So frustrated husband refuses to go in cub scouts trip and I’m pregnant

[Anonymous]

I’m halfway through and let’s just say it’s not fun. It’s hard to walk or carry a bunch of heavy stuff. He has nothing to do but refuses to go on the trip. It feels incredibly selfish to me.

[Anonymous]

We need more information. Is a parent required?

[Anonymous]

It feels that way because it is selfish. Sorry OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We need more information. Is a parent required?

Yes he’s only 8. DHs won’t do anything he doesn’t want to. Doesn’t want to drive the kids to soccer? Sounds good to him so better never to sign up the kids for anything. If he won’t enjoy it he won’t do it. Wants to go to the gym so he can work out? That’s fine and they can go to childcare. Ymca childcare is the only thing he will do and he makes a big deal about it. He thinks he’s the most amazing dad ever because he takes them to the y once a week for 2 hours so they can go to babysitting. Apparently the 5 min trip in the car with them is brutal according to him and he’s sacrificing a lot. I’m on the trip now and really feeling mad at him. I have to push some heavy cart with our stuff and I’m other men are needing to help. What kind of man sends a pregnant wife and young kid to go on a trip alone? We aren’t staying in a hotel.

[Anonymous]

Is it a camping trip? I would refuse to do that too. I abhor camping.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We need more information. Is a parent required?

Yes he’s only 8. DHs won’t do anything he doesn’t want to. Doesn’t want to drive the kids to soccer? Sounds good to him so better never to sign up the kids for anything. If he won’t enjoy it he won’t do it. Wants to go to the gym so he can work out? That’s fine and they can go to childcare. Ymca childcare is the only thing he will do and he makes a big deal about it. He thinks he’s the most amazing dad ever because he takes them to the y once a week for 2 hours so they can go to babysitting. Apparently the 5 min trip in the car with them is brutal according to him and he’s sacrificing a lot. I’m on the trip now and really feeling mad at him. I have to push some heavy cart with our stuff and I’m other men are needing to help. What kind of man sends a pregnant wife and young kid to go on a trip alone? We aren’t staying in a hotel.

Cmon you can’t be serious. Why are you having a second child with this man?

[Anonymous]

If the whole trip, for the whole troup, would collapse because 1 Dad can't go, that's an organization problem - there's not enough interest/support for this trip.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is it a camping trip? I would refuse to do that too. I abhor camping.

So you'd either make your kid miss it or make someone who physically would find it more challenging than you do it? You couldn't just suck it up for a weekend?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We need more information. Is a parent required?

Yes he’s only 8. DHs won’t do anything he doesn’t want to. Doesn’t want to drive the kids to soccer? Sounds good to him so better never to sign up the kids for anything. If he won’t enjoy it he won’t do it. Wants to go to the gym so he can work out? That’s fine and they can go to childcare. Ymca childcare is the only thing he will do and he makes a big deal about it. He thinks he’s the most amazing dad ever because he takes them to the y once a week for 2 hours so they can go to babysitting. Apparently the 5 min trip in the car with them is brutal according to him and he’s sacrificing a lot. I’m on the trip now and really feeling mad at him. I have to push some heavy cart with our stuff and I’m other men are needing to help. What kind of man sends a pregnant wife and young kid to go on a trip alone? We aren’t staying in a hotel.

I'm sorry OP, that sounds awful. Do you have a friend there who can watch your kid and you tell the person in charge you're not feeling well? That's crazy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We need more information. Is a parent required?

Yes he’s only 8. DHs won’t do anything he doesn’t want to. Doesn’t want to drive the kids to soccer? Sounds good to him so better never to sign up the kids for anything. If he won’t enjoy it he won’t do it. Wants to go to the gym so he can work out? That’s fine and they can go to childcare. Ymca childcare is the only thing he will do and he makes a big deal about it. He thinks he’s the most amazing dad ever because he takes them to the y once a week for 2 hours so they can go to babysitting. Apparently the 5 min trip in the car with them is brutal according to him and he’s sacrificing a lot. I’m on the trip now and really feeling mad at him. I have to push some heavy cart with our stuff and I’m other men are needing to help. What kind of man sends a pregnant wife and young kid to go on a trip alone? We aren’t staying in a hotel.

Cmon you can’t be serious. Why are you having a second child with this man?

This was the first thing that I thought, too. Did you think a second kid would change things?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We need more information. Is a parent required?

Yes he’s only 8. DHs won’t do anything he doesn’t want to. Doesn’t want to drive the kids to soccer? Sounds good to him so better never to sign up the kids for anything. If he won’t enjoy it he won’t do it. Wants to go to the gym so he can work out? That’s fine and they can go to childcare. Ymca childcare is the only thing he will do and he makes a big deal about it. He thinks he’s the most amazing dad ever because he takes them to the y once a week for 2 hours so they can go to babysitting. Apparently the 5 min trip in the car with them is brutal according to him and he’s sacrificing a lot. I’m on the trip now and really feeling mad at him. I have to push some heavy cart with our stuff and I’m other men are needing to help. What kind of man sends a pregnant wife and young kid to go on a trip alone? We aren’t staying in a hotel.

So why did you choose to have another kid with him? I mean you can whine and complain but you're putting yourselves in these situations.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you should have skipped this trip and the second child. Guys like your DH are always selfish from the beginning.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If the whole trip, for the whole troup, would collapse because 1 Dad can't go, that's an organization problem - there's not enough interest/support for this trip.

I have kids in cub scouts and at this age it is heavily parent-involved. Kids are required to have a guardian with them. There is no one else assigned to chaperone your kid.

I’m sorry OP, your DH sucks. Mine takes the kids camping and on other adventures while I get downtime. He’d be embarrassed to send me out pregnant to set up a tent. Why are you having another kid with him? Honestly though I would have just told your kid you can’t make the camping trip this year instead of try to do it while pregnant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like you should have skipped this trip and the second child. Guys like your DH are always selfish from the beginning.

I can't imagine even wanting to have sex with someone who was this terrible of a parent and partner. Let alone want to have another kid with them.

[Anonymous]

Accept, ahead of time, what parents are willing to do -- and only sign-up for activities that match. I wouldn't do this. If it *required* parent participation for camping, I wouldn't be signing my kid up for cub scouts. Same w/crazy travel team schedules or some crazy swim schedule.