Losing weight and ditching friendship?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Now that she is thin and people are finally acknowledging her existence, she no longer needs someone who was relying on her as their “always available fall back friend”

Yes we fat women know you think of us this way.

This is definitely a thing. Not saying it is in this situation but it’s a thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't believe all these threads are from different people. It seems like ONE person got dumped by their formerly fat friend and are making tens of threads about it. Get over it.

where are the multiple threads? In this forum?

Yes, try a quick search and you'll find many.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Now that she is thin and people are finally acknowledging her existence, she no longer needs someone who was relying on her as their “always available fall back friend”

Yes we fat women know you think of us this way.

That’s kind of hurtful bc I did not view her as my fall back friend at all. She could often ask to come over

What does this mean? Did you never invite her over? She had to ask?

[Anonymous]

no big loss. People who drone on and on and naval gaze on social media about their accomplishments at Burn Bootcamp thirsty for validation are beyond annoying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:no big loss. People who drone on and on and naval gaze on social media about their accomplishments at Burn Bootcamp thirsty for validation are beyond annoying.

I am happy for my friends when they feel good about themselves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:no big loss. People who drone on and on and naval gaze on social media about their accomplishments at Burn Bootcamp thirsty for validation are beyond annoying.

She’s becoming shallow. Don’t sweat it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I lost a lot of weight over the last four years. And I probably had some friends drift away in the process although I'm not sure I could point to any? It kind of happened at the same time as COVID so chicken and an egg situation.

But if it ever was related to the weight loss I would attribute it to the fact that I basically changed my entire life. I don't really drink any more, I don't eat takeout very much, I use a lot of my free time to exercise. And when you change all your habits like that, people can just kind of fall out of your orbit, who knows what exactly it was. Are you the person she would grab starbucks with? Maybe she cut out the starbucks that kind of thing (not saying this is it just something like this).

Anyway, I guess I'd feel bad if a friend who I had fallen away from felt this way but for better or worse I am healthier and happier than I have been in my whole life and these changes were for the better, I hope all the friends that have come in and out of my life also find health and happiness and I'd hope they wished the same for me.

Op says that she is a healthy eater

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Now that she is thin and people are finally acknowledging her existence, she no longer needs someone who was relying on her as their “always available fall back friend”

Yes we fat women know you think of us this way.

That’s kind of hurtful bc I did not view her as my fall back friend at all. She could often ask to come over

What does this mean? Did you never invite her over? She had to ask?

Type o. She could always ask to come over. Ofc I invited her as well. In fact we always hung out at my place or other places like cafes. She never invited me to her place. Always saying it was a
Was a mess

[Anonymous]

If I were ops friend, I’d hope someone tells me to be careful. Lots of new exciting and superficial attention. Easy to get manipulated and used if you are not used to it. Ditching friends who care is not a smart move

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If I were ops friend, I’d hope someone tells me to be careful. Lots of new exciting and superficial attention. Easy to get manipulated and used if you are not used to it. Ditching friends who care is not a smart move

Op seems to be less caring and more hating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:no big loss. People who drone on and on and naval gaze on social media about their accomplishments at Burn Bootcamp thirsty for validation are beyond annoying.

This. These people are so annoying. So bizarre that a middle aged person feels the need to do this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I lost a lot of weight over the last four years. And I probably had some friends drift away in the process although I'm not sure I could point to any? It kind of happened at the same time as COVID so chicken and an egg situation.

But if it ever was related to the weight loss I would attribute it to the fact that I basically changed my entire life. I don't really drink any more, I don't eat takeout very much, I use a lot of my free time to exercise. And when you change all your habits like that, people can just kind of fall out of your orbit, who knows what exactly it was. Are you the person she would grab starbucks with? Maybe she cut out the starbucks that kind of thing (not saying this is it just something like this).

Anyway, I guess I'd feel bad if a friend who I had fallen away from felt this way but for better or worse I am healthier and happier than I have been in my whole life and these changes were for the better, I hope all the friends that have come in and out of my life also find health and happiness and I'd hope they wished the same for me.

Op says that she is a healthy eater

OP can be a healthy eater and still be associated with some negative activity for OP. IE, in the starbucks example, maybe the friend always got a very low calorie option at starbucks but OP was ordering frappuccino's. The friend's behavior is pretty irrelevant, OP just needed to stop going to starbucks (or whatever)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I lost a lot of weight over the last four years. And I probably had some friends drift away in the process although I'm not sure I could point to any? It kind of happened at the same time as COVID so chicken and an egg situation.

But if it ever was related to the weight loss I would attribute it to the fact that I basically changed my entire life. I don't really drink any more, I don't eat takeout very much, I use a lot of my free time to exercise. And when you change all your habits like that, people can just kind of fall out of your orbit, who knows what exactly it was. Are you the person she would grab starbucks with? Maybe she cut out the starbucks that kind of thing (not saying this is it just something like this).

Anyway, I guess I'd feel bad if a friend who I had fallen away from felt this way but for better or worse I am healthier and happier than I have been in my whole life and these changes were for the better, I hope all the friends that have come in and out of my life also find health and happiness and I'd hope they wished the same for me.

Op says that she is a healthy eater

OP can be a healthy eater and still be associated with some negative activity for OP. IE, in the starbucks example, maybe the friend always got a very low calorie option at starbucks but OP was ordering frappuccino's. The friend's behavior is pretty irrelevant, OP just needed to stop going to starbucks (or whatever)

The world is not going to stop bc someone can’t go to Starbucks. Geez.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:no big loss. People who drone on and on and naval gaze on social media about their accomplishments at Burn Bootcamp thirsty for validation are beyond annoying.

This. These people are so annoying. So bizarre that a middle aged person feels the need to do this.

Solid gen xer here. I ferr re l like half of my friends have turned into pseudo fitness/health influencers. It’s incredibly irritating. I say that as someone e who was forced to be super healthy in my 29s after a cancer scare. I did t make it my whole persona. It’s like everyone is having a mid life crisis or something

[Anonymous]

She secretly envied you all along and couldn’t see you were just being a friend. Despite her successes she is still envious of you. You remind her of your “ugly place”