Mom's who use the b-day invite as a weapon...

[Anonymous]

I think this just happens as the kids get older among neighborhood friends. It happened when I was younger. I think by age 9 or 10, I still played with the neighbors but I was old enough to start realizing that some kids were "friends' and some kids were simply convenient to play with.

[Anonymous]

"Eventually jerks do get their comeuppance."

Jerks keep on breeding and raising more jerks. Where do you think the Mean Girls come from?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yep, that was me. I invited all the girls in the class and the neighborhood to DD's pink-themed birthday party. All the moms of boys probably hate me now. OR they are happy they didn't have to buy another girl present and didn't have to cart their kid to another stupid birthday party on that Saturday. Somehow I doubt the moms' hearts are broken. My daughter has been excluded from birthday parties before in the neighborhood and she realizes its not that big a deal - its not like she can't play with them another day.

OP - grow up and put on your big girl panties. High school is over.

OK. Well, here's the sort I'm dealing with. Oh well, your attitude is really a bummer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think this just happens as the kids get older among neighborhood friends. It happened when I was younger. I think by age 9 or 10, I still played with the neighbors but I was old enough to start realizing that some kids were "friends' and some kids were simply convenient to play with.

Wow. "convenient to play with". I just think this attitude belies a hideous insensitivity. Don't think that the kids that you REGULARLY use for convenience are not hurt by this. Because they are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Eventually jerks do get their comeuppance."

Jerks keep on breeding and raising more jerks. Where do you think the Mean Girls come from?

Sadly this is true. But maybe some of them will read about here and reconsider. I think some of them are just clueless, insecure "strivers" who only care about the immediate status of showing off, but never give any thought that they might be hurting a person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yep, that was me. I invited all the girls in the class and the neighborhood to DD's pink-themed birthday party. All the moms of boys probably hate me now. OR they are happy they didn't have to buy another girl present and didn't have to cart their kid to another stupid birthday party on that Saturday. Somehow I doubt the moms' hearts are broken. My daughter has been excluded from birthday parties before in the neighborhood and she realizes its not that big a deal - its not like she can't play with them another day.

OP - grow up and put on your big girl panties. High school is over.

Wanted to add, I hope my daughter doesn't mistakenly think your daughter was ever a friend--if she did, wow, aren't you an awesome human being to have ripped that little fantasy away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yep, that was me. I invited all the girls in the class and the neighborhood to DD's pink-themed birthday party. All the moms of boys probably hate me now. OR they are happy they didn't have to buy another girl present and didn't have to cart their kid to another stupid birthday party on that Saturday. Somehow I doubt the moms' hearts are broken. My daughter has been excluded from birthday parties before in the neighborhood and she realizes its not that big a deal - its not like she can't play with them another day.

OP - grow up and put on your big girl panties. High school is over.

I have to agree with this one. Seriously, grow up. Your heart was broken?

[Anonymous]

One of my children (who is really awkward socially) was excluded from a birthday party--8 out of 10 kids in the class were invited and the party was discussed at school amongst the kids (a 4 year old preschool class). The month before this 'exclusive' party had been her birthday party, and she didn't understand why everyone was invited to her party (and attended) and she wasn't invited to their party. She talked about it for 6 months. This was about 6 years ago and I still cringe when I think about the look on her face when she talked about this party.

[Anonymous]

OP, if your kids are sooo upset about this issue, it's probably because they are following your lead...maybe instead you need to teach them that you don't always get everything that you want and that that's ok.

You also have no clue why someone didn't invite your kid--maybe when you're not around your kid is actually the "mean girl." Maybe some people really can't afford it despite you thinking you know everyone's financial business.

I think this is a good opportunity for you and your girls to learn to "rise above" this petty shit and get some self confidence...if you're losing it this much over a birthday party, you and your girls are going to spend many a night in complete anguish once they are in high school.

[Anonymous]

I know it's hard to see your kids feelings get hurt, but honestly, wouldn't you rather they learn this lesson now than when they are in the work force? It's a bummer not to be invited to a party, but that's all it is...a bummer. It's not the end of the world and it's a great opportunity to learn a number of lessons...accepting "rejection" gracefully, who your real friends are, how NOT to be etc. This is really a pretty normal part of childhood. We've all been the kid who didn't get the invite and we've all been the kid who was bragging about something...and we all survived.

[Anonymous]

Newsflash, your kids will be excluded from things and have their feelings hurt for the rest of their life. This is just a part of life! Everyone has the right to select who they wish to spend time with outside of their necessary functions (work, school, etc.).

You’re making too much of this. I’m sorry there are hurt feelings, but it’s just the way it goes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know it's hard to see your kids feelings get hurt, but honestly, wouldn't you rather they learn this lesson now than when they are in the work force? It's a bummer not to be invited to a party, but that's all it is...a bummer. It's not the end of the world and it's a great opportunity to learn a number of lessons...accepting "rejection" gracefully, who your real friends are, how NOT to be etc. This is really a pretty normal part of childhood. We've all been the kid who didn't get the invite and we've all been the kid who was bragging about something...and we all survived.

I agree with this.

[aprilmayjune]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yep, that was me. I invited all the girls in the class and the neighborhood to DD's pink-themed birthday party. All the moms of boys probably hate me now. OR they are happy they didn't have to buy another girl present and didn't have to cart their kid to another stupid birthday party on that Saturday. Somehow I doubt the moms' hearts are broken. My daughter has been excluded from birthday parties before in the neighborhood and she realizes its not that big a deal - its not like she can't play with them another day.

OP - grow up and put on your big girl panties. High school is over.

OK. Well, here's the sort I'm dealing with. Oh well, your attitude is really a bummer.

I see nothing wrong with the way this PP does things... She had a girly party.. invites all of the girls... I HIGHLY doubt that all of the boys in her class are really all that broken hearted that they weren't invited to a pink princessy party..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One of my children (who is really awkward socially) was excluded from a birthday party--8 out of 10 kids in the class were invited and the party was discussed at school amongst the kids (a 4 year old preschool class). The month before this 'exclusive' party had been her birthday party, and she didn't understand why everyone was invited to her party (and attended) and she wasn't invited to their party. She talked about it for 6 months. This was about 6 years ago and I still cringe when I think about the look on her face when she talked about this party.

aww that makes me so sad. My high functioning autistic 5 year old was invited a to a birthday party a total of 1 time. I am just happy that his teacher discourages parents from distributing invitations in the class unless all are invited.

While it may be true that rejection is a part of life, it does sting when it happens to such young kids and they are actually aware of it. My son is not very good at reading social cues (naturally, given his disability) so he doesn't really understand (yet) that he has been rejected, which I am relieved about right now, but I am sure he does realize that kids don't come up to him and want to play with him.

[Anonymous]

How is not giving a birthday invite like a weapon?