24 year old crush on 35 year old

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When I was 25, I started dating someone who was 38 (my parents were NOT thrilled.) We got married when I was 29 and he was 42. We have been together for 25y.

I will say it is more challenging now at 50/63 as he is looking towards retirement, and I have a way to go. I love DH, and I don't regret marrying him, but if I could do it again, I would choose someone within a decade or less of me.

Well yes…and of course you will really regret it if he declines physically at 68 when you are 55 (as an example) and you become his nurse.

Thats when people really regret the age gap.

I am the 50y in the above post. Yes...and yet my parents who were the exact same age...my father got Parkinsons at 57 and lived another 10y in a progressively debilitative state. My mother was his caretaker from 60-67. So, you never know.

[Anonymous]

IDK, it’s just a crush, may not go anywhere. Otherwise it’s not really your business now that she’s an adult.

One of my friends met her husband at 25 when he was 36. They are now 36 and 47 and happily married with a kid. My cousin’s wife is 10 years younger than him (38 and 48) happily married with 4 kids.

There’s so much extended adolescence with millennial/gen-Z men these days that they might be closer to the same maturity level than some guys her age.