So frustrated husband refuses to go in cub scouts trip and I’m pregnant

[Anonymous]

^ mom of 2. Happily married, btw

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is it a camping trip? I would refuse to do that too. I abhor camping.

No. We are sleeping in cabins. When I planned on going I was feeling fine but the past few days I have had bad hip pain. Dh gave no reason for refusing to go. He’s just like no don’t want to do that. Sometimes you do stuff you aren’t excited about because your kids or wife will enjoy it. I was counting on more help especially since physically it’s harder for me to lift, walk etc. This morning we were supposed to hike to the fishing pond but a few people told me to drive because it’s not safe. The distance from the parking lot is pretty far so it would be helpful to have a hand.

[Anonymous]

OP is apparently heavily pregnant so I don't see the point in all "why are you having a kid with him" tut tutting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is it a camping trip? I would refuse to do that too. I abhor camping.

No. We are sleeping in cabins. When I planned on going I was feeling fine but the past few days I have had bad hip pain. Dh gave no reason for refusing to go. He’s just like no don’t want to do that. Sometimes you do stuff you aren’t excited about because your kids or wife will enjoy it. I was counting on more help especially since physically it’s harder for me to lift, walk etc. This morning we were supposed to hike to the fishing pond but a few people told me to drive because it’s not safe. The distance from the parking lot is pretty far so it would be helpful to have a hand.

Call DH and tell him to pick you up and take you to the doctor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP is apparently heavily pregnant so I don't see the point in all "why are you having a kid with him" tut tutting.

Seems like she’s caused her own problems. That’s what we are saying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Accept, ahead of time, what parents are willing to do -- and only sign-up for activities that match. I wouldn't do this. If it *required* parent participation for camping, I wouldn't be signing my kid up for cub scouts. Same w/crazy travel team schedules or some crazy swim schedule.

I think your husband is awful, but I agree with this take. Kid activities have completely taken over. It's a little absurd.

[Anonymous]

Why haven't you divorced him already?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is it a camping trip? I would refuse to do that too. I abhor camping.

No. We are sleeping in cabins. When I planned on going I was feeling fine but the past few days I have had bad hip pain. Dh gave no reason for refusing to go. He’s just like no don’t want to do that. Sometimes you do stuff you aren’t excited about because your kids or wife will enjoy it. I was counting on more help especially since physically it’s harder for me to lift, walk etc. This morning we were supposed to hike to the fishing pond but a few people told me to drive because it’s not safe. The distance from the parking lot is pretty far so it would be helpful to have a hand.

If I were you, I would just go home.

[Anonymous]

Your DH is entitled to a preference.
Would your kid *not* have been able to go without a parent?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Accept, ahead of time, what parents are willing to do -- and only sign-up for activities that match. I wouldn't do this. If it *required* parent participation for camping, I wouldn't be signing my kid up for cub scouts. Same w/crazy travel team schedules or some crazy swim schedule.

I think your husband is awful, but I agree with this take. Kid activities have completely taken over. It's a little absurd.

Op here. It’s one weekend. They aren’t in travel sports. My dh thinks doing any activities besides putting them in ymca childcare is too much. He wants to nap for several hours both Saturday and Sunday. I’m so fed up with him and would like to check in a hotel tonight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your DH is entitled to a preference.
Would your kid *not* have been able to go without a parent?

Yes he can’t attend without his parents. His preference is frankly selfish. Seriously don’t think this guy is even a man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP is apparently heavily pregnant so I don't see the point in all "why are you having a kid with him" tut tutting.

She says "kids" so this is at least her third that she is pregnant with. I know guys like her DH. She has set herself and her kids up for this situation. She should have stopped at one.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like you should have skipped this trip and the second child. Guys like your DH are always selfish from the beginning.

I can't imagine even wanting to have sex with someone who was this terrible of a parent and partner. Let alone want to have another kid with them.

+1

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Is it a camping trip? I would refuse to do that too. I abhor camping.

So you'd either make your kid miss it or make someone who physically would find it more challenging than you do it? You couldn't just suck it up for a weekend?

Well, I'd never sign my kid up for cub scouts. I don't mean this to be hurtful, but you're having a baby with this guy - presumably you knew how lazy he was about parenting before you got pregnant, right? And you knew how lazy he was before you signed your kid up for cub scouts, right? Is it possible you're angry at yourself but don't want to take responsibility for having kids with a crappy person so you're transferring the anger to him?

[Anonymous]

OP is halfway, so only 20 weeks pregnant. She knew DH didn’t want to go. She should have not gone and had kid not go.

There is nothing unsafe about walking pregnant. This is ridiculous.