Husband said he wants a divorce and has been locked up in the guest room

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If he does this every time you have an argument then I'm not really sure why you're asking. You know if this blows over or not (which I guess it does if it keeps happening). It's your decision if you keep wanting to live like this.

If he does this every time they have an argument, I too am not really sure why OP is asking--because of course she should consult an attorney and divorce this jackass.

[Anonymous]

He needs anger management course. I’d get attorney. Is he having an affair?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:On Sunday he yelled at me saying "this isn't working" and has since been hiding out in the guest room. He locks the door and when he is in the kitchen he ignores me and avoids eye contact. He also walks around with a scowl on his face.

I am getting worried. Should I consult an attorney?

Lay low. Even if he is acting immature.

Consult 2-3 attorneys (options, likely custody terms, child support terms, costs, timing, housing, family budget, mediation options).

Keep a (digital?) log book of everything odd he says or does

Round up 5 years of bank, investment, tax yearend statements and compensation.

Know your options given the above. Wait for him to file or if he acts up more, you file if at peace with the above.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You know your DH. Is he the type to get moody/angry enough to pull something like this and odds are he doesn't mean it and your relationship is otherwise ok?

I mean, if my DH did this, I'd already have an appt with an aggressive family law attorney set up.

OP here. He does this whenever we are in a big argument.

Ok, well. You should have said that up front.

Given this info I say choose-your-own-adventure: 1) make an appointment with a couples therapist, 2) make an appointment with a therapist for yourself) or 3) see an attorney about getting a divorce.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He obviously has a new woman.

Snoop around his schedule, emails, phone records, car mileage, cash withdrawals, is he diverting portions of paychecks to another acct?, travels, credit card bills too for any funny business and odd patterns.

[Anonymous]

Tell him Bye Felicia and walk out.

[Anonymous]

If no kids involve, file for divorce and stop his petulant divorce threats game.

[Anonymous]

You should say “ok, great. Should we get a mediator to work through how to split things up?”

[Anonymous]

Exactly.

“great advice, let’s get going on that. I’ll backdate the 6-12 month separation and let’s split the $hit 50/50 and get on with our lives, separately.”

[Anonymous]

You all are so lucky that you can expect child support when you consider divorce. I’d have to pay my awful husband so much money if I were to get divorced. I know, it’s sad when a dream gets shattered, but at least they’ll pay you money and it’s not all on you.

[Anonymous]

I'm surprised by all the strong responses. My wife directly or indirectly tells me this all the time -- I guess the next step is clearer than I think.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d leave and stay at a friends for a week.

I’d consult a lawyer.

Before I left the house, I would definitely consult an attorney because you don't wanna be seen as abandoning the marriage. I don't know. Consult an attorney.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes of course. Why is this a question?

Yeah, you must be in some kind of serious denial.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:On Sunday he yelled at me saying "this isn't working" and has since been hiding out in the guest room. He locks the door and when he is in the kitchen he ignores me and avoids eye contact. He also walks around with a scowl on his face.

I am getting worried. Should I consult an attorney?

Ask him to sit down for coffee so you two can discuss state of this marriage and how to fix , suspend or end it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You know your DH. Is he the type to get moody/angry enough to pull something like this and odds are he doesn't mean it and your relationship is otherwise ok?

I mean, if my DH did this, I'd already have an appt with an aggressive family law attorney set up.

OP here. He does this whenever we are in a big argument.

There. You've your answer. You two need therapy, not divorce.