all the responses and I guess its not a big deal! /OP