Losing weight and ditching friendship?
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Anonymous
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I think you people are nuts. I lost 50lbs on Ozempic and I have all the same friends. Unless you’re 25 and trying to get into clubs or something, I don’t think people care what size their friends are within the bounds of normal physical abilities.
I will say that I would rather not talk about my weight at all and people really will bring it. But it’s not that hard to deflect and move on. |
Anonymous
| Shes just rude Move on |
Anonymous
+1. Had a friend lose weight and ditch me. Almost identical fact pattern. When I asked her about it, she said we did too much together, I was competition and she didn’t like it. |
Anonymous
More like the other way around. She was trimming the fat. You were getting in the way of her enjoying her life. |
Anonymous
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Now that she is thin and people are finally acknowledging her existence, she no longer needs someone who was relying on her as their “always available fall back friend”
Yes we fat women know you think of us this way. |
Anonymous
| How many threads on this are you going to start OP? It’s weird. |
Anonymous
| It's not all about you OP. People change. |
Anonymous
| I don't believe all these threads are from different people. It seems like ONE person got dumped by their formerly fat friend and are making tens of threads about it. Get over it. |
Anonymous
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You will never know the real reason. I dumped a friend a few years ago and she thought it was out of the blue, but it wasn't. She had made very hurtful comments to me months before I ghosted her. I didn't call her out on the comments at the time because I knew she would make a big deal out of it and tell our friends, thereby amplifying a sensitive topic that I wanted to keep under wraps. So months later, when we got in a minor argument, I just ghosted her. She complained to friends she has no idea why I did that, and it's true.
So you might have been doing something that bothered her in the past and now she decided she's done with you, likely because something changed. It could be her weight or something else entirely different. My advice (I think you posted about this repeatedly and I know what it's like to struggle moving on from something): Every time you think about her, shift your thoughts immediately to yourself, and how your behaviors and mental energy can better serve your to further your own values/goals. |
Anonymous
| This is op. I only made one thread |
Anonymous
That’s kind of hurtful bc I did not view her as my fall back friend at all. She could often ask to come over |
Anonymous
More like she thinks she’s too good for you know and can’t remember actual friends vs those who tell her how amazing she looks |
Anonymous
where are the multiple threads? In this forum? |
Anonymous
| She is hot now, but maybe she still sees you as hotter and that ruins the vibe? How old are you all? |
Anonymous
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I lost a lot of weight over the last four years. And I probably had some friends drift away in the process although I'm not sure I could point to any? It kind of happened at the same time as COVID so chicken and an egg situation.
But if it ever was related to the weight loss I would attribute it to the fact that I basically changed my entire life. I don't really drink any more, I don't eat takeout very much, I use a lot of my free time to exercise. And when you change all your habits like that, people can just kind of fall out of your orbit, who knows what exactly it was. Are you the person she would grab starbucks with? Maybe she cut out the starbucks that kind of thing (not saying this is it just something like this). Anyway, I guess I'd feel bad if a friend who I had fallen away from felt this way but for better or worse I am healthier and happier than I have been in my whole life and these changes were for the better, I hope all the friends that have come in and out of my life also find health and happiness and I'd hope they wished the same for me. |