PSA- Yes, you are a jerk if you don't invite your older parents to Christmas

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Even worse than the OPs are all the commenters who pretend that the 26th or 27th are just as good as the 24th or 25th (except when it comes to their side of the family, of course).

The people who care that much about the 24th or 25th are so uptight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The people who abused me? In every way? And have continued to try to ruin my life as an adult? No thanks.

Yes Larla time to out on your big girl pants and grow up!! Get over it! Their time is short and your kids are watching. You’ll be put out to pasture too!!! So sick of my entitled Gen X friends bragging about cutting off their elderly parents or other crap. Spoiled pigs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Even worse than the OPs are all the commenters who pretend that the 26th or 27th are just as good as the 24th or 25th (except when it comes to their side of the family, of course).

The people who care that much about the 24th or 25th are so uptight.

The date matters. We celebrate the birth of Jesus, the ultimate day in the history of mankind. It’s special and holy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The people who abused me? In every way? And have continued to try to ruin my life as an adult? No thanks.

Yes Larla time to out on your big girl pants and grow up!! Get over it! Their time is short and your kids are watching. You’ll be put out to pasture too!!! So sick of my entitled Gen X friends bragging about cutting off their elderly parents or other crap. Spoiled pigs.

NP. I'm guessing if you really are Gen X you'll be spending some holidays alone in your future.

I talk to my kids about why we aren't with grandma (only one left) on the holidays. I tell them if you are mean and a liar and take no accountability for treating people badly, you end up alone. I am not ready to talk to them about narcissism but in the future I will so they can hopefully avoid the fate of my poor father who was a nice man and married her and was miserable for decades.

You do you. Your kids are watching.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Even worse than the OPs are all the commenters who pretend that the 26th or 27th are just as good as the 24th or 25th (except when it comes to their side of the family, of course).

The people who care that much about the 24th or 25th are so uptight.

The date matters. We celebrate the birth of Jesus, the ultimate day in the history of mankind. It’s special and holy.

Well, Easter is the most important Christian holiday if you want to play that card.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Even worse than the OPs are all the commenters who pretend that the 26th or 27th are just as good as the 24th or 25th (except when it comes to their side of the family, of course).

The people who care that much about the 24th or 25th are so uptight.

The date matters. We celebrate the birth of Jesus, the ultimate day in the history of mankind. It’s special and holy.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/answer-sheet/wp/2014/12/24/why-is-christmas-on-dec-25-it-wasnt-always/

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Even worse than the OPs are all the commenters who pretend that the 26th or 27th are just as good as the 24th or 25th (except when it comes to their side of the family, of course).

The people who care that much about the 24th or 25th are so uptight.

The date matters. We celebrate the birth of Jesus, the ultimate day in the history of mankind. It’s special and holy.

Well, Easter is the most important Christian holiday if you want to play that card.

Actually, Pentecost is the birthday of the Church, so that’s pretty much the most important

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Even worse than the OPs are all the commenters who pretend that the 26th or 27th are just as good as the 24th or 25th (except when it comes to their side of the family, of course).

The people who care that much about the 24th or 25th are so uptight.

The date matters. We celebrate the birth of Jesus, the ultimate day in the history of mankind. It’s special and holy.

Well, Easter is the most important Christian holiday if you want to play that card.

Actually, Pentecost is the birthday of the Church, so that’s pretty much the most important

So, not Christmas Day?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Even worse than the OPs are all the commenters who pretend that the 26th or 27th are just as good as the 24th or 25th (except when it comes to their side of the family, of course).

The OP of one thread today specified she's seeing her parents on the 24th, and she doesn't want to see her in-laws on the 25th. Seems reasonable in this context to offer the 26th. I did not see a recent thread where OPs were truly unfair to their in-laws.

Case in point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There said it. It is a few hours, stop trying to justify being a jerk. We all hate our in-laws and even some of our families, but you model being a decent person once a year.

I would rather be a 'jerk' then. I'm not sorry that I want to spend time with people that actually care about me!

[Anonymous]

Hah! You wish.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Even worse than the OPs are all the commenters who pretend that the 26th or 27th are just as good as the 24th or 25th (except when it comes to their side of the family, of course).

The people who care that much about the 24th or 25th are so uptight.

The date matters. We celebrate the birth of Jesus, the ultimate day in the history of mankind. It’s special and holy.

i dont think jesus cares if you gluttonously eat turkey and open your consumeristic crap on the 24 or 25th. Considering its not even his bday.

[Anonymous]

To what part of Christmas? Christmas dinner? Christmas morning? A whole weekend? A week!

My husband and I both grew up only going on vacation with our parents and having Christmas morning with just our parents. For some reason our parents want to come on vacation, be there on Christmas morning, or pretend “Santa came to our house too!”.

My kids love their grandparents and spend plenty of time with them. We see them or FaceTime both sets 1-2x a week. There is a balance though where we also want some trips and some holidays to create memories as a nuclear family.

FTR - We spend Christmas Eve and dinner on Christmas Day with one set of grandparents and drive to visit the other set 12/27-30 every year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To what part of Christmas? Christmas dinner? Christmas morning? A whole weekend? A week!

My husband and I both grew up only going on vacation with our parents and having Christmas morning with just our parents. For some reason our parents want to come on vacation, be there on Christmas morning, or pretend “Santa came to our house too!”.

My kids love their grandparents and spend plenty of time with them. We see them or FaceTime both sets 1-2x a week. There is a balance though where we also want some trips and some holidays to create memories as a nuclear family.

FTR - We spend Christmas Eve and dinner on Christmas Day with one set of grandparents and drive to visit the other set 12/27-30 every year.

And for the haters who don’t think 12/27-30 is “good enough”, that window includes my MIL’s BD and to her, that is the most important day of the season!

[Anonymous]

Nope. Enough entitlement.